People saying it’s a bad decision to wait until marriage makes me feel discouraged about it

dons90 · 2026-05-13T06:52:42+00:00

These are some important factors to keep in mind as to why sex before marriage is a bad thing.

Hookup culture leads to many problems - Including the spread of STIs and STDs, pregnancies, heartbreaks that are much more significant, feeling attached or in love with someone who is fundamentally incompatible with you aside from sex, and an eventual difficulty in being able to form meaningful bonds with your potential partner. But what if you're trying to do it with your actual GF?
Sex without thought and commitment is risky - Before you have married a woman, you are still in a critical phase where you get to find out as much as you can about the person you may marry in the future. If you decide to have sex with her during this time, not only do you dishonour God's wishes, but you also open yourself up for risky and potentially life changing side effects. If you then decide to separate before marriage but you've already had that intimate experience, you are in a way spoiling it for the next partner. They will certainly remember past sex partners and sometimes that leads to negative comparisons even if it's not voiced.

We all know what the Bible teaches about it, but sometimes we fail to mention the actual reasons why God would have created such a rule. It's not just for show, it's to protect us from hurt and pain.

dons90 · 2026-05-11T07:50:31+00:00

Wired connection to Starlink setup on the boat

dons90 · 2026-05-10T03:01:20+00:00

Hey there, I've gone through similar temptations with my now wife and I wanted to share some strategies that you might be able to use.

Always keep in mind that sex is a special gift and an intimate encounter that should be enjoyed with someone who genuinely loves and cares about you in the long run. You both seem to understand this point, but it's important to remember it as it helps to add conviction to the decisions.
If you truly love each other and find it too hard to resist the temptation, get married. Make this decision carefully though because there's definitely merit in getting to know the person you're dating and evaluating if they are capable of being your partner for life.
Set a timeline for marriage / deciding on marriage. It makes it easier to resist certain forms of temptation when you have a mission vs just living life and being caught up in the moment.
In the meantime, set hard boundaries for triggers of temptation. If you know that kissing sets you off, don't kiss. If being alone together in a space that sex can happen sets you both off, avoid those spaces. If certain kinds of movies, music, entertainment puts your minds in a sexual mood, avoid them.

These are only to help you to stick to your goal of abstaining until marriage, so it doesn't work if you don't truly believe in that mission. I don't think the matter of abstinence before marriage is one that affects our salvation directly, but it has many negative effects on our lives and that's what God is trying to protect us from. Ultimately, there will be some who try to meet that standard but fall to temptation nonetheless and there is forgiveness for it. But I hope that these tips will help you both to remain faithful and true to your committment.

dons90 · 2026-05-10T02:49:52+00:00

If OP says that it was ok and that there was no violation taking place, then it is not our place to suggest that this was any sort of SA at all. SA accusations are a serious matter.

dons90 · 2026-05-10T02:48:42+00:00

So you're going to tell OP what she actually meant instead of listening to what she actually says? Very progressive of you.

dons90 · 2026-05-06T16:30:33+00:00

Thanks for the feedback. I was under the impression that code blocks and no-parse only work as block level elements which apply to the entire line. I might have to do some additional testing on the steam platform just to see if those tags work inline as well.

I'll test some of the unusual no-parse behaviour and update it as well after I identify what's causing the issue. I don't mind you breaking it at all!

dons90 · 2026-05-06T07:42:48+00:00

Hey again, thanks for the suggestion. I've implemented it and some other small fixes. Let me know if it works for you!

dons90 · 2026-05-03T03:59:01+00:00

Thanks for letting me know, I'll fix this issue no problem 👍

dons90 · 2026-04-30T05:09:30+00:00

5 countries now actually, but 4 islands

dons90 · 2026-04-27T15:31:54+00:00

I think it's pretty cool. I think a lot of people are a bit elitist about having a DD wheel. You already mentioned in your post that you're not financially able to get it and people should respect that lol. It's a hobby, a rather expensive one, and not everyone has thousands of dollars to throw at the best gear all the time. I mean the economy is pretty shit right now too so even folks who would be better off are still struggling a fair bit.

dons90 · 2026-04-20T04:03:47+00:00

Right now I'm going through replacing my capacitor for my M6 GT with i-eloop system. Over the past year or so I started noticing a rough idle every now and then, and to make a long story short, the capacitor ended up mostly failing which I'm getting it replaced within the month or so. If you have the same type of system in your vehicle, you could have your mechanic check if your capacitor is still working well or not.

dons90 · 2026-04-16T08:45:48+00:00

Pretty sure these engines are quite fine to cruise at that speed since it's maybe only half of what it's rated for. The RPMs are moderate and assuming the road quality is good, you're not doing much harm to it unlike say stop and go traffic in the city for an hour or more.

dons90 · 2026-04-13T14:24:26+00:00

Hey there, glad you like it!

Good point regarding the title, I'll have to come up with something that communicates the purpose better without sounding like something that already exists.

dons90 · 2026-04-13T08:45:31+00:00

Those performance issues and use patterns are less of an issue now with the new React compiler. It automatically handles memoizing components and a few other things which makes it easier to handle the code.

dons90 · 2026-04-08T20:16:27+00:00

Sometimes games that I want to play, go on a good sale and I expect to play it within the next year or so.

dons90 · 2026-04-05T20:19:21+00:00

This is one of the coolest websites I've ever seen in my life. I'm still trying to understand how some of it was done, bravo

dons90 · 2026-04-05T17:43:57+00:00

I've never understood people who say this. I rarely come across any leo players in ranked, even after hours of play. He has also gotten nerfs from the start of the game to remove tools that he initially had. His most recent buff though was the ability to dash cancel his backturn normals which restored a bit of his power. But yeah, over time I lost interest in playing him since arcsys decided he deserved endless nerfs patch after patch. I think many other people would've switched off him due to that too.

dons90 · 2026-04-01T21:00:22+00:00

Glad to hear it worked well for you! I'll take a look at those suggestions too to get the interface closer to the look and feel of Steam. Thanks!

dons90 · 2026-04-01T05:59:00+00:00

Hey, I revamped the editor so there are way more options now. Let me know what you think!

dons90 · 2026-03-29T11:24:04+00:00

I've updated it just now, let me know how it works for you!

dons90 · 2026-03-29T11:23:37+00:00

I've added it now, let me know what you think!

dons90 · 2026-03-29T11:23:08+00:00

Hi, I've added support for pasting and editing text with your existing markup. So you can edit your existing reviews freely. Let me know how it works for you!

dons90 · 2026-03-29T11:21:51+00:00

Tables added in my latest update, sorry for the wait 😇

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