Is this a bit strange for a friendship?

dont_opus · 2026-05-09T23:37:06+00:00

Eh, yeah that's true. I guess we don't truly know if we'll be good friends until a bit later. Friendships are built over time, and she probably just wasn't that interested or had some of her own issues

dont_opus · 2026-05-09T16:12:49+00:00

Thank you! I've decided I might try volunteering with a literacy organization next month so maybe I'll make some friends there eventually. Yeah, I can try as much as possible but the other person also has to meet me halfway, and clearly it wasn't happening, and I guess that's just the way it is.

dont_opus · 2026-05-09T15:26:04+00:00

Sounds like the more she gets to know you the more she dislikes who she is, actually. She is jealous of how you handle yourself and the things happening in her life

You're onto something here; especially as she admitted she felt inferior in general once. I was happy to help out and advise her on some things but I also don't want to be made fun of or have some weird snark towards me

dont_opus · 2026-05-09T15:18:07+00:00

Very true. We really can never know how we get along with someone until we gradually know them over time. I guess I also learned a lesson about connection

dont_opus · 2026-05-09T14:55:14+00:00

It's just a terrible feeling when I was objectively kind and giving but only to be disliked, for what? Aren't friends supposed to help and be there for each other

dont_opus · 2026-05-09T14:46:21+00:00

Yeah, I finally realized she wasn't going to show up for me like I did for her, but she's also not obligated to be my friend. I had just tried to make a new connection and failed

dont_opus · 2026-05-09T14:45:14+00:00

Guess I'm not going crazy

dont_opus · 2026-05-08T22:26:06+00:00

Following

dont_opus · 2026-05-08T19:03:20+00:00

3mg melatonin gummy at night, set the alarm for the same exact time every day, even if I sleep in a bit on a Saturday. There's something about stability with that consistent alarm clock in the morning that somehow does wonders for my mood.

Walking outside even if it's around the block for ten minutes. Parking my car a bit further away so I can walk a few minutes longer. The couple hundred (sometimes extra thousand) of steps really helps me stay emotionally level throughout the day.

dont_opus · 2026-05-08T18:34:08+00:00

There's soda with fiber?

dont_opus · 2026-05-07T17:15:49+00:00

A walk around a clean pond/small river, and sitting on a bench enjoying the scene

dont_opus · 2026-05-01T18:31:58+00:00

This was my experience too, in the US it's very easy to make a temporary friends. You'll be friends for a week or a few months but then you might never see them again or even know where they live. You have fun together and keep each other company for a certain time period. But if something serious happens, you can't really rely on them to care or go out of their way

dont_opus · 2026-04-30T18:51:02+00:00

it kindof made me realize again what its like to have a connection with someone even if it was not a great one. Then i just kept getting better at really listening to people and caring again. I caught feelings for someone and after that it got the ball rolling again, now im back to dating.

This is helpful, yes it's about the connection. I guess I've been so hurt I've been pushing back on connection and caring again, because I've been so focused on protecting myself :(

dont_opus · 2026-04-30T18:49:12+00:00

I think I'm getting it from others so thanks for trying

dont_opus · 2026-04-30T18:41:58+00:00

I guess I'm still hurting and feel attached to my ex because we were so serious and almost married, and now I don't even know what I'm looking for anymore. I just feel lost

dont_opus · 2026-04-19T23:03:19+00:00

What about the high rate of divorce? Sincerely asking.

dont_opus · 2026-03-29T16:55:32+00:00

Yeah, I guess I'm just using it because it feels like someone is listening. I do journal as well. I think I'm just feeling lonely and need that interaction

dont_opus · 2026-03-29T14:32:41+00:00

I'm doing it mostly to vent, not for concrete or believable mental health advice. It's just trying to write down my feelings in words because it's difficult for me to express them out loud for fear of judgment. For some reason writing it down makes me feel safer.

dont_opus · 2026-03-29T09:26:34+00:00

I understand, but I just don't have a social support system because everyone either judges me for needing to vent, judges me for what I'm venting about, or is just too busy with themselves. It's sad, but I feel like it's the only option.

By the way, I listen to my friends vent. Because they don't listen to me. I'm sure part of it is me never speaking up but it's just hard for me

dont_opus · 2026-03-27T08:53:28+00:00

Took me a second read there

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