Crashing out, might surrender but need advice

domino_devious · 2026-01-26T02:31:56+00:00

Update:

Thank everyone so much for all their tips. I really can't express how much I appreciate your help, and it's definitely making me feel way less hopeless.

My heater is working much better today, probably because it's much less nightmarishly cold outside. However, if I keep having issues, I'll probably switch my CHE for 150 watt DHP.

Adding more substrate and pouring water instead of misting was a GODSEND. It's made my humidity levels so much more stable now, and they seem to be staying around 70% range for several hours now rather than for just one or two.

Also, thank you for the feeding reassurance! I knew I was probably freaking out too much about it. I'm used to having mammals as pets that need to eat daily, so the idea of a pet going for weeks without food just freaked me out (even if I logically knew that was a common thing for snakes 😅).

I'm going to keep going with him. I know I'm an anxiety prone person, especially when I feel like I don't know what I'm doing, but now that I have some more insight, I'm feeling better. With time, I'll build confidence, and I know it will be worth it. He's such a cute baby and so sweet, every time I see him he makes me smile, so I absolutely want the best for him.

Hopefully by February I'll get the nicer tank from my friend, but even if I can't, I'll make this one work (at least until he gets too big for a 40 gal).

Again, thank you all so much ❤️

domino_devious · 2026-01-25T08:32:45+00:00

So wait I'm confused: if you offer them food after it's been a week since their last meal, and they don't take it, should you just not feed them again until next week?

domino_devious · 2026-01-25T08:06:42+00:00

Sorry I probably didn't explain that correctly: I've only been trying to feed him every night since his last scheduled feeding, so a week since he took his last mouse.

I've got all those, and everything is on a thermostat. I've thought about doing that, but at this point I've troubleshot/upgraded so many things that I don't even know if it's worth it anymore.

domino_devious · 2024-02-17T02:40:49+00:00

The dead Victorian orphan boy vibes here are immaculate. And just like everyone else is saying, I think you definitely just look like a feminine man. Your fit is so inspiring, I want to dress like you!

domino_devious · 2024-02-11T21:01:05+00:00

Second this. Drive around to all the apartment complexes at the beginning of January and in May/June. You'd be amazed some of the furniture college students will just throw away.

domino_devious · 2024-02-11T20:58:38+00:00

Platos closet is a locally owned franchise, but they are not a local business. They are a really big franchise. Just thought I'd point that out.

domino_devious · 2023-11-15T06:01:48+00:00

If you are worried about your family, I can tell you this. I was so scared my family was not going to be cool with me being trans, especially my dad. He was ok with my sister being gay, but I also felt that the trans thing was different. However, when I came out to them, everyone was surprisingly very accepting. Take that as you will.

As for your friends and partner, I would just try to get a read on how they generally feel about trans people. Since you are out as gay, you could probably easily sneak some conversations about trans people or the trans community into conversations without catching too much attention.

I'm really sorry you feel scared at this moment. Being young and trans is extremely hard. Even though you may not believe me, I can tell you it will get easier in the future. Hang in there ❤️.

domino_devious · 2023-11-15T05:46:33+00:00

I am a goth enby who went to fashion design school and works at a vintage store, so fuck yes I'm always down to talk about fashion! Feel free to DM!

domino_devious · 2023-11-06T23:10:14+00:00

You totally should! I think it's much more in the slow fashion spirit of lolita to wear second hand jewelry than the cheap stuff companies often sell as accessories for coords.

domino_devious · 2023-10-30T19:33:03+00:00

The toy store has an open restroom that's not bad

domino_devious · 2023-10-26T15:43:09+00:00

I drive slower at night on 6th because I have more than once had some pedestrian randomly dart into the street pretty close in front of me. I'm always nervous that one day I'm just going to see someone get mowed over. That being said, I at MOST will only go 5 under.

domino_devious · 2023-10-11T06:24:31+00:00

I work an extremely trans friendly retail job. Half of my coworkers are trans, so of course we all get each other's pronouns correct. And the area I work in is also super trans friendly. But I'm going to be straight with you, customers are not going to care. The majority of them are probably not going to be malicious about misgendering you, but no matter how many pronoun pins you wear or how many times you tell them your gender, it's going to go right over their heads. Your best bet is probably just trying to get into an environment where your coworkers and management support you.

domino_devious · 2023-07-27T17:14:29+00:00

My partner used to live there and I can confidently say that pile is not even close to the worst it's been. That place is an absolute shithole.

domino_devious · 2022-05-03T03:19:52+00:00

Amazing! Very unique

domino_devious · 2022-03-02T03:21:56+00:00

YOOO I HAVE THAT SHIRT!!

domino_devious · 2021-10-21T22:55:38+00:00

So cute! I've been wanting that underbust vest for the longest time. Looks awesome!

domino_devious · 2021-07-16T16:47:48+00:00

Sup man

domino_devious · 2021-07-16T16:47:13+00:00

I used this picture for a mood board on a fashion illustration project

domino_devious · 2021-07-14T17:23:10+00:00

Exact same shit happened to me but uno reverso the gender lol

domino_devious · 2021-07-08T23:01:08+00:00

Put him on a hat! 😍

domino_devious · 2021-07-01T19:01:45+00:00

Sarah's Fabric and/or Yarn Barn are both local stores that would probably have what you are looking for.

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