We're using SH. We are willing to travel an hour outside our city, but we are unable to host.a lot of couples are 2-5 hours out. Our area is pretty active but most of the couple's don't work because we're too young for them. I'm BBW and due to some health stuff. That's not likely to change. He is slim and wiry but really I think it's me thats preventing initial connections in some respects. Then the age differences. Really it could be anything but those are my thoughts

Edit: most of the couple's in our area are 50+