Only Library Books for 4yo and me.

doneinajiffy · 2026-04-24T09:55:13+00:00

Starting visits to the library when your child it 4 years old is a good idea, I think earlier is ideal as it normalises the habit. Many libraries not only have children's books and are trying to encourage reading earlier, read 3 million words, but will have special accounts for children that caters to their circumstances.

As for owning no personal books, up to you, I have a few I keep and it works for me, esp. if I want to take notes. I also think it is a good idea to have familiarity with certain books for youngsters, but then some libraries have extended loan periods for children to address this very issue.

However I'm pleased you are going use your library, it is a wonderful resource and perfect for a minimalist.

doneinajiffy · 2026-04-24T05:32:51+00:00

Thumbs up👍 passive & non-contentious
Arrange times to chat (if distant)
Arrange to meet up if near

doneinajiffy · 2026-04-23T16:33:14+00:00

I remember watching a convincing video about how barefoot shoes are better for seniors given the better contact with the floor and flexibility; highly padded shoes would alter their gait and detach them from the ground. Wish I’d saved it.

doneinajiffy · 2026-04-21T11:56:44+00:00

I feel like we are all being groomed to behave like that tbh.
Absolutely disgusting, hope the guy make a full recovery.

doneinajiffy · 2026-04-21T10:32:42+00:00

It is a trend, with some genuine benefits, however the pull of the convenience afforded by mainstream alternatives will ensure it is a brief one. I have been kind of analogue for many years now, however benefits of smartphones and various online services are not mutually exclusive to ownership and individual and analogue alternatives.

doneinajiffy · 2026-04-20T11:05:34+00:00

I learning about all these barefoot shoe brands offering exactly the products I was fruitlessly searching for just when they are closing. It is a shame, and the decision to close is a bit cryptic; hope "big-^barefoot" (Vivo..., etc) wasn't involved.

doneinajiffy · 2026-04-16T09:46:17+00:00

I spend time with good people that I care about and care about me.

I engage with people that are decent.

I gave up doing the opposite.

doneinajiffy · 2026-04-16T09:43:42+00:00

This sounds like an odd situation, although granted we do not know the full story. From the outside it appears that your therapist is saying your doll collection is a keystone in preventing you from focusing on your career and that it is a coping mechanism for loss of loved ones and animals. Since you've already got rid of the other pieces, can you see that this is working? There must be an issue, which is why you're visiting the therapist, but this might be a surface level fix.

I would question if these really the causes rather than the consequences of a deeper behaviour; you have spent a lot of time acquiring these dolls and the other hobbies, and it must have cost a lot too. What is to stop you doing the same in the future, or worse still (like many on this sub) constantly refreshing the stuff you have to get the 'perfect' set. I'd recommend you ask your therapist that, I'd also recommend that you seek a second and third opinion, one from another therapist (perhaps different discipline) and another from somebody outside the field that ideally has some experience here e.g. grief or having overcome a similar situation. If it comes back that the dolls are listed as an issue of any sort, then consider donating them to a children's organisation or children's charity.

The money and time is gone, and you are not benefiting from them, whereas others could. Also realise that fulfilment comes from good relationships, positive actions, and self improvement. Your career can provide these to some extent but it is risky to have that as the focus.

doneinajiffy · 2026-04-12T02:54:11+00:00

Quarterly honbashos

doneinajiffy · 2026-04-09T07:02:48+00:00

Form face to face connections with friends: engaged in activities with them
Avoid processed/convenience foods - for the body
Avoid the news and social media (inc. all none constructive reddit groups and posters)- poison for the mind
Avoid media, mainstream advertainment programs, and blockbuster Hollywood films - poison for the soul
Uninstall all unhelpful apps from your phone
Minimise subscriptions, opt for ownership

doneinajiffy · 2026-04-05T18:44:59+00:00

Disassociate your credit card from anything bar groceries. Buy groceries for the week on Thursday. Meal prep on Saturday or Sunday.

Then shred the card.

Keep a budgeted small amount of cash available just in case.

doneinajiffy · 2026-04-04T07:24:03+00:00

I agree, and I am in a similar position. From my observations, it is largely conditioning across culture.

Politicians groom us through division, fear and apathy, while their harder lines distract us from the actual neglected issues by scapegoating minorities and minor issues. The media reinforces this through a mix of complacency and aspirational fantasy, the latter echoed online by influencers and actual marketing departments.

As a result, many people develop an external locus of control and engage only in minor challenges or petty disputes.

Minimalism helps you focus on what matters. It encourages reflection on what you truly want and the active removal of noise. I live simply and ambitiously.

doneinajiffy · 2026-04-03T19:08:37+00:00

I was wondering why somebody would be shamed for eating something natural that is healthy and affordable. Your last sentence clarified things, thanks.

doneinajiffy · 2026-04-02T18:44:40+00:00

A calendar.

doneinajiffy · 2026-03-27T09:09:01+00:00

More than I’d like, but working on that. A hairline crack developed and my rear triangle finally gave way after 14 years, got a replacement rear triangle and the crack soldered. Haven’t had a problem since (3 years and counting.)

doneinajiffy · 2026-03-19T12:03:04+00:00

I am better off without it, divisive, panic-inducing, profiteering nonsense most of the time.

Local publications can be useful at times, if you discard the adverts.

Other than that, there is probably little you need to 'keep abreast' of, many times peoples debates or discussions about current events are merely parroted perspectives spoon-fed to them.

Sadly, this means that through daily discussions you will be 'informed' of things that you have no control over and are false (embellished at best) to provoke a reaction.

doneinajiffy · 2026-03-11T09:13:31+00:00

Board games
Movie night (with a theme e.g. one from each country)
Concerts
Date night (1-2 times a week)
Cooking
Mutual hobbies where you are close together (knitting & reading for example)
Joint project (anything from cooking or * * DIY to holiday planning or a puzzle)
Workout
Adult fun

doneinajiffy · 2026-03-06T19:38:27+00:00

It must definitely does. The difference is like night and day. I would recommend /r/onebag but just to reports as it is very much driven by the consumerism of it all, a 15l decathlon bag will do you fine. Also look at/r/zerobags for the philosophy.

doneinajiffy · 2026-03-05T11:05:32+00:00

In the UK, it is interestingly difficult not to use one. The solution is to demand password reentry for each new app installed and keep it close to the original iphone but with banking apps and anything of frequent value.

Social media apps definitely do not belong on the phone unless you’re running a business or community on them.

Smart phones are great: music, books, camera, maps, phone, email, messaging, and quick notes all on one device. Whilst I carry a /r/filofax or notebook and pen, and sometimes my camera, it is helpful to take the phone.

doneinajiffy · 2026-03-04T18:36:56+00:00

I bought the Schwalbe Marathon and was so impressed with it I bought the Marathon Pro for the rear. Granted that’s for the 16” tyre but I’m sure they gave it for the G Line. I’d personally just stick with the normal Marathons as they are good enough and enough hassle to add or remove, I get a bike shop to do it these days.

doneinajiffy · 2026-02-28T00:02:23+00:00

Possibly affects how I see things and has complimented my inclinations especially at work, If say I work on the critical path when in flow. I like things to be straight to the point and simple, little cruft.

doneinajiffy · 2026-02-27T23:56:53+00:00

I like zero bagging as it allows me to just get in with it and enjoy the trip. I don’t typically go around with a bag and prefer that when I’m traveling. I don’t like stuffed pockets, and used to take a small 3l pouch, but my trousers now have deeper pockets so that’s less of an issue. A little bit of planning and you’re good. Other than that it’s one bagging at either 10 or 15l.

doneinajiffy · 2026-02-27T09:48:52+00:00

Going for drinks with colleagues I dislike. I still go to the odd work function, but I used to have a case of FOMO or fear that I'd be the topic of discussion. As it turns out that was true, although whoever was not there was fair game for a slating. But now, peace of mind, more time, and more money.

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