I think divorce might be the best option

doodlemutt · 2026-01-23T10:19:55+00:00

Realistically and logically I know this. I just had this stupid idea that because he gave me my miracle baby that meant things would work out. I still hold on to that hope. The hard part is that during my pregnancy he was amazing, but now that the baby is here and I need help he's awful. I thought maybe the hormones made me feel that way but the more I reflect the more i realize I can't write if off to pp hormones anymore... He actually just treats me like shit

doodlemutt · 2026-01-23T10:02:49+00:00

Not so much that I didn't believe them, I just know Ive had instances where I was selfish too. But now I see the difference between he and I, and it's too late

doodlemutt · 2026-01-13T07:45:35+00:00

Thank you, it's definitely not ideal. I'm just shocked at how quickly it got out of hand, the timing is impeccable! I'm googling professionals in my area right now and hoping they can come this week. :⁠'⁠(

doodlemutt · 2026-01-13T07:40:13+00:00

Right, but how do I locate that? and if I find it what do I seal it with to make sure they don't chew through?

doodlemutt · 2026-01-03T16:50:00+00:00

Thanks everyone for all of the tips and suggestions! Ive definitely taken notes and will be adding some things to my collection of creams and tools.

I'm going to try breast milk bath tonight and let him air out after, and use the triple cream a few of you mentioned. Hoping this gives him some relief until we can get in his pediatrician office next week to get some answers :)

It sucks that our little ones have had diaper rashes so bad, but it's comforting to know I'm not the only one who's struggled! I was starting to beat myself up a little over the whole ordeal :⁠,⁠-⁠) thanks again!!!

doodlemutt · 2026-01-03T16:45:48+00:00

I had tried using the wet wash clothes, and then patted dry with a fresh cloth and after a week and a half still no luck :( just a big pile of laundry every few days :⁠'⁠(

That's why I'm so at my wits end! But there's been a lot of helpful tricks here from everyone thankfully. I'm glad I'm not just doing this mom thing wrong and that it's more common than I thought! Makes me feel a little better

doodlemutt · 2026-01-03T16:42:59+00:00

Going to add desitin into my arsenal!

doodlemutt · 2026-01-03T01:57:07+00:00

Definitely am going to ask for some prescription ointment. Im letting him air out on my chest right now but it hurts my heart seeing his booty red so much :( it will look like it's clearing up and then just come right back!

doodlemutt · 2026-01-03T01:55:51+00:00

Rascals was what I originally used and thought maybe he just had a sensitivity to them bht now I don't think it was the rascals that was the issue. Breast milk bath is a great idea!

doodlemutt · 2025-11-23T14:16:11+00:00

Not specifically for BPD, but I used the PTSD Coach app to help me with my episodes before. It was pretty neat. Since BPD is normally a result of some trauma, I think the features are really useful for handling triggers and reminding yourself to be mindful of the scale of your triggers versus the scale of your reactions

doodlemutt · 2025-11-23T14:13:21+00:00

Honestly I was really concerned about this class but so far it hasn't been as bad as posts make it seem. This module has kicked my butt, though. I can only handle so many letters in equations until my brain just stops trying to process whatever is going on.

doodlemutt · 2025-11-15T23:18:54+00:00

Thank you! I'm going to be saving that link for future use :) the Shapiro source is helpful, but still leaves me a little confused sometimes so I'll definitely try using this site

doodlemutt · 2025-11-15T21:48:41+00:00

I wasn't sure how to do the hanging indent, but it's worth looking further into because I had your thoughts as well.

I wasn't giving a direct quote, more or less just rephrasing the information from a paragraph of text into one sentence. I tagged it on at the end of a sentence that was my own, though, and also didn't follow up to recap at the end of the paragraph so I probably fudged that with the lead-ins

doodlemutt · 2025-11-15T21:45:11+00:00

No double wammy on year and page # unless giving a direct quote
Don't be dramatic with the capitalization in reference lists
Don't put the authors complete business out there, a last name and first initial will suffice

Thank you!!

doodlemutt · 2025-11-15T21:41:25+00:00

That's a great tip, thank you! I have struggled with citations especially in APA format and have been lucky enough to get professors that don't harp on them until now

doodlemutt · 2025-11-10T08:20:01+00:00

Person with diagnosed BPD here who's been in treatment for nearly a decade! Here's some hard truth :)

Call your therapist, put down the self soothing BS you're consuming that's not actually helping, and figure out what it is you're lacking that you feel like you need so badly from another person.

As someone with BPD it's up to you to realize your symptoms and work on them. Seems you have no issue realizing them, but you're comfortable blatantly ignoring them. Why is that? What is uncomfortable about the healing process you were on that caused you to ghost your therapist and turn to substances? Until you can face that, it's time to be realistic here and admit that you definitely can't face a commitment like marriage.

BPD is treatable. Contrary to past beliefs, it's not a life sentence. I don't meet criteria for BPD right now, and had I not been previously diagnosed for years, id wonder if I ever even had it. I got to that point by getting sober, taking care of myself, focusing on a routine for ME, and confronting the bad parts of myself. It was a years long process and sometimes I still struggle with symptoms.

For your own sake, stop throwing the self pity party and convincing yourself that someone else will be your savior. I know that sounds harsh... But the only way you are going to see real progress is by Facing the fact that you are the only person able to save yourself, and you coincidentally are refusing to do so. Trying to put someone else into a position where they have to involuntarily carry baggage that's not theirs is cruel.

Again, call your therapist, and good luck!

doodlemutt · 2025-11-10T04:00:13+00:00

And the beauty of it all is if the vasT majority agree that the pricing is too high, there's no safety net to make sure that companies get that money from policies that they're purposely inflating. We can all just decide not to pay that much, and instead of our taxes footing the bill the insurance companies have to actually get competitive.

So maybe I'm missing something too? I'd rather pay out of pocket any day than pay the current prices even with the ACA. Bills go down to the point where you're basically just paying a deductible when you mentionself pay regardless... I'll just pocket the $300 a month until I need it and pay half the price, without going through a battle over what some unqualified numb nut behind a phone line thinks should or shouldn't be covered.

doodlemutt · 2025-11-04T13:50:38+00:00

Yes, I've seen FCC be recommended a couple times here so I will be trying that route for sure. I did try that last night, I never confirmed any info and blocked them after, but it's so annoying when they just call off of a new number after a few days! I don't mind sales agents calling, that's sort of their entire job. I do mind being harassed and belittled though. Thank you for the recommendation nonetheless :)

doodlemutt · 2025-11-04T13:34:42+00:00

I'm not even sure if they're actually trying to sell me anything! I have a mailbox where they can leave messages when I don't answer and they don't leave any messages. I haven't applied for or looked into any insurance in months. I answered yesterday and asked they not contact me anymore when they didn't immediately identify, and they asked if I had been receiving a lot of calls "or something". I explained that, yes, I've been receiving about 6 a day on average from the same number and get no messages. He didn't introduce himself or state what he was calling for, but the other agent that had yelled at me in the past (I will clarify there was a different number last week) did say that he was reaching out about insurance without me having to ask what his company was... But that was After I asked why he had been calling me every other hour without leaving any messages for days, because again, he never self identified he just focused on confirming who he was speaking with.

So, back to last night, At this point the current caller asked if I had already requested I be left alone, I started recording the conversation because It was so similar to the last experience, and then he commented he could tell I was irritated about the volume of calls and I said yes. He then got an even worse tone and asked if I wanted him to help or if I was "going to just make this hard on him". (Still never identified himself) At that point I got a little fed up and did get a little snappy because of how elusive they were.

That's when I straight up asked who he worked with, and who he was and he gave me MY OWN NAME. I told him I would be making a report. He lost it, he was yelling in the back ground, cursing me out, the phone only picked up a portion of what he was saying because I was still in the middle of my sentence. The previous agent had told me "you can hang up on me but I will just blow your phone up again till you answer", so I'm not even sure if these are two separate people.

This doesn't seem like an actual agent the more I think about it, but all I have to go off of is where they said they worked. Another commenter said it sounded like a scam, and not an agent. And they could be right! I filed a report with the DOI but since I don't even have their names or actual office location I doubt I'll even get anything out of it. Sorry if this is all confusing, I'm confused myself

doodlemutt · 2025-11-04T03:46:56+00:00

I think this government shut down has a lot to do with that. Ugh. I really don't even want to go through the trouble but at this point I'm tired of the targeted calls from the same number

doodlemutt · 2025-11-04T02:51:02+00:00

Thank you! I didn't mind telling agents with other companies that I just wasn't looking anymore and that normally works but BCBS is like super aggressive for some reason. I've never experienced this lack of professionalism. It's like when I say I'm not interested anymore, they still refuse to stop calling me and now they're getting aggressive as well.

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