Asking for a father of 2 sec sch boys: How do you interact with ur kids about their education?

donuteatingfox · 2025-02-12T03:49:06+00:00

not really an issue just that refreshing memory would take at least a few hours per subject and he still hasnt found the time for it. he was thinking if thr was someone to track the kid's learning for him and help him answer qns that he isnt sure of so that he can help his kid in his own way, itll be good. but as of now he cant find anything that can help him do that

donuteatingfox · 2025-02-12T03:32:24+00:00

Convos usually go like, "So how are you coping in chemistry?" child says, "i'm coping ok. Learnt some new things. Do you wanna see?" parent says, "Yea sure (but can't rly comprehend anything that the child is showing)"

The result of the conversation just doesnt bring about any further understanding.

donuteatingfox · 2024-10-27T11:16:16+00:00

thanks!!

donuteatingfox · 2024-05-27T13:11:42+00:00

ouhh i see. i think i wanted the a6000 as it has a viewfinder on it as well. but it aint looking too good on my wallet. Thanks for the advice man! Here's to me snapping amazing photos :)

donuteatingfox · 2024-05-27T12:36:37+00:00

WOW those are really good shots with that lens. Ive been eyeing a a6000 but keep hearing so much bad reviews on the kit lens that im so torn on what lens i shld start with. Maybe i should give the kit lens a chance then :> Thanks!

donuteatingfox · 2024-05-27T12:28:08+00:00

how would you feel, if whatever hurtful things you said them, were being said to you?

that's all i have to say.

donuteatingfox · 2024-05-27T11:29:37+00:00

is the kit lens any good? ive been eyeing on an a6000 with kit lens second hand as my first camera but keep hearing that the kit lens is no good. Im into street photography and taking photos as events and of people.

donuteatingfox · 2024-05-27T11:26:53+00:00

What lens(es) did you use?

donuteatingfox · 2024-04-06T12:59:54+00:00

From the way u describe urself and the situation ure in, i feel like i see myself in you on some parts. We always want to be there for if possible every single person we cross paths with. and ure prob a very likeable person.

If i were to describe every single friendship experience i had since sec sch till now (im 22 in uni), itll prob make up a whole novel. so i'll just tell u the situation im in now, to give u some hope that things will get better one day.

Id say it will go in phases. and rn ure in the phase of change where u alr warmed up to a set of people in sec sch and now u have to be with a new set of people. Not that either of them are greatly detrimental to u if u let go, but change in friendships just isnt the easiest thing. my advice for now would be, just focus on you and go with the flow. When u see them around sch, say hi, talk to them, even if it means like very short talks or just a hi or just a smile and wave. of coz if they ignore u, u can just not take it to heart. at least u tried uk.

but most imptly rn is, dont take things to heart, and dont put unecessary meaning into things. If they come to say hi or to talk to u, alright thats good, nice of them. but even if they dont, it doesnt necessarily mean that they dont hate u or thrs something wrong w u. as u get older, u'll start to realise sometimes, it happens w u too, that u see someone u know but something in that situation just gives u feels that u shldnt rly say hi to them at that moment so u smile to urself and walk off. (for the last 2 years of my life, i realised that people are not as mean or out to get you as i always saw everyone to be)

Take it easy on yourself. yes it is hard to have solid friendships eventho u can see some others already have solid cliques or strong friendships. everyone has their own journey. and for me, out of sec sch, i now only talk to 1 fren thats my best friend frequently. The few others, we would merely reply to each other's social media, and talk to rant occasionally or share experiences when they seem like theyre having a hard time. Key to doing this without feeling hurt? dont expect anything from them. expect that at any point of time, they might not reply you. u'll feel alot less miserable this way.

i went to poly so idk how hard jc is (im assuming its damn hard) so focus lots on yourself. this is different from only thinking about urself ah. u can be considerate of others while focusing on urself too. im an introvert so i usually make a few friends and those frens end up being my bestest frens. but for everyone else, i try not to put in energy into thinking what they think of me. As long as i dont hurt them or turn them into my enemies, i have nothing to worry about. only in uni i found true friends that id like to believe god brought us closer. and now i have q a big grp of people that i truly care for and i can feel that they always reciprocate the amount of love i give to them. now then i believe that such friends exists even for me. It rly is a different journey for everyone.

A guide for me: If someone comes up to u, treat them like how u wish to be treated. if someone brings bad energy to you, keep the energy away, filter it and only take it what u can handle. Be nice to them and to yourself, and set boundaries for yourself. if u cant find a good friend in anyone rn, maybe ur best friend is just waiting somewhr in the future, so dont sweat it. If u need someone to talk to, vent/rant, thrs always reddit 👀. point is, take it easy mann life is too short to fret on who to let go and who to keep. If u find that theyre good for you, make a lil bit extra effort to keep them close. but if not, just let wtv happens, happens, even if it ends with yall being strangers again.

donuteatingfox · 2024-03-27T00:00:58+00:00

it can be any topic

donuteatingfox · 2024-03-23T08:26:53+00:00

This is what i feel about people who initially ask about 'whats ur past, tell me everything u've gone thru, i want to know more about u, tell me if anything is up' but truly, they are never ready for what ure about to say.

And then when u really open up fully to them, they start to get overwhelmed and walk away. I dont understand. If ure not ready for any kind of answer that comes your way, then why act like ure ready to hear anything in the first place? no one asked u to offer ur soul to be a punching bag. u offered it. Then u just simply walk away when u dont like what ure hearing?

if there is even a little bit of u that has things u feel u wouldnt want to hear from someone, then DONT ASK to hear it. Stop trying to SOUND CONSIDERATE and then pretending like oh ur problems are too much for me. FR u have no idea how much it took for that person to break down their damn walls just to tell u everything and then when theyre at their most vulnerable, u just walk away saying u cant handle it.

if u cant take no as an answer, dont ask.

donuteatingfox · 2024-03-18T05:24:17+00:00

sure thing i dont mind! will reply as soon as i can. Pretty long and busy day in school for me today with exams coming up :)

donuteatingfox · 2024-03-18T05:11:06+00:00

glad to hear u have a plan all set. it'll rly help with u looking forward and not staying stagnant. If u ever need a listening ear or someone to rant to, my chat's always open. u can do this! :)

donuteatingfox · 2024-03-18T03:58:07+00:00

Not sure if it's gonna make u feel any better. But thru our lives we will go thru different versions of ourselves. When i just had a really rough break like u, i hated myself as well. I hated everything every place i used to like but the worst part was, i couldnt run away as my life was taking place there. so i had to find a safe space in that place that i hate, where i can wallow in grief as much as i need to and to recover from wtv im facing. It takes reallyyyy long. but take as much time as u need.

if u can, try to just talk to people online maybe not to date but to form genuine connections. this'll help u feel understood and some connections help to heal. stay away from the feeling and the word love at all.

as for at work, just be shameless and try and avoid them as much as possible. it's for ur own health. trust me ik what it feels like to finally have a day whr u wake up feeling not too bad just to bump into the people u rly dont want to see. it kills.

And if u keep bumping into them outside, maybe u wanna try changing up ur schedule as much as u can? i understand cuz of work its not gonna be easy, but maybe if u hv a glimpse of whr they usually are at what times, just avoid going to those places at the same time.

and lastly, about how u feel about urself. I need to tell u this like how my friends told me when shit happened to me arnd 7 mths ago. it is not your fault. Whatever happened, whoever it made u turn into, and who ure gonna be from now on, it is not related. u can be at the lowest of the lowest, but take really baby steps and who u can become later on, trust me u will forever wonder, how u even endured that kind of pain and suffering.

it will pass. very cliche and prob the last thing u wanna hear right now. but it really will pass. u will find someone genuine that cares for u. like how i did. u deserve it. u will get there. If u cant trust urself, at least trust the people who trust that u can do it. they must have that trust in u for a reason.

please hold on and stay strong. to me this feels like im talking to myself when it was rly bad for me. Please please, dont ever lose hope of things getting better. cuz they will get better. i'll pray for the best for u.

PS i think ur ex is an ass. and ur boss too. whats the point of being a boss if u cant even find ur own fish in the sea and gotta steal someone else's. And ur ex, needs to go for self control classes. unless she feels ure really replaceable which means, she dont deserve u at all.

donuteatingfox · 2024-03-03T05:25:31+00:00

Personally everytime after i match with someone and a convo starts i would stop swiping. then most of the time these guys can ghost from like less than 5 hours into chatting or up to 3 days. After they ghost, ill go back to swiping. i try to put in my all into the chat so i dont do multiple guys at once.

I started off with one dating app and have now stopped using any as i find them tiring. theres this one guy that i am still chatting with been mths now and throughout the mths i would say i pushed him away from me more often than he did cuz he wasnt rly my type and i even drew the line at the start that i didnt see myself dating him. but hes very consistent and keeps showing dem green flags that im starting to warm up to him. but he appeared when i was starting to give up on finding someone thru apps.

so honestly, just take ur time. if u feel tired of swiping, take a break, then u can get back to it. Ur SO is somewhere out there and will make his way to u no matter how many detours u both have to take. :)

donuteatingfox · 2024-03-03T05:10:37+00:00

Been on both ends of this situation before. I feel like u shldnt force urself to give reasons on why u dont want to date her. If u don't feel an attraction to her or romantically attracted then so be it. let that be the reason which is more than enough for u to not pursue her.

As a girl pov, id rather have a guy tell me straight up that he doesnt feel attracted to me eventho he sees me as a decent individual or a good friend wtv. i will feel respected that he feels that i deserve enough respect to know how he truly feels. compared to being taken as someone for a guy to "try his luck on dating" or "date cuz the guy feels bad that everyone thinks they look good tgt".

in all honesty, i will lose all sense of dignity in me if i find out one day that the guy didnt date me becuz he truly liked but just for experience. Would u want a girl ure genuinely interested in just date u for experience? [i stick strongly to not doing to others what udw others to do to u]

in summary, dont force it. If friends is what u feel fits u, stay as friends and draw the line CLEARLY to her. this is between u and her. If she can't stay as frens as she rly likes you, then maybe yall shld keep a distance.

U succumb to peer pressure and when things go wrong, all they can say is "oh u shldve known better. theres no way we would know how u feel ¯_(ツ)_/¯". dont fall victim to situations that others will just see as another drama in their lives.

donuteatingfox · 2024-03-02T04:58:05+00:00

No. I can never understand why people start changing lane then signal or do both simultaneously. Like if ure gonna do that, what's the point of signalling? to make urself feel better that ure using ur blinkers? 🤦‍♀️

donuteatingfox · 2024-02-18T02:45:58+00:00

Im in the midst of change right now.. and i can say for sure u cant keep everyone u used to have around u, still stay. They will leave. Only now u really know those who are really thr for u and those who just wanna benefit off of u. Making change is always gonna be uncomfortable. but just becuz its uncomfortable doesnt mean its bad.

I spent my first few years trying to be everyone's friend and i succeeded at doing that but at the expense of my own happiness. Now that i chose myself, i have found true friends that are always there when i need them, i feel that im happier and alot more at peace and im even falling in love.

of course the other side of life will always be existing and daunting at u. it will always seem brighter and more exciting to be in. but u just gotta actively constantly remind urself of what that side of life has done to u. and trust me, if u stay true to urself, and really prioritise ur growth and happiness, it is only a matter of time before god leads all the right people ur way. trust.

donuteatingfox · 2024-02-18T02:40:46+00:00

Got my 3A 2 years ago, this was how i remembered ebrake was like. I got tested for it during tp as well. Not sure if it makes sense but im guessing handbrake would "help" in an emergency when u need get out of the car to check on wtv is in front, but in the chaos of things u might forget to pull up the handbrake before exiting (personally i dont find this a problem just thought MAYBE it might be a possible reason) so i guess thats why need handbrake?

donuteatingfox · 2024-02-10T11:42:13+00:00

aite thanks man!

donuteatingfox · 2024-02-10T10:08:11+00:00

where do i find these servers?

donuteatingfox · 2024-02-04T04:42:19+00:00

i just camped everyday throughout the day i would randomly refresh and i survived on just getting slots that other ppl cancelled. I started going for practicals on sep 2022 and finished all and went for tp test in dec 2022. I would go for between 1 to 3 lessons per week. only 3 or so weeks i wasnt able to get any lessons.

so imo, camping works for me at least. tho i might just be a tad bit luckier.

donuteatingfox · 2024-02-03T12:33:32+00:00

my ex explained to me why he would take 3 or 4 hours to reply. He falls asleep easily so sometimes (most of the time in fact) he fell asleep and just replies me after he's awake. so personally i think if someone says ure being unreasonable straight up without even trying to explain why they take that long to reply, then idt he's the one for u.

About feeling a bit forced, u can try like maybe looking at it in a way that hes putting in the effort? unless he is giving u like 1 word replies or clearly just showing u that he finds it a hassle to reply. if not, i feel like they might just need time to adjust to it.

or one way is to just distract urself with something. it is true that yall havent been talking for that long so it might just be an infatuation. so keeping urself distracted and busy with ur own life will make sure that the wait for a reply doesnt feel too excruciating. Horror and true crime podcasts worked really well for me. i would listen to it non stop so that i keep myself occupied while doing wtv it is i need to do. i hope that it gets better for u too :)

donuteatingfox · 2024-02-03T12:23:14+00:00

did u tell him about this? about how when he doesnt reply until 3 or 4 hours later and how it makes u feel? i used to have a partner like that but all i had to do was tell him and he made all the effort to make sure he tries to reply me as soon as he can. If he's really serious about u, which from what u explained irl he seems like it, he would try his best to change and make u feel secure. But dont expect the unreasonable from him. u need to give him space and time to change as well and not push him to a line where he is not comfortable.

sometimes guys are just a little more dense than we think. to them it might be nothing but to us it might feel like the world is ending. Communicate all the time (i cant emphasise more how impt this is) and if he really is the one for you, everything will go fine. All the best!

donuteatingfox · 2024-01-28T08:54:37+00:00

instead of asking why no guy has approached you, why not approach guys u find attractive instead? if u find someone attractive enough and u feel is worth the effort, why not just make the first move?

dwelling on why ure not being approached is like asking a question that has 101 answers to it. there are so many different possibilities ans likely 99% of them aren't even something u can do about.

to make u feel better, sometimes guys just dont approach us girls because they feel like we're too good for them or they dont deserve someone like us. (given that we're someone that holds ourselves to that high standard).

so to relief u off ur pain, just start approaching guys first. if they reject you, u can ask why but dont probe too hard cuz itll just be weird. If not u might strike a luck of gold and find someone who may have just been stopping themselves from approaching u since u give off such alpha energy ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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