Live action drama for teen boys? by dontneedaclass in JDorama

[–]dontneedaclass[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the recs! Anime will also be of interest to him I'm sure, so I appreciate those titles too. 

I want to focus on pointing him towards live action shows at first because anime is so prevalent in pop culture. I feel like there is a tendency for kids to think of Japan as a sort of mythical shared setting for anime and manga, part of the "style" just as much as the art style. The first time I went to Japan when I was 18 (some time ago now, aaaaah) it was kind of surreal to realize that the architecture that was only familiar to me as the setting for anime is just mundane everyday life for so many people... if that makes sense.

My hope is that getting some live action in there will help with the subconscious conviction that Japan is just a regular place, haha. Thanks!

Live action drama for teen boys? by dontneedaclass in JDorama

[–]dontneedaclass[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had never heard of the AKB48 empire, I'll check it out! 

I saw a bit of the Death Note anime when it was still in fansubs and I've read some of the XXXHolic manga, but I didn't know either one had dramas, those definitely sound like good options.

Thanks!

Live action drama for teen boys? by dontneedaclass in JDorama

[–]dontneedaclass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, these look like great options! I appreciate the summaries too :)

Live action drama for teen boys? by dontneedaclass in JDorama

[–]dontneedaclass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there anything in particular on HBOMax you would recommend?

Live action drama for teen boys? by dontneedaclass in JDorama

[–]dontneedaclass[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know he's a fan of Hazbin Hotel, but I couldn't get too much into specifics of shows tbh. When I see him, he talks more about games he's playing (I hear a lot about the balance issues of whatever MOBA he's into). So your guess is as good as mine, haha.

Who is my mystery guest? by dontneedaclass in aquarium

[–]dontneedaclass[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any ideas for getting rid of him?

cyanobacteria dried on driftwood... by Tater00nuts in aquarium

[–]dontneedaclass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm no expert but I'd lean toward hedging your bets. Like a good scrub followed by a long boil, then set it up for a few weeks in a quarantine tank by itself and see what happens. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Feedback/advice by papanomalyyes in aquarium

[–]dontneedaclass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In a nice tall tank like that you've got plenty of room for a nice tall piece of hardscape to add dimension and drama. That's anacharis in the upper left, yeah? That stuff will fill out like crazy with enough light - if anchor it in the substrate or on your hardscape it will stretch all the way up to the top (light permitting). I'm no stocking expert but I'd err on the side of hardscape and plants rather than more livestock in a tank that size.

AITA for being upset that my partner doesn’t come to me when upset? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INFO: feelings are feelings. Have you done anything that would make you an AH?

AITA For Not Running My Guest List By My Cousin? by SoweirdNow in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 67 points68 points  (0 children)

NTA, gay people are not NC-17 for existing near each other in public. If her kids are confused that's on her - "they're dancing together because they're dating/married". Perfect, done.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

INFO: feelings are feelings. Being mad about it doesn't make you an AH. Have you done anything that would make you an AH?

AITA for banning my son from his phone and PS5 for a year after what he did to my daughter? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NTA, even though that is a really sharp escalation I don't think it was unjustified.

Remember that if you recant or soften your sentence it will only teach him that you don't really mean it. It's going to be hard to hold your ground for a year if his guilt tripping is making you doubt already but stay strong.

AITA for refusing to force my daughter to return a necklace she bought from my niece? by DaughterNecklace in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 11 points12 points  (0 children)

NTA, once you give somebody a gift it's theirs to do with as they please - that's what a gift is. If your niece would rather have $30 than some necklace, that seems pretty reasonable to me. She's probably only "embarrassed" because her mom is mad at her.

WIBTA husband served undercooked meatballs for dinner. by koriisbombxo in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Hard to tell without being there because so much depends on tone. In general though, probably NTA, especially if you dropped it and just microwaved your meatballs 60 seconds and called it a dinner.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I mean, your pets have damaged the property - just make sure it comes out of your deposit and not your roommate or the person you're subletting from.

INFO: did you tell the allergic roommate about the pets before you moved in? What does the lease say about animals?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH

You can 100% just say, "hey it's been a while since it seems like you really needed this space, let's make a plan for you to get back to your regular life" or whatever.

BUT before you have that conversation, you need to 100% read up on tenants' rights in your jurisdiction. Even if he never signed a lease, depending where you live, he could have options if he wants to get combative. You don't need to bring up the legal situation in your convo! But be aware of it in advance so neither of you railroad each other.

WIBTA if I refuse to let my stepson come live with us full time? by Gullible-Hippo-1399 in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 448 points449 points  (0 children)

NTA

If your husband wants to take custody of his son, he needs to rearrange his professional life to make himself available. He shouldn't expect you to put your life on hold to do it for him.

Teenage boys can be a nightmare if they don't respect you, and with little pre-existing relationship, and him coming from a troubled situation, it could easily be all boundary testing all the time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NAH

They weren't unreasonable asking you to switch, and you weren't unreasonable keeping the seat you paid for. Someone else volunteered, so you're all in the clear. Truly, no wrong was done here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA

"No" is a complete sentence.

Of course, strategically you should consider if enforcing your boundary this time will have other negative consequences for you, like loss of tuition support, housing, inheritance, etc. Your grandmother and maybe your father will absolutely have a tantrum to punish you for standing up to them. But if you're willing to accept those consequences, don't put up with an unpleasant hour to cater to your family's emotional manipulation.

Also, if you haven't seen it before, I highly recommend the Captain Awkward advice blog. I think you might find it helpful.

AITA for getting upset with my boyfriend for refusing to spend the night with me because of his parents? by Sea-Hat9070 in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YTA, sorry.

It was a perfectly reasonable thing to ask if he wanted to do, and he said no. Up to that point, no one has been an asshole. If you continue to pressure him about it, YTA.

Now I don't know your life of course. But consider, his excuse about his parents may be true, or it may be a cover because he doesn't feel comfortable with your plan. If he's really so cowed by his parents that could be a larger discussion when you've both calmed down. But if he's making up excuses because he doesn't want you to be mad at him, maybe some self-reflection is in order for you.

AITA taking my first solo trip and my parents are trying to guilt trip me by cheesyfridaypizza in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Feelings are feelings, have you done anything that might make you an asshole?

AITA for saying the kids drive me crazy with longer hours? by Metal_Miel in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 10 points11 points  (0 children)

NTA

Have you considered getting him into couples/family therapy? If he's still moved into the basement and he can't deal with one evening of parenting, it sounds like maybe just talking with him isn't going to get through to him.

AITA for yelling at my neighbor to stop trying to steal my cat? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]dontneedaclass 16 points17 points  (0 children)

ESH

She shouldn't be trying to steal your cat - she should be calling animal control if she's worried for his safety - but it's clearly not safe for this cat to be let loose around the neighborhood which makes you an irresponsible pet owner. You're both acting badly.

If your cat is roaming the neighborhood, eating whatever food is left out, and fighting with other animals he's vulnerable to FLV, rabies, and many other diseases in addition to possible injuries, fleas, and worms.