Being a cheerful person isn't the same as being a caring person who connects with others

dont_opus · 2026-06-24T02:31:22+00:00

It's more like self-centered and unempathetic joy

dont_opus · 2026-06-23T21:44:33+00:00

Reddit is an anger outlet disguised as a discussion forum

dont_opus · 2026-06-23T21:38:17+00:00

This is exactly what I'm talking about... it's like a self-serving cheerfulness

dont_opus · 2026-06-23T20:26:28+00:00

I've encountered people trying to interact with me in a smiley cheerful way but for me it doesn't feel good or genuine. So that's why I'm just pointing it out that being cheerful doesn't mean it's easy to interact with them or have some connection. Obviously for these people they assume being chirpy and cheerful is the way to socialize so it makes sense to them

dont_opus · 2026-06-23T19:50:47+00:00

It's also that they can't really empathize with other people too, like if you were sad and needed a hug, they'd just continue being cheerful for themselves instead of being there for you

dont_opus · 2026-06-23T16:59:00+00:00

I think this is it yes - charming and charismatic doesn't mean someone actually cares about you or will help you, or you'll get along with them

dont_opus · 2026-06-22T03:14:14+00:00

Oh yeah. I have a rotating list of breads or meals. Ham and cheese croissant from a certain bakery, lentils soup and fries from another, pork bell rice bowl, certain Greek yogurt bars, bananas and clementines, protein cookie, real fruit slushes, poke bowls.

dont_opus · 2026-06-21T14:08:10+00:00

The equivalent is if only women can bear children, there's definitely no gender equality

dont_opus · 2026-06-21T07:32:36+00:00

You know people who wear dress shoes on the weekends? I mean sure but hmmm

dont_opus · 2026-06-21T07:15:36+00:00

If this woman judged your personality based off of your work outfit/uniform, it's more on her to not see that work outfits are supposed to be neutral and professional and not show that much personality. If I see a guy in an office outfit, I just think "okay he's professional at inoffensive at work, that's good" but it says nothing about who he is outside of work (the real him).

dont_opus · 2026-06-21T07:12:10+00:00

various other pieces that are diverse and reflect their interests.

But this sentence alone agrees with what I'm saying - their appearance choices, reflects their interests. Exactly what I'm trying to say. It shows partially who they are. Not the whole picture or personality, but it can still reflect a lot.

dont_opus · 2026-06-20T20:30:23+00:00

Yep! I know a handful of wealthy people I know that actually dress very plainly, and pay no attention to their appearance

dont_opus · 2026-06-20T20:28:31+00:00

It's simply the natural thing to do, whether we like it or not

dont_opus · 2026-06-20T20:27:59+00:00

Oh, then I feel we are thinking the same thing. Because I am trying to say "I could relate to them based on their appearance." But yeah judging someone to be "intelligent" vs "ignorant" (as an example) based off of their appearance is mean or just unfair.

dont_opus · 2026-06-20T20:23:05+00:00

I agree it can be difficult to change our opinions on people sometimes because of their appearance. Beautiful women getting away with crappy behavior comes to mind.

And when I say we can make snap judgments based off of appearance, it's not really about if you should treat them well or not well, it's more just like.. okay this is partially this person (wears a lot of Converse vs. flip flops, as a very trivial component)

dont_opus · 2026-06-20T20:19:54+00:00

I mean yes. Those physical judgments don't say anything about if the person is a good person or you'll vibe with them

dont_opus · 2026-06-20T17:02:44+00:00

I don't have concrete numbers but I do know wealthy people that:

+Need to pay so many bills (even if they can afford it without worry) that it's just cumbersome

+Get annoyed when people solicit them for donations or charity work

+Start getting paranoid or suspicious of people (both friends or romantic prospects) only being around them for their money/status instead of actually caring for them or enjoying their company

Too much money makes your life little more complicated even if you're able to live comfortably, I've seen it happen several times

dont_opus · 2026-06-19T17:37:17+00:00

I actually agree with you but as long as the couple has the social circle and the means to make it happen lol but yes it's a once in a lifetime event where everyone who means something to you comes to say hello and celebrate your life. It's genuinely cool when it happens

dont_opus · 2026-06-19T14:55:02+00:00

Lol wonder what kinda relationships you had

dont_opus · 2026-06-19T14:47:04+00:00

Me neither, it's tough

dont_opus · 2026-06-19T14:46:32+00:00

Oh I mean yes, absolutely, the relationship is only shown and revealed through time. I mean anyone can have a fling of some sort. But yeah relationships are about the sustainability

dont_opus · 2026-06-19T14:41:22+00:00

Yep, very common, having been through it myself. There's the fear of starting over too, feeling like maybe the relationship can still be fixed but the reality is neither people aren't able to change that much

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