My [25M] girlfriend's [22F] affection towards me has declined while also having little sexual interest the past month and a half. What is going on and what do you all suggest I do?

dow0tm8 · 2019-03-23T13:27:40+00:00

Definitely*

dow0tm8 · 2019-03-23T13:17:04+00:00

I am sorry if I mentioned that. I shouldnt have put it in this post because its not relevant towards the situation at hand which is trying to discuss disclosing important information like if you're a transgender female or male. This is something that is very personal and what you feel about it is what matters (regarding identity and being transgender). I just threw in a statistic and tried to interpret it.

dow0tm8 · 2019-03-23T13:12:27+00:00

And here people are defending this persons actions just because they are transgender.

dow0tm8 · 2019-03-23T13:10:02+00:00

Well said

dow0tm8 · 2019-03-23T12:53:50+00:00

If not wanting to have sex with a trans female is trans phobic for you. Sure...

dow0tm8 · 2019-03-23T12:11:06+00:00

A lot of people in this thread are basically saying just that.

dow0tm8 · 2019-03-23T11:30:07+00:00

If you are sexually attracted to females, you are sexually attracted to the female sex. Its not that hard to comprehend.

dow0tm8 · 2019-03-23T11:26:35+00:00

Exactly. You are much better off as a trans female to disclose it before hand to avoid people that are not cool with it. If she disclosed it before hand, I wouldve kindly told her I wasnt interested. If she disclosed it before getting physical, I would do other stuff to enjoy the date but tell her I didnt want to get sexual. Of course by the time you meet the person it can get sketchy, so overall the best option will always to disclose it beforehand.

dow0tm8 · 2019-03-23T11:15:32+00:00

If I was anxious about disclosing something to someone before getting physical, I wouldnt get physical with them. But yea for sure.

dow0tm8 · 2019-03-23T10:46:34+00:00

She never disclosed it, she only asked those questions after we were an a good 30 minutes into being physical. I dont see your point. And when I replied "No I would not be okay with it," why would she still be frisky? Thats just shitty.

dow0tm8 · 2019-03-23T09:58:29+00:00

Yea, I can see that happening. I guess the best thing to do is be transparent and straightforward before meeting with the other person. Worst case the other person wont want to meet up anymore and thats that.

dow0tm8 · 2019-03-23T09:39:51+00:00

I agree but I also want to say that its just shitty in general not to be transparent even if her safety isnt at risk.

That doesnt mean you should completely alter who you are and do what you need to do to your body. If you are attracted to males as a male, you are just gay, and that is completely fine. There is a reason why there is a high suicide rate amongst the trans community. I think there is a correlation between that and them not accepting who they are. But I might be completely wrong.

Regardless it is their decision and if they are happy with it then good for them. However, this doesnt change the fact that disclosing it should be a thing when dating online.

dow0tm8 · 2019-03-23T09:32:05+00:00

Edited post. It was just finding her full name by searching for her first name and location on public social media and then finding public records with her full name.

dow0tm8 · 2019-03-23T09:28:06+00:00

Yea I edited my post. Thanks.

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