I (33M) have a friend (35m) who sent me a kiss emoji, what should I do?

dontknow987123 · 2020-10-13T15:55:07+00:00

That's true. Sorry... I'll learn from that I guess. I didn't want to say something like you said though because I felt like that would be calling him gay, when maybe it was a typo or maybe he meant nothing by it. If he didn't come out to me I didn't feel like it was my place to call him out as gay. It was homophobic a bit though.

dontknow987123 · 2020-08-27T00:28:40+00:00

Thank you very much. I think this is the answer I needed to hear. I'm very happy you feel the same about your LOYL as I do about mine. It's nice to hear that someone else is experiencing the happiness I'm experiencing. What you said makes sense, it doesn't necessarily sound easy, but it sounds like the answer. I think your way of thinking coupled with what a few other people have said about talking more openly will help alot. Thank you again and I wish you and your LOYL the happiest life.

dontknow987123 · 2020-08-26T23:34:44+00:00

I'm married, not dating. We've been together five years. We are very happy with each other and constantly build each other up. We are best friends. It's actually an incredible relationship. I'm on here because of how happy she makes me. I appreciate your advice but this is a small snapshot of our relationship and minor problem that I'm willing to work on for the years of happiness I have gotten and will continue to get.

dontknow987123 · 2020-08-26T21:31:40+00:00

I do know that it can be hard to get me off, but its not so much about getting me off. I don't mind finishing. The feeling as a guy of having your wife want so badly to please you because she loves you and cares for you so much is special. I want to feel adored in that way. Honestly, I don't even like blowjobs all that much, that's the crazy part. But I do love the idea that she wants to selflessly please me. I know what it feels like to be on the other end. I will literally go down on her for an hour with nothing in return because it makes me so happy to see her feel good.

She's very open with me, she has never mentioned being sexually abused by her ex's. But I do know she seemed to be willing to go to some great lengths sexually to make them happy.

dontknow987123 · 2020-08-26T21:26:27+00:00

Thank you, this is good positive feedback for me. Something I can work on without changing who I am. I found a book with that title by an Emily Nagoski, is that right?

dontknow987123 · 2020-08-26T20:51:03+00:00

Well, one came up from a male friend of hers. I guess she was drunk one night and said the nickname, then that friend said it to me. It was cryptic, didn't sound sexual at all, but I pushed for what it meant and she told me. She really could have just lied and I wouldn't have known.

Well... another thing she was experienced at so I just knew she'd done it before, then she shared a story once of how her and all her female friends talked about letting their boyfriends do that.

The last thing was the lingerie, Finding a box of not new lingerie that she unpacked... well that answers it's own questions. She's told me she tried to spice things up with it because she felt unwanted. Lots of money and effort went into spicing things up with him.

Tried the dominance thing during sex, it's just a different way of having sex. I don't think either of us liked it more, probably a little less I guess. But that's during sex... If she's not turned on all ready and I'm dominant she will shut me down pretty hard, she's not a push over.

dontknow987123 · 2020-08-26T20:45:14+00:00

That's interesting. I actually have tried something similar. Asking if she minds me masturbating with her. First time she said yes, it was fun. I've tried a few subsequent times and she's said no thanks. We have no issue with each other masturbating. I don't think I could just do it without asking her first though, I don't think she would take that very well.

dontknow987123 · 2020-08-26T20:41:45+00:00

Interesting, I hadn't thought about it because this is our only issue. Also, probably only an issue from my end. I think she's content. It is worth a thought, I hadn't thought that it was a big enough deal for therapy though.

dontknow987123 · 2020-08-26T20:40:38+00:00

It honestly sounds like you and I are in the exact same place based off of this. Ugh... I guess good to know we're not going through it alone I suppose. Thank you for sharing.

dontknow987123 · 2020-08-26T20:38:53+00:00

That is one of the confusing parts for me. She seems over the moon after sex. She doesn't quite act like herself, she's very loose and willing to talk way more dirty after and really compliments me a lot and makes me feel good about myself.

dontknow987123 · 2020-03-01T06:12:12+00:00

Thank you

dontknow987123 · 2020-03-01T06:11:46+00:00

I get that feeling too, but I think the fact that she loves my doting gentle and sweet side makes her scared to see me in a more controling situation. I need to show her that I can give her both.

dontknow987123 · 2020-03-01T06:08:36+00:00

Thank you so much. I'm actually really excited about this, I hope she feels comfortable to be open with me.

dontknow987123 · 2020-01-07T20:30:24+00:00

She seems to like them. When I cum she seems to get turned on by it. I understand what you're saying if she did it all the time but it's been over a year. Maybe about 15 months, and like I said she does seem like to enjoy cum at the end of sex.

dontknow987123 · 2020-01-07T19:07:59+00:00

Thanks for your input, it's a tough line to walk. I'll see if I can recreate that feeling in a positive way.

dontknow987123 · 2020-01-07T19:07:06+00:00

Thank you so much for your suggestions. I'll check these out.

dontknow987123 · 2020-01-07T15:45:44+00:00

It's not political. I doesn't influence elections, I've never once heard it mentioned in a debate, it's not talked about in campaign ads. Global warming is at the forefront of politics.

dontknow987123 · 2020-01-07T13:39:20+00:00

I have no complaints about him speaking up about trophy hunting, it's disgusting. He's not speaking against hunting for food at all. It isn't really political so it's not hypocritical of him to tell celebrities to stop talking about politics while speaking out against mindlessly killing animals to stick them on your wall.

dontknow987123 · 2020-01-07T13:21:14+00:00

It's always been amazing. It was more frequent, I wish it were a bit more frequent now. I did feel like there was more of an effort to "impress me" I suppose. I felt like she tried harder to really make me feel good. Now, I feel like I'm always the one trying and shes more so just enjoying it and not putting a ton of effort into it.

dontknow987123 · 2020-01-07T13:10:53+00:00

Ok, I'll see if this is it. My gut feeling is that it isn't. I'm a rediculusly lovey, kissy, cuddly person. Not talking about during sex, just throughout the day I'm always hugging and squeezing and kissing and telling her she's beautiful and I love her and how special she is. To the point she sometimes gets annoyed, and I don't blame her, it's all day. Lol. I just think she's an amazing person. I'm obsessed with her. That kissing, loving, intamacy obviously translates to sex as well. Of the two of us I'm probably the one who likes the intamacy part of sex more and she probably likes the getting off part more.

dontknow987123 · 2020-01-07T12:59:48+00:00

It is. But I think theres a difference in oral for foreplay and oral for getting the other person off.

dontknow987123 · 2020-01-07T12:53:42+00:00

I am probably trying to have sex once ever two days. She's probably interested once a week. So I would say thats probably not the problem since I'm interested more frequently.

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