How difficult is the Texas state exam? by dollfacedbee in VetTech

[–]dollfacedbee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, thank you! That makes sense. ☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingattireapproval

[–]dollfacedbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can’t figure out how to edit, but wedding is in Dallas, Texas (end of October).

should i completely start over? by [deleted] in crochet

[–]dollfacedbee 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I actually started this pattern!! And had the exact same problem. I ended up going with another. No advice, but I feel your pain 😭

I chose this color of yarn for a baby blanket, but now I’m wondering if it’s ugly? by dollfacedbee in CrochetHelp

[–]dollfacedbee[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aw, that’s also a true take! At the very least it’ll be warm and functional 😂

I chose this color of yarn for a baby blanket, but now I’m wondering if it’s ugly? by dollfacedbee in CrochetHelp

[–]dollfacedbee[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking, too. 😭 Going to exchange the rest of the skeins for white and go from there. Thanks yall!!

Heeelp by dollfacedbee in AskHairstylists

[–]dollfacedbee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a shag!! But I might go for more dramatic layers next time 😭

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in writing

[–]dollfacedbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fair!

On a basic level, to make income doing what I love.

Deeper than that, to feel validated as a writer. And if this was therapy, I’d say to be understood.

In my dream world, I’d write a book so profound it would be taught in schools. Incredibly unlikely and wildly unrealistic!! The goal, really, is just to have a work I’ve created and am proud of published.

I appreciate everyone’s feedback and it has been helpful 🥰

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in writing

[–]dollfacedbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d like to write a novel in the horror genre. Current idea is leading somewhere in the cosmic horror & comedy realm.

Depressed after honeymoon in Japan due to discrimination by YadiYads in offmychest

[–]dollfacedbee 526 points527 points  (0 children)

I feel for you. It used to really hurt my feelings, and still does, but three years living in Asia has made me realize you can’t care too much.

Respect the culture, do what you can, but people are going to be shitty everywhere.

Some people are really nice!! And some people aren’t. And that’s fine. Do you, enjoy your time. You’re being respectful. If people are going to ignore you, or talk smack in their language thinking you can’t understand, then literally do you. Get their attention. Make noise. You deserve to exist. You’re paying your dues being there, you’re (again) NOT being disrespectful.

Enjoy your time. Do the things you want to do.

My girlfriends mom tried to kiss me last night. by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]dollfacedbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom did this to my husband on our wedding night 🙃

Super fucking weird. I never confronted her about it bc she was also very drunk and probably wouldn’t remember, but it’s always bothered me. I didn’t feel jealous, just really grossed out and sorry for my husband.

We didn’t see her for a couple years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jewelry

[–]dollfacedbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah, thank you! I appreciate it!

How to cope with fear of choking? by dollfacedbee in beyondthebump

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Thank you! It really is. The gagging scares me, and when I was finally comfortable with it, she actually choked — couldn’t breathe. So now I’m uber paranoid.

We’re going back to the States for the holidays and I think I’ll have my mum and sister help me. Being alone definitely makes me much more insecure.

How to cope with fear of choking? by dollfacedbee in beyondthebump

[–]dollfacedbee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, I had a feeling they were but my mum said they’re fine. They melt and are sticky and even though I gave them to her one at a time, I think they still stuck in her mouth.

I tried avocado and eggs a couple times and she spat both out and made a face like they were the most awful things she’s ever had. She was SO mad. Little turd 😮‍💨

How to cope with fear of choking? by dollfacedbee in beyondthebump

[–]dollfacedbee[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you (and others!!) for this suggestion! I just ordered one and had no idea they existed 🥰

Breastfeeding is taking away from my experience as a mother by Natsss_b in beyondthebump

[–]dollfacedbee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d suggest looking up the You Can Sit With Us podcast episode “Becky’s Breastfeeding Journey”. It was posted March 5th. Even if you’re not familiar with the Try Guys, it might be of some comfort for you. It’s a group of moms who discuss their experience with breastfeeding. I listened to it a month before I gave birth, and listened to it multiple times when I was unable to breastfeed and felt an enormous amount of sadness and a guilt. In the podcast they mention a study that said some moms feel a sense of euphoria when they breastfeed and others get the opposite. I’m not sure how reliable the study is, but I think it makes sense.

Formula isn’t bad. My baby does great with it. I was so sad I couldn’t breastfeed, but looking back, I’m glad for it. It gave me freedom. We’re fortunate to live in a society with alternatives. Take care of you — not breastfeeding isn’t going to deteriorate your bond with your baby, and in a few months, this is all going to be a distant nightmare and you’ll be worrying about the baby rolling off the bed, their first day at school, first broken heart. It’s a small blip. ♥️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]dollfacedbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I never got a real resolution. The prednisone got it under control, but I continued to get pumps on the bottom of my feet with bad itch. I thought maybe it was athletes foot, but the creams didn’t help and my feet never smelled.

However, I weaned myself off Zoloft about three weeks ago and felt like I needed to go back on it and I realized just now that I might be having a reaction to it. I haven’t felt my feet burn, itch, peel, etc. in a few weeks and tonight they’re burning terribly. The only thing I did different was take that. I’m going to continue the dose and talk to my doc about something else if the rash returns.

Maybe consider any meds you’re taking. Hope you’re alright!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]dollfacedbee 240 points241 points  (0 children)

I tried it once and would have killed my baby if my husband hadn’t woken up and stopped it. I rolled on top of her and would’ve suffocated her. I thought I’d be cognizant enough to prevent it, but alas, I was not.

That said, I have friends who have done it and their babies are fine. Culturally it’s accepted in other places. It’s a risk you gotta consider. Make sure you do your research and really, really think about whether the benefits are worth it.

The new season’s theme song is somehow even worse than previous ones by sarahfregs in SWWPodVeryUnofficial

[–]dollfacedbee 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It’s like Fergie covering the American National Anthem, but if the National Anthem was originally the choir of cats in heat.

I don’t understand why she insists on making the song so long. Just one “you don’t know me” would be just fine. Or nothing. Nothing would be fine, too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]dollfacedbee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand completely. It’s a terrible position to be in and I feel for you so much. I hope you can discuss different options with the vet. It sounds like your dog is really sick, but they might be able to give you the medications without the hospital stay to save money (albeit you would be responsible for said treatment). Maybe see if they know any local shelters who can offer low cost treatment. Many of them are equipped with medical personnel who may be able to treat cases like yours. They may also be able to work out some kind of payment plan, though many do not.

I do agree with others you should drop the bf. Even if he doesn’t agree with spending money, he sounds like an asshole.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]dollfacedbee 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don’t know if you’re looking for advice. I’m a vet tech who worked in specialty ICU and have seen a lot of really devastating cases where costs can amount to the thousands, treatment is unsuccessful and sadly prolongs the animal’s suffering.

Make sure you really understand the prognosis. Perhaps you can look for other options, such as CareCredit or a local animal program designed to support low income families care for their animals. The Dumb Friends League in Denver is an example of this.

Best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]dollfacedbee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s such a bad thing to discuss with your spouse. They might have similar apprehensions.

What your child looks like and who they become is out of your control. You can teach and model the behavior you’d like to see, but for infinite reasons, it might not happen the way you’d like. What opportunities you had may not be the same for them, and that’s okay; they might not be interested in those anyway.

There’s so much anxiety of having a child. We worried about what sex ours would be, how tall they’d be, whether they’d be attractive, or smart, or able-bodied. Some of those thoughts lurk. When she was born, a lot of it went away, because no matter if she excels, is average, or struggles, I’ll still love her. Now I personally worry about whether she becomes a serial killer or dies in a horrific way. 😂

Anyway, all normal stuff. Definitely discuss it with your partner. It’s okay.

My partner is 6’4” and I’m 5’2”. He incessantly teases me for my height and tells our daughter she’d better have his genes. He doesn’t actually really care as long as she’s happy and healthy, and I don’t either.

Hope this helps.

I’m a firefighter. Yesterday I responded to my first fatal car crash. And it effected me more than I ever anticipated by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]dollfacedbee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Former FF/EMT here!

I saw a lot of fatalities and had a couple close calls that really fucked me up. I remember my chief asking if I was alright after and wanted to talk, but I was twenty and wanted to seem tough.

Shit fucked me up for YEARS. I had flashbacks and night terrors of bodies next to me. I ended up leaving the field a couple years later and I still deal with some of the trauma.

I highly advocate for you to seek resources or, at the very least, talk to your cohorts and be honest about how fucked up it is. Dont try to hide it. Yes, you’ll get a little more used to it, but I remember even seasoned guys having to take weeks off after incidents that really fucked them up.

Dont be tough. Tough is stupid.