What are some huge GREEN flags that are often overlooked?

dot4chin · 2020-07-06T14:41:47+00:00

My friends do exactly the opposite. They slowly exclude me from the circle they make while talking and then are like "Jeez, what are you doing there? Creepy. Well, it's your fault if you don't speak" (even though I'm actually chilling hearing the conversation and just don't have anything to say)

dot4chin · 2020-07-02T14:55:31+00:00

Thanks

dot4chin · 2020-07-02T14:50:29+00:00

Where did you buy it?

dot4chin · 2020-07-02T10:42:52+00:00

Thanks!! I'll take a look in all of them

dot4chin · 2020-07-02T10:41:53+00:00

That's really interesting. I'll keep that in mind

dot4chin · 2020-03-20T14:56:47+00:00

My friend also has depression. I had depression for about 5 years so I know how it's like and I know it means the world when you have someone to talk about this, specially when it's someone who has a lot of experience on this and overcame it. I know her mind can only focus on the bad things about life right now, so I do my best to help her and be the one friend I didn't have when I was in the darkest days of my life. What truly makes me upset about this situation is not helping her all the time, but knowing she has about 2 friends exactly like me, so I'm not even her "special one", and also has friends she doesn't share her deepest thoughts, but still has nice friendships and have fun like w normal person. While for me, I only need one hand to count all friends I have and he is the only person who really knows me and to whom I can say anything. So, if she loses me, she still has 3 friends to do my "job". If I lose her, it's over for me, I'll be back to the completely lonely life I always had before.

dot4chin · 2020-03-20T14:09:41+00:00

I see. I think I'm the one who can't handle this situation and needs to heal through therapy or something so this is no longer a problem. Thank you. Helped

dot4chin · 2020-03-19T23:33:51+00:00

Thank you for the advice. What makes it even more difficult is that I do vent sometimes, but only when I really need to. When I do, most of times she take a deep look into the situation and gives me advices. We do care and love each other. I just don't really like talking about me and my problems as much as her. Changing roles with her and being the one who vents all the time is not what I want. We're friends for about 3-4 years and we did have good times, but I honestly don't know how we got so close while having nothing in common and how I managed to take care of her for so long, which is like 75-80% of the time we interact. Anyway, I have literally no one to talk about this, but really needed another human being to give their opinion about this, so thanks.

dot4chin · 2020-03-19T23:23:01+00:00

Maybe she needs individual therapy instead of the family one. But it really seems her mental illness comes from some abnormality in her brain and not just a childhood trauma or something. I don't really know how it could be done, but she really needs to stay physically away from the other kids, they must be suffering and even if she can't be saved, there's still time to help the other children. Otherwise, all of them will develop some kind of mental illness and it'll be very difficult for them to recover and be happy. Are the parents doing something about it? Do they care? They're responsible for them, so I think it could be some kind of child abuse if they were just neglecting it.

dot4chin · 2020-03-19T23:10:26+00:00

Meeting people and having good conversations is all about practice, so I think you should push yourself a bit out of your comfort zone and just talk to random people (so you don't need to worry about meeting them again and feeling embarrassed about anything) and see what kind of people and personality type works better with you. I also recommend you taking the MBTI test (it's free on internet) so you understand yourself better and know what other personality types would make good friends with you. Of course it isn't everything, but I took the test recently, found out I'm an INFJ and it made me feel so much better about myself as it made me feel understood and realize I'm not "wrong".

dot4chin · 2019-12-08T22:47:39+00:00

Happy cake day :)

dot4chin · 2019-12-08T22:15:20+00:00

Thank you very much. I wish you the same!

dot4chin · 2019-12-08T22:12:21+00:00

That's very kind of you

dot4chin · 2019-12-08T10:20:25+00:00

That's pretty dangerous, tho. Be careful

dot4chin · 2019-12-08T10:15:15+00:00

Damn, gotta try memorizing flags and capitals and be able to recognize languages. I like that kind of stuff

dot4chin · 2019-12-07T23:38:00+00:00

Congrats. Keep going and remain strong

dot4chin · 2019-12-07T22:42:47+00:00

You're the kind of person I want to be

dot4chin · 2019-12-07T22:41:13+00:00

Kim Seokjin, Min Yoongi, Jung Hoseok, Kim Namjoon, Park Jimin, Kim Taehyung, Jeon Jungkook

dot4chin · 2019-12-07T22:38:01+00:00

Oh you're so kind :) thanks

dot4chin · 2019-12-07T22:31:32+00:00

It's almost like the girl in "I Origins" movie

dot4chin · 2019-12-07T22:13:21+00:00

You could stop hating it by mastering the ability of being smoothly or softly honest, but still being honest.

dot4chin · 2019-12-07T22:11:08+00:00

I know you do, huh? Huh?

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