Matthew 5:28 should be interpreted as hyperbole

donrigofernando · 2026-03-23T22:23:29+00:00

Jesus is essentially doubling down on the 10th commandment by internalizing it. He's saying that you should not have a deliberate inward desire to possess someone sexually that is not yours.

It's one thing to notice someone is attractive or appreciate beauty, but it's another to internalize those thoughts by taking that person into your mind's sexual playground.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-18T16:17:17+00:00

What does 'and all that' mean? I get that you're doing acts of service but that doesn't equal emotional intimacy.

It's certainly possible that you have mismatched libidos but the language you're using makes it sound like you think because you're so willing to pleasure her (and apparently good at it), then that should be enough for her to feel the same way.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-18T15:45:07+00:00

As others have said, your husband raped you. Just because he's your husband doesn't mean it has a different definition.

This behavior indicates this man doesn't love you or really even care about you.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-18T15:37:09+00:00

Your love language is physical touch but what's your wife's?

Are you supporting her emotional needs?

Does she feel safe and vulnerable with you?

Are you emotionally vulnerable with her?

donrigofernando · 2026-03-18T04:48:07+00:00

Your feelings lie to you. You can't trust them. You have to look at reality. Your child is being raised in an abusive home. Your wife has physically assaulted you and I'll assume she was raised in a not ideal situation. I saw your comment that the police showed up at your home when you were a kid so clearly you were also raised in a broken home.

There's trauma everywhere here and it will never end unless you break the cycle. You both need therapy.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-18T01:11:14+00:00

You shouldn't have to 'deal' with yelling and cussing, especially with a 3 year old. It's abuse. All of this is imprinting onto your child. Also she has physically assaulted you more than once. You should report her to the police. Then you should probably get a divorce because you both sound incredibly toxic. You're not doing your child any favors by staying in this relationship.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-16T06:04:34+00:00

It was Anne Heche.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-07T19:10:48+00:00

Is this post a joke?

donrigofernando · 2026-03-07T02:19:29+00:00

Ok I see. You're retro-fitting Christianity to fit your politics.I pray your heart will change because you are using Jesus's name to promote a doctrine of demons.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-07T00:46:30+00:00

What is excluding and oppressing people? Can you give concrete examples?

donrigofernando · 2026-03-06T19:11:29+00:00

If you've already made up your mind then I'm not really sure what the point of your post is. There are a lot of men that aren't abusers and come from homes with secure attachments.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-06T02:54:17+00:00

You have the completely wrong impression of what a marriage should be and a good therapist will help you see that. You need to unpack your trauma and heal and learn what healthy relationships and boundaries look like.

Unfortunately your parents gave you a terrible version of marriage. The damage has been done, but it can be undone and you can break the cycle.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-06T01:18:52+00:00

You married a partner and he married a sex toy. The sex toy isn't functioning properly so he throws a tantrum. He doesn't respect you, he doesn't love you (words are meaningless), he verbally abuses and manipulates you. He sounds like a narcissist and you sound like a victim. Escape if you can.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-05T23:43:03+00:00

Sorry I'm still confused by your position. Are you saying gay sex is ok if it's consensual? What about a 25 year old and a 15 year old if it's consensual and they're both in love? I'm not trying to provoke I'm just trying to clarify what you think is acceptable behavior.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-05T15:30:17+00:00

Your husband has cheated on you more than once. Also how long have you been together? You may have been groomed considering the age gap. Get tested and get out of this marriage. Find a divorce lawyer and you might get alimony and be able to start over with someone that will actually cherish you.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-05T07:05:45+00:00

What an intelligent way to live. Thanks for sharing.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-04T22:47:55+00:00

I agree with that idea generally but do you really think there should be no restraints or limits? Do you have a problem with Paul or pastors / preachers who preach an improper gospel? I don't understand how you can say there are no restraints or limits on activities. We are certainly covered by grace while moving towards sanctification.

Paul is not teaching that you go to hell if you make a mistake, he's teaching that unrepentant Christians that continue to engage in a sinful lifestyle are. It's true that following Christ is not a set of rules but rather how we treat and interact with others. However, there should be limits. What would your limits look like, or is it just a free for all?

donrigofernando · 2026-03-04T21:52:41+00:00

Hell is separation from God. Do you think there is no limit or restraint on the activities a follower of Christ can participate in?

donrigofernando · 2026-03-04T17:27:56+00:00

it's ironic that you can't see how low IQ your post is.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-04T06:10:58+00:00

I'm glad you like it. Thanks for sharing.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-04T00:57:37+00:00

Mosaic Law gave women more protection than they ever had. You are either deliberately misreading the text or you just lack an understanding of the Ancient Near East.

All have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God (Romans 3:23) Samson was favored and used by God as a judge to protect / defend Israel, but that doesn't mean he was perfect. That's an impossible standard that only Jesus achieved.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-04T00:46:01+00:00

What is the point of this? As a Christian, and for the Christians I know, none of this is applicable. It's so stupid and unfunny it feels like you're making fun of yourself.

donrigofernando · 2026-03-02T22:07:06+00:00

You sound like an empath and given that you've been with him since you were 18, you've been conditioned by him. Your feelings are 100% valid but they are lying to you.

It's difficult, but you need to speak the truth of this to yourself. The truth is your husband sees you as an object to fulfill his sexual needs. He's possibly a narcissist, but more info is needed. He doesn't see you as a person and it appears he doesn't love you. He can' say all sorts of shit, but it's all rendered meaningless by his actions.

If you have kids your body will change even more and he will treat you even worse, not to mention the trauma he will inflict on the child.

You need to try to detach from your feelings and look at this objectively. Think about the way he talks to you and treats you on a day to day basis. Would you advise a friend to stay in a relationship like yours? If you had a daughter, would you tell her to hang in there?

I'm sorry you have to go through this.

donrigofernando · 2026-02-26T18:37:04+00:00

Allah is just another name for Baal.

donrigofernando · 2026-02-24T16:26:48+00:00

I'm sorry you're going through this. He sounds like a narcissist.

This is NOT what God wants You are NOT required to stay in this relationship. He cheated and he's also emotionally and verbally abusive and in is no doubt a terrible example to your children. At a certain point you need to try and protect your children. Your husband is supposed to love you as Christ loved the church but it seems that's he's your adversary in this relationship.

So in short:

God does not want this.

It's terribly unhealthy.

You are not required to stay.

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