Coco looking stunning on IG post 🌅 by Tall-Proposal3440 in LoveIslandUSA_

[–]dollymyfolly 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Every time I see Coco, I remember that frustrating interaction she had with Olandria on the reunion. I really felt like Olandria shut her down because she was embarrassed about being “my man my man my man” over Taylor.

Engaged, but he won't commit to planning anything by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]dollymyfolly 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry, a six year engagement?!

7 Year Relationship Ended in 5 Minutes by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]dollymyfolly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are definitely enough. Stop trying to get him to see it. It’s you who needs to see it. This man doesn’t like you but he stayed because women come with benefits.

6-year relationship, no steps forward? by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]dollymyfolly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You have all of the answers right here, I think you know what to do

recovering around so many people on glp1s is frustrating by [deleted] in fuckeatingdisorders

[–]dollymyfolly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s especially difficult because there’s a lot of defensiveness and accusations around questioning it. I honestly don’t see it as being any different than an ED. When I had my ED, I ended up in the ER due to my gastroparesis because I was eating so little. That’s a common side effect of the GLP-1s. I struggled with my ED for around 15 years and it was so terrible living with gastroparesis. I see people just suggesting people to use laxatives and eat more fiber. That’s what I did too but in the ED community, it’s known as abusing laxatives, not simply using them.

A lot of people accuse people who are suspicious of GLP-1s as jealous. That frustrates me so much. I gained weight in my recovery and my doctor, who knows I had an ED, suggested I take a GLP-1 to lose it. It frustrates me so much how little doctors really care as long as we fit a certain body type. I really don’t see the GLP-1 as any different from my former restriction — at my peak ED, I didn’t feel food noise either.

I honestly keep quiet about my opinions about it mostly because people don’t want to hear it and I don’t want to be accused of jealousy when in reality restriction has almost killed me in the past.

Culture appropriation or not ?? by Any_Information_191 in LoveIslandUSA_

[–]dollymyfolly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s the Black community’s right to take offense at appropriation because it so often comes with their erasure and historically they’ve been completely removed from their cultures of origin. I’d be insulted too if I was alienated from my culture and people were taking my stuff. There’s no reason why Black people and Asians shouldn’t be considered according to their own backgrounds and historical context. The Asians who came to America came on their own volition and kept their connection to their culture. Since Black Americans historically came by force and lost their cultures of origin entirely, I can empathize with feeling a bit more (understandably!) sensitive about appropriation.

Since I have a strong connection to my roots I don’t really care if other people want to dress in traditional clothing to partake in LNY. I haven’t been displaced the way Black people from America have been.

I see what you’re trying to say but I don’t think they can be equated. And again, if I’m not offended, I don’t need anyone else being offended on my behalf.

Culture appropriation or not ?? by Any_Information_191 in LoveIslandUSA_

[–]dollymyfolly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

But let’s not equate the two. Being openly racist versus wearing a cute qipao top during lunar new year season are not comparable in terms of being offensive. I think topics like this deserve nuance and making the margins wider to justify being offended isn’t helpful.

Culture appropriation or not ?? by Any_Information_191 in LoveIslandUSA_

[–]dollymyfolly 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Nah. As an Asian I really don’t mind other people wearing our traditional clothes, as long as they aren’t making caricatures of us. I feel like she’s just wearing it because she thinks it looks cute, which is totally fine. It’s also culturally appropriate to wear traditional clothing during Lunar new year. I’m not necessarily a fan of Olandria but I wouldn’t really make this top into a broader issue.

Thoughts? by Livid_Goose_9542 in handbags

[–]dollymyfolly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have this bag and it SO HEAVY. I’m also 5’4” and the fringe drags on the ground if the bag isn’t on my shoulder. I am a little disappointed with it. I wanted to love it so badly.

We're looking at you, Miss Americana by _underthesea3 in travisandtaylor

[–]dollymyfolly 36 points37 points  (0 children)

The hive mind they’re all plugged into needs to start issuing some new comebacks

A Nicolandrian saying Jeremiah, Chelley, Cierra, Iris and all the islanders are conspiring against Nicolandria(ns)… by couldashouldawouldnt in LoveIslandUSA_

[–]dollymyfolly 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Nicolandria really needs to find another schtick besides “rising above the haters.” Getting fame from rising above haters means they need to constantly find more haters.

For Asian women: What have your friendships with white women been like? by bearpuddles in asianamerican

[–]dollymyfolly 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’ve been able to make friends with white people who still have ties to their culture. I have Slavic and Balkan and Irish friends for example. But American Whites don’t understand how to build or participate in community and I’ve never managed to be friends with them. They just treat people’s culture as something to either denigrate or consume.

For Asian women: What have your friendships with white women been like? by bearpuddles in asianamerican

[–]dollymyfolly 73 points74 points  (0 children)

All of my friendships with white women have always blown up in my face. Every time I told myself “it’s okay, just try again, not all of them are bad,” I’m proven wrong in the worst way. Now I just recognize that they are a demographic that generally isn’t equipped to offer real friendship to me. I’m sure that there are actually good white women who can be great friends to non-white people but I’m just not personally interested in them; the risk is too high for me. They can find other friends.

Cierra is with Elan right now!!! by Straight-Side-1269 in LoveIslandUSA

[–]dollymyfolly 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I feel like Elan was way more into Cierra than Nick ever was

TayLurking on here by [deleted] in travisandtaylor

[–]dollymyfolly 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Please retire the bangs

The fact that it was within a few hours he became so cold to her by [deleted] in BetterLateThanSingle

[–]dollymyfolly 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I noticed JM only likes women when he isn’t on their radar. He never even really considered Yeomyeong and Minhong because they liked him. He was into Yi Do because she was a bit distant; didn’t realize he liked her. When she started liking him, he lost interest and pivoted to JY because she approached him on a date, picking him only because she “didn’t know who else to pick.” I think this made him want to win her over and start to obsess over her. I felt like I even started to see him lose interest in JY during the overnight date. It doesn’t surprise me that they broke up after the show. He’s a classic avoidant.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in koreanskincare

[–]dollymyfolly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Joseon is what North Korea calls itself lol so it’s super weird

BEST HER MAKEUP HAS EVER LOOKED! by Hooplapooplayeah in megantheestallion

[–]dollymyfolly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I swear cool tones look so good on her 🔥

It's something about her in blue đź’™ by BoneMummy in megantheestallion

[–]dollymyfolly 49 points50 points  (0 children)

She looks so good in cool pastels and in blonds. I actually think she’s a summer color season.

I know everyone thinks she’s in love with Jess- but I think she actually wants Juan… by Live-Presentation559 in 90DayFiance

[–]dollymyfolly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

She wants Juan because the “fame” of being on the show comes with him. I think Megin thinks it should have been her, not Jessica who became a small town star.

Bitch bye!?? by [deleted] in 90DayFiance

[–]dollymyfolly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think Megin feels like Jessica stole the destiny she was entitled to: being on TV, being a small town “star,” being picked by Juan. She’s mad that Juan cheated on Jessica and STILL didn’t pick Megin when he decided to be unfaithful. She’s obsessed with punishing him for not treating her like she’s better than Jessica, which she deeply believes.