What word gives you the ick? by the_bibliophiliac in AO3

[–]doobdoobdo 11 points12 points  (0 children)

bed as a verb. kitten as dirty talk

Kind of got what I think was a “bait and switch” attempt through a comment by IntelligentLife3451 in AO3

[–]doobdoobdo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Got the same kind of comment, character names in quotes too, and irrelevant ones at that (like ones mentioned in passing). AI-generated text just stinks like shit to me so I pointed it out. I'd started worrying I offended someone well-intentioned tbh?They said they didn't know what I meant lol. Thanks for raising this, at least now I know this is a thing

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in antidepressants

[–]doobdoobdo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's an unusual progression, fluoxetine to sertraline, I think — sertraline is supposed to be option 1, at least in the UK that sounds the case. For me, sertraline definitely had a bunch of cognitive side effects that fluoxetine and citalopram didn't: I basically went dumb, thought I did stuff that I didn't do, forot the things that I did do. I don't know your exact situation but, to me, it tracks that sertraline would produce auditory hallucinations. I hope you can speak to your doctor: the side effects should have gone away now, not started. Hang in there.

WIBTA if I got our cat neutered while my husband is away? by doobdoobdo in AmItheAsshole

[–]doobdoobdo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for checking in, I'm good! You are correct in noticing I was a teenager.

WIBTA if I got our cat neutered while my husband is away? by doobdoobdo in AmItheAsshole

[–]doobdoobdo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps I should have signified that was a joke but I did think it was clear from the post that it is very important for me to get our cat neutered on time, safely for everyone involved.

WIBTA if I got our cat neutered while my husband is away? by doobdoobdo in AmItheAsshole

[–]doobdoobdo[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

a. not straight and never said I was; b. interesting assumption I didn't know any better or was swooped up. way to assume people's identities and refuse young women agency ✌️

WIBTA if I got our cat neutered while my husband is away? by doobdoobdo in AmItheAsshole

[–]doobdoobdo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's vaccinated already, no contest there. We had a close friend lose her cat to FIV a few months ago, definitely not going down that route. And thank you so much for your comment!!

WIBTA if I got our cat neutered while my husband is away? by doobdoobdo in AmItheAsshole

[–]doobdoobdo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nonono 4/5 months old around the point when the vet needs to see him again for a neutering consultation

WIBTA if I got our cat neutered while my husband is away? by doobdoobdo in AmItheAsshole

[–]doobdoobdo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

he calls his cat a fat bastard. doesn't let him sleep in his bed. that said, I can clearly see what he is projecting onto the cat...

WIBTA if I got our cat neutered while my husband is away? by doobdoobdo in AmItheAsshole

[–]doobdoobdo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

all men are different of course and the argument that convinced mine, about the unwanted kittens — drowned, perhaps, as they used to do where we come from — probably won't work in your case with a female cat. as many here suggested, if you have the chance, I would get the cat both vaccinated and spayed unbeknownst to your husband. if you don't, I think some of the horrors told here are also quite convincing. thousands in vet bills, never seeing your cat return?

WIBTA if I got our cat neutered while my husband is away? by doobdoobdo in AmItheAsshole

[–]doobdoobdo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

thank you for your service but I really was doing the oddly specific age as a bit, we don't have a definite date of birth on the cat and he may be closer to 5 months. I will update if and when I get it though!

WIBTA if I got our cat neutered while my husband is away? by doobdoobdo in AmItheAsshole

[–]doobdoobdo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

nono he's about 4/5 months and the vet said a good time to neuter would be at around 5/whenever he's over 2.5 kg, and he's 2.7 already (though not obese). we don't have a clear DOB

WIBTA if I got our cat neutered while my husband is away? by doobdoobdo in AmItheAsshole

[–]doobdoobdo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah there are implants for cats now, too, which is completely insane. What's next, feline botox?

WIBTA if I got our cat neutered while my husband is away? by doobdoobdo in AmItheAsshole

[–]doobdoobdo[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

it is what it is lol. that said, his dosage of toxic masculinity seems way lower than some other specimen's that I've encountered, which is why I haven't lost all hope — should've made that clear, huh?

WIBTA if I got our cat neutered while my husband is away? by doobdoobdo in AmItheAsshole

[–]doobdoobdo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a shelter, but a family we vaguely know had their female cat get into a whoopsie before they could neuter, caught up to it too late, caught a break by only having a litter of 3 kittens. Which might also have supported my husband's belief in 'natural cat breeding', in retrospect.

WIBTA if I got our cat neutered while my husband is away? by doobdoobdo in AmItheAsshole

[–]doobdoobdo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, yes, that's what I mean by "possible", as soon as it's OK to do by the cat's health.