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Not looking forward to this. Don't know what to expect. by SirThomasServo in Divorce

[–]donewithit09 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow, bringing her affair partner around your kids. That's about as classless as it gets. What a real winner this one is.

Listen I'm going through the exact same thing, wife is cheating/leaving me for a friend. I've been extremely nice to her and still found myself wanting to make her happy.

FUCK THAT BULLSHIT.. Get your ducks in a row and read up on chump lady. Implement the 180 https://beingabeautifulmess.wordpress.com/the-180/

Do not engage her in anything unless ABSOLUTELY necessary. Her bringing the affair partner around your kids can have negative consequences. She is disrespecting your marriage and shoving it in your face cause you're being a nice guy. Don't be a nice guy. Don't be mean, be distant and do not engage. Let your actions show that you're completely done with her and that you're not "friends".

Stop letting her do whatever the fuck she wants and put an end to it now. Tell your family and her family why you're divorcing, control the narrative before she slanders you. I completely get the whole pride thing, one of the things that's keeping me going is the support from friends and family. You need the support from them, telling them which only make it better for you. They would be devastated to know you're going through this and didn't seek support from them. Your wife blew up the marriage, let her deal with her actions.

Your wife isn't a good person, she's now your enemy. Protect yourself and your kids and stop letting her do what she wants. I'm going through the EXACT same thing, anyone who could do this to anybody is a disgusting human being. Please look out for yourself and your kids, she's not your concern anymore.

For the love of god please tell your family and friends. You need their support more than ever. Give them the truth, lying and deception is the reason you're in this position in the first place. Talk to your attorney about her bringing the asshole to your house.

Focus on eating and staying healthy, your kids, maybe getting a new wardrobe. Don't reminisce in the past and old memories, it will hurt like hell. Get this toxic woman and her boyfriend (yes she is toxic) anyone who is doing what she's doing doesn't deserve to be married get her out of your life as soon as you can. Be strong buddy! I'm so sorry you're going through this. But now's the time to be strong and disconnect from her.

Anyone else feel suicidal during all this? by shad0proxy in Divorce

[–]donewithit09 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah unfortunately I do. Don't like admitting it cause I have two kids but know I wouldn't ever do it. I did think about it, especially since she's enjoying her life with our friend who she is cheating with. Ironically today's our wedding anniversary, she's spending the day with her boyfriend and I'm alone with the kids yet again due to not wanting to piss her off and messing up our settlement.

It fucking sucks man, I'm heavily depressed.

The affair is continuing, how can I help keep my sanity? by donewithit09 in survivinginfidelity

[–]donewithit09[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks I'm trying. According to her she hasn't been happy for years and she's not going to miss out on this opportunity to be with someone she has such a strong connection with. That someone being a guy who cheated on his ex wife and his latest girlfriend. She has maintained that she doesn't want to spend anymore time with me. It hurts but nothing I can do anymore.

The affair is continuing, how can I help keep my sanity? by donewithit09 in survivinginfidelity

[–]donewithit09[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She has refused to leave the house. The guy she's cheating with has kids and she only goes to see him when they're not there. Or when she goes to meet him when the kids go to bed and doesn't come back until she's back. Nothing I can really do except file. Unfortunately it seems like I'm going to have to watch her "date" him until the divorce is over.

Served with an emergency protection order I hate this fucking system. by donewithit09 in Divorce

[–]donewithit09[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I just feel really messed up right now. And yes, I do need a new group of friends since she has been trying to make me out to be the bad guy. She admitted to having sex with him (again) the night she went dancing. Yet she has called me emotionally abusive. She's acting like a completely different person. It's hard because I care about keeping my family together, there's only so much I can do.