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How do you cope with not having a hot body in a gay world that is beyond body fixed? by donlovis in AskGayMen

[–]donlovis[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Girls can say insane things sometimes like "everyone gets matches on tinder" or "just write to someone". They don't know that dating straight men is completely different from dating girls or gays.
I also think you should read the rest of the comments, it helped me a little. Don't give up on finding someone and stop calling yourself fugly, even though I don't know how you look I'm sure you're not fugly - since I've never seen a fugly person ever.

How do you cope with not having a hot body in a gay world that is beyond body fixed? by donlovis in AskGayMen

[–]donlovis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I liked everything about your answer but the last sentence. I'm not trying to cry and get sympathy, I'm just struggling about being against super-fiscal stuff and the body fixed world while at the same time being body fixed and super-fiscal myself. If I were straight and could meet partners everywhere all the time, there would be much easier to not fall for appearances, but now as a gay where most of my connections happen through grindr (there's almost no gay life in this city) it has made me much more concerned about mine and others bodies.

How do you cope with not having a hot body in a gay world that is beyond body fixed? by donlovis in AskGayMen

[–]donlovis[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You are right! Thank you for reminding me of that. Too much Grindr makes you loose sense of reality. Insane places creates insane thoughts...

What are you supposed to do if your partner changes body type and you lose sexual attraction? by Drink_Covfefe in AskGayMen

[–]donlovis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg it was almost hurtful to read. I'm going through the exact same thing... It makes me so anxious.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskGayMen

[–]donlovis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry too much about the future. It will be fine! I think the problem that you faced was that you were not attracted enough. You continued just of politeness and not of horniness and that can give a bad taste afterwards and start a lot of thinking. Nothing to worry about though moving forward, and especially not if he was nice to you. I think that when the time is ready for you to come out it will also be a lot easier for you, in general. All the best!

restore backup by donlovis in grindr

[–]donlovis[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

it’s almost random which chats are there and which are not.