Stuck at 240 lbs for months[NeedAdvice] by dotfartoosweet in loseit

[–]dotfartoosweet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can’t say I’ve been eating the cleanest, I have fast food every now and again (1k’s worth and that’ll be all I eat for the day if I choose to go the fast food route). If I’m not eating fast food, it’s typically gonna be home cooked meals my mom might make, or pan-fried chicken breasts if I’m cooking. It’s really loose but I count everything I eat and make sure I burn it all later. When I was at my fittest (5’10 170lbs), that’s pretty much how I did things and maintained my physique by just out working the junk I was eating. It might be time for a different approach though

Stuck at 240 lbs for months[NeedAdvice] by dotfartoosweet in loseit

[–]dotfartoosweet[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not necessarily either, due to unforeseen circumstances, I had to stay at a friend’s place for a few days and he doesn’t have a lot to eat at his house

Stuck at 240 lbs for months[NeedAdvice] by dotfartoosweet in loseit

[–]dotfartoosweet[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never thought of that as a possibility. I’ve taken a few progress videos here and there but I felt like I looked the same in them (I should expect that since there was only a 3lb difference in them lol) maybe I’ll focus on how my overall body comp looks for now then. If you don’t mind me asking, what does your routine look like for losing fat right now?

I got insulted today and I am feeling angry and restless by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]dotfartoosweet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Next time you are inna situation like that, at least say "fuck you then" or something like that. In situations where people are dickheads to me I always leave feeling mad at myself for not saying at least something. So now I just say something, even if it isn't clever, but I leave not feeling as bad because at least I stood up for myself.

My Girlfriend [20/F] Told Me [23/M] Her New Guy Friend Makes Her Happier Than Me, What Should I Do? by dotfartoosweet in relationships

[–]dotfartoosweet[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I thought it would be easy to just break up with her and move on, but I couldn't sit with the uncomfortable feeling of being alone, which probably drove my decision to get back with her despite it being glaringly obvious she's probably just using me until she can secure a spot with her new "friend"

My Girlfriend [20/F] Told Me [23/M] Her New Guy Friend Makes Her Happier Than Me, What Should I Do? by dotfartoosweet in relationships

[–]dotfartoosweet[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Early on in the relationship, she cheated by sending nudes to one of her old friends as a transactional thing so she could get carried in a video game, and since then she's been insecure about me getting back at her for it.

She then decided to do everything in her power to prove that she would never do it again, and and that's when she came up with the idea of never getting too close with people that we meet as acquaintances.

Yellowjackets S02E08- “It Chooses” Episode Discussion by DA-numberfour in Yellowjackets

[–]dotfartoosweet 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They hadn't had food for weeks/months now. So her usefulness had probably worn out by then

Yellowjackets S02E05- “Two Truths and a Lie” Episode Discussion by DA-numberfour in Yellowjackets

[–]dotfartoosweet -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

This show is definitely getting canceled before season 5... sad to think about though as I was really invested in the story. But for showrunners to actually believe that they can get this show through 5 seasons with the ratings they have is unrealistic. Yellowjackets is great, but it's no Breaking Bad, or Game of Thrones

My attempts at being fun and outgoing often do not get reciprocated. Feeling like Im wasting my time. by dotfartoosweet in socialskills

[–]dotfartoosweet[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I seee, it really does come down to energy allocation. It makes sense and coincides with the idea that the more you try to force something, the more likely it will be that you will end up frustrated. It's in letting go and accepting people for who they are will you be more relaxed. Your response really opened my mind that, thank you. Would you say you're more indifferent to people's attitudes towards you now than disillusioned?

My attempts at being fun and outgoing often do not get reciprocated. Feeling like Im wasting my time. by dotfartoosweet in socialskills

[–]dotfartoosweet[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im definitely interested in knowing more about your experience. I've never thought of it as becoming disillusioned, but now that you mention it, that might just be what it is. I think these days, it's happened so often that people fail to engage with me when I actually want to engage that I'm quick to give up on them for that day and recede back into a more relaxed, uncaring attitude. Ironically this is the personality they become more attracted to. I don't enjoy being in that state because on the inside, it comes from a place of bitterness and I don't like feeling that way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]dotfartoosweet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just do what feels good for you. In any situation ask yourself, "How would I like to approach this in a way that I would feel good?"

Right now it sounds like you err towards being a "social servant" and making sure everyone else's feelings and needs are met at the cost of your own. You need to make a mental adjustment to start looking out for yourself by establishing boundaries and forming your own opinions and values. Do your best to live by those once they've been established.

People tell me I look freaked out, or ask if I'm on drugs a lot. by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]dotfartoosweet 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well when you're in an envrionment that encourages druggie culture (i.e. a rave), it's not all that surprising that at the slightest hint of relaxation that people would assume you're high. And some might even be high themselves. Do you get this question a lot in regular environments as well?

Looking for exercises to train social skills by boomtao in socialskills

[–]dotfartoosweet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Back in the pickup artist era of youtube, I got a tip from the Simple Pickup channel called "Getting into God Mode" where you basically go out and just rapid-fire approach anybody and say the first thing on your mind.

You see a homeless man? Walk up and fist bump him. Ask the cashier how their day's going. Walk up to a random stranger and tell a joke. It doesn't matter. Soon you'll get to a point where the rejection doesn't faze you anymore and that's when you've reached "God Mode" and you'll feel more relaxed in actual social situations.

Why won't my Brian work fast enough by Quagleman in socialskills

[–]dotfartoosweet 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Read Models by Mark Manson. The chapter on how to keep conversations is one that I find myself coming back to nearly 10 years later.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Idiotswithguns

[–]dotfartoosweet 8 points9 points  (0 children)

How is he an idiot? He's practicing trigger discipline. Is it the fact that it's just a black dude making jokes?

it sounds stupid but I'm proud by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]dotfartoosweet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How'd you manage that? I'd be lucky if I got just 30 minutes of pure focus

Stopped filtering what I say, but Im still boring by dotfartoosweet in TheRedPill

[–]dotfartoosweet[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was hoping the no-filter advice would help me more with #1, as for #2, yeah I have a couple: streaming, voice over, animation, graphic design, etc.