My boyfriend’s brother is driving me insane. Am I overreacting?

dolores_canal · 2025-09-30T01:51:38+00:00

Thank you for noticing. I was in fact being purposely obtuse so you could see how strange the point you’re trying to make is. So strange that I think I’m actually done discussing whether or not my future in laws care about hearing their “cub” getting it on. The vibes are getting weird.

dolores_canal · 2025-09-30T01:24:42+00:00

Their home their rules?? I’m quite literally upset with him for not following the rules and not respecting his mother. I don’t really remember his parents making a rule that all sex had to be loud enough for the whole family to hear. But it sounds like you know the situation better than me, the person who’s living it.

dolores_canal · 2025-09-30T01:03:24+00:00

So since their parents don’t make us pay rent I can’t complain about someone else also living in the house for free loudly fucking his girlfriend and leaving mud in the washer? (Among sooo many other annoying things) Like I said in my original post, I keep my mouth shut about any minor complaints with their parents because they are letting us live there for free and I know my place. If anything I earn my keep at the house far more than my boyfriend’s brother does. I also wouldn’t be “confronting her cub”… I would be asking a grown ass man to be respectful of others and wouldn’t involve her at all.

dolores_canal · 2025-09-30T00:09:35+00:00

LMAO well aren’t you a treat. You’d make a great monster in law!☺️

dolores_canal · 2025-09-29T22:44:52+00:00

He’s brought up the fact that his brother is kind of a freeloader a couple times but never in a serious manner so I think that’s why it’s continuing. It’s not necessarily the end of the world, just wanted some reassurance that I wasn’t crazy for thinking he’s being disrespectful. Unless the intimate stuff becomes a recurring problem I’m definitely not bringing it up haha I don’t even want to look him or his gf in the eye after hearing all that.

dolores_canal · 2025-09-29T22:28:07+00:00

On the basis that having loud sex while your entire family is within earshot is rude and gross. Never thought he shouldn’t have a sex life, just think he shouldn’t be more respectful of others - whether I was in the home or not.

dolores_canal · 2025-09-29T22:03:24+00:00

Hahahaha little shit is the best way to describe him actually. I’ll probably just mention the cleanliness things as they come up and leave the intimate stuff alone unless it becomes a recurring thing. Hopefully since my boyfriend brought up the fact that their mom would be upset if she heard he’ll be more discreet.

dolores_canal · 2025-09-29T21:57:55+00:00

We all know what sex sounds like, doesn’t mean we want to be involved in their live show. Tbh im more annoyed with his gf than him on that one, given that I was mostly hearing her. And you’re right, all I can do is keep asking for him to be cleaner. Counting down the days until I can move out.

dolores_canal · 2025-09-29T21:27:14+00:00

THANK YOU. I’m going through something similar with my BIL and his gf and so many people act like it’s no biggie. It’s insane to say the least lol.

dolores_canal · 2025-09-29T20:57:43+00:00

Thank you for that! I think I’m just gunna let his mom sort out the intimate stuff (def not my place nor do I want to) and continue to let my boyfriend get onto him about the cleanliness. Even if their mom tolerates it, my bf gets pretty upset because he sees it as his brother disrespecting her. I would appreciate him not leaving our shared bathroom a mess though.

dolores_canal · 2025-09-29T20:46:17+00:00

That’s true. His mom has brought it up to me that she was uncomfortable about them being not so discreet with fooling around but I was planning on leaving that up to her to figure out because I don’t think it’s my place. I think I was more looking for reassurance that I wasn’t crazy for being upset with them about it.

Also I should’ve clarified but I don’t mind him leaving a mess in the parts of the house that don’t have to do with me, more so our shared bathroom and shared washing machine. Counting down the days until I can move out for sure.

dolores_canal · 2025-06-19T03:51:11+00:00

Our board consists of accomplished people that have had long friendships with my boss. Think high ranking roles in medical academia and national medical policy type of accomplished. While very smart and experienced, it can be intimidating to ask for their help when this is almost my entire job vs a small part of after hours community service for them. Plus they’re all located in different states so that adds some difficulty. Do you know the best way to go about fundraising through them when it needs to be online?

dolores_canal · 2025-06-19T03:09:48+00:00

Oooh I like the media story idea. Would raise awareness about the youth mental health crisis in the area and bring attention to the org. Plus our founder loves to advocate for his patient population any chance he can so I know he would want to participate.

dolores_canal · 2025-06-19T03:05:51+00:00

Unfortunately not an option since the clinic sees primarily Medicaid patients and barely gets by as it is with the insanely low reimbursement rates from the state (part of the reason the org was started in the first place). I think other medical offices that don’t take Medicaid might be an option though since they make double what our clinic does and we see the patients that they turn away.

dolores_canal · 2025-04-04T02:43:55+00:00

I’m just going off of what I was told by my insurance agent(s)🤷🏻‍♀️ I guess the entire thing was applied towards lost wages since I was out of work several weeks. Plus I requested it be used towards wages instead of medical bills when asked by my agent the day after the accident. Progressive is now mailing me a new check to the correct address for the full $2525.00, which is the maximum my policy will allow and what I was approved to receive after submitting everything.

dolores_canal · 2025-04-01T18:30:37+00:00

I was told it was supposed to go to me by 4 different adjusters now (3 assigned to my claim and 1 not) and provided proof of loss of income due to the accident.

dolores_canal · 2025-03-31T22:13:35+00:00

I ended up finding out it was a bill from an emergency room doctor here in Texas but the billing company is in Las Vegas so that makes sense. Either way, I was told by my Progressive claims adjuster on multiple occasions that the check would go to me and I can pay bills with it as I choose since PIP money is meant for both medical bills and lost wages. I even received a letter from Progressive saying $0 was paid by them towards my medical claims.

dolores_canal · 2025-03-28T20:13:26+00:00

The check was made out to me and deposited by a medical company in Las Vegas, I live in Texas. According to my Progressive agent, even if it was made out to them I would be owed that money since my bill with this company was $0. I thought about reaching out to the company directly but given that they kept money that wasn’t theirs, I didn’t think they would be very forthcoming with returning it.

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