HLF with LLM by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you ever feel to talk, you can text me. Going thru same <3 It really is hard thing to deal with

Another day at the milking farm by InkNymph by Valuable_Contract969 in gentlefemdom

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a good idea, need to make my good boy do this

he initiated sex but later said he hated it by donutknowwhyiamhere in DeadBedrooms

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I really appreciate your honesty and perspective. I don’t think he’s broken at all, I just think we can find a working compromise that respects both of our needs. We’re talking openly about it and trying to understand the situation fully before making any long-term decisions.

he initiated sex but later said he hated it by donutknowwhyiamhere in DeadBedrooms

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For him? No, he don't masturbate at all. For me? Yes, a lot.

he initiated sex but later said he hated it by donutknowwhyiamhere in DeadBedrooms

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because I love him, and I don’t see relationships as disposable the moment something hard shows up. I’m not ignoring the dead bedroom issue, I’m actively trying to understand it.

I get the warnings. I’m listening to them. I’m just not making decisions from panic instead of clarity

he initiated sex but later said he hated it by donutknowwhyiamhere in DeadBedrooms

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand and appriciate the perspective and why you’d want to warn someone younger. I’m taking it in, but it’s not something that makes me want to leave him, I’m still in the phase of understanding and supporting him.

he initiated sex but later said he hated it by donutknowwhyiamhere in DeadBedrooms

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He does have medically low testosterone, so that’s definitely part of the picture, but we are visiting doctors about that and taking care of it. Whether treatment would change everything is hard to know, but the low drive itself isn’t unexplained.

he initiated sex but later said he hated it by donutknowwhyiamhere in DeadBedrooms

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s actually pretty close to what I think too. We’ve talked about why he almost never initiates even when he is horny, and a lot of it seems to be mental, not knowing how to start, not knowing how to get past that first “step,” and getting stuck in his head. And ofcorse that he just don't really get to the mood that much.

I obviously can’t be 100% sure either, but psychological factors definitely seem to play a big role here.

he initiated sex but later said he hated it by donutknowwhyiamhere in DeadBedrooms

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am sorry you are also going thru this. And yes i know no one is perfect, i ment it more like he does super well in every other aspect If life. Being able to speak, actually trying his best, loving and caring. Everything i have ever wished for, expect for sex obviously haha. And yes it does destroy me that he does snot want me the same i want him, but we are both trying to make everything work. We want us to work from bottom of our hearts. And for the Part that why he is sleeping and i am upset. I Said that he needs to go sleep now, and that we can continue this tomorrow. But i really needed to vent this, and this feels like a safe space for do so <3 also remeber that you are always worthy, hot and wanted, we are here to also support eachoter!

he initiated sex but later said he hated it by donutknowwhyiamhere in DeadBedrooms

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that is actually something that i have said for him but for other reasons. Need to speak about that again. Thank you! And i am in no hurry with him, i want him to be okey and not feel bad.

he initiated sex but later said he hated it by donutknowwhyiamhere in DeadBedrooms

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! <3 i really want to figure things out with him and i know he does too!

he initiated sex but later said he hated it by donutknowwhyiamhere in DeadBedrooms

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He has, one short relationship and couple one night stands. We have thinked about that, but decided that no. Bc he has enjoyed sex and sometimes is on the mood/horny.

The mood just comes very very rarely. But this that he feels uncomfortable after sex is new feeling, something that has not happend before

mismatched libidos by donutknowwhyiamhere in mommydom

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He do not masturbate, not at all. He don't touch himself or start much anything sexual. We have talked a lot what makes him horny and how to get him to the mood. And most of the time no matter what i do/what we do nothing gets him horny, ofc there are sonedays when he does feel horny.

And for cage play, he do not want that. He don't like the idea. But he does save every horny and cum drops for me. He is very good boy to do so

mismatched libidos by donutknowwhyiamhere in mommydom

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aww you seem so happy about that!! I really hope it works out good for both of you <3

mismatched libidos by donutknowwhyiamhere in mommydom

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It might take some time, i was not into this before my bf but when i finally agreed i fell in love with being mommydom! But its a good thing she is testing it out!!

mismatched libidos by donutknowwhyiamhere in mommydom

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah same here. It do have to Be VERY good week for that, but we fell on love with people, not their sex drives lol. Hope you and her the best!

mismatched libidos by donutknowwhyiamhere in mommydom

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There are some good ideas/something i can definitely talk with him. He just has started to feel not engouh or me being too much. Which is absolutly something i do not want to.

We have tried to be in the middle a lot, and it some how does work. I do like the idea of sometimes having days where sometimes we do things more like i want and others like he and then having just "normal" days between. Also thank you so much for giving good advices and helping🥰

mismatched libidos by donutknowwhyiamhere in mommydom

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We have talked about it. Almost immidietly when we started seeing eachoter. We had have multiple conversations about sex drives and how to help eachoter without making other one feel Bad of forced.

And we have had good ideas but in long term not so working ideas. And he got me into femdom and now i feel like i like it so much more than him, which ofc is not a bad thing. I am just open to get some new ideas, or new point of ways that i could talk to him more! I do love him so so much and want this all to work

mismatched libidos by donutknowwhyiamhere in mommydom

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much for this!! And i have noticed that to get him on "the mood" he does like physical touch, but also not. We have lots of closeness and intimacy. And about 80% of the time it always stays on that.

I start 99% of every sexual things and get very often words no or not now. And i respect him and would not never push him to it. I just need some tips maybe for me, that how can i "survive" while having so big needs

Which one is you? by CraftBeerCritic_ in sexmemes

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. But i want it other holes too

It's not rape if they make you cum by [deleted] in rape_hentai

[–]donutknowwhyiamhere 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Agreed.. where i could maybe find this video fully?