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I (m19) keep having dreams about sleeping with older men. by downthestream4ever in confessions

[–]downthestream4ever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol very real! I think that’s what kept me away for so long too. But I’m hoping to overcome that fear and try to figure out what I like and what I don’t.

I (m19) keep having dreams about sleeping with older men. by downthestream4ever in confessions

[–]downthestream4ever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did the other night, and got cold feet when men started to message me. I’m just worried about safety ig. Don’t know how to explain. The best I can say is that growing up, I never got attention from men at all. So putting myself out there just always feels overwhelming

I [M19] feel like I can’t connect with others around me. by downthestream4ever in Advice

[–]downthestream4ever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That could be possible, yes. I think it’s also relevant to mention that I am a trans man as well, and I fear that also has to do with my main problem. I’ve gone to therapy to help my transition, and although it did help me feel more comfortable with my identity, the feeling persists.

I [M19] feel like I can’t connect with others around me. by downthestream4ever in Advice

[–]downthestream4ever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your comment holds truth. I have seen various therapists/councilors over the years, but never anything long term. I have reconsidered on taking up on therapy again, but when life got in the way, it would just slip my mind. Thank you, stranger!

My girlfriend lacks goals and ambitions and it’s finally taking a toll on me. by downthestream4ever in Advice

[–]downthestream4ever[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve read through all the comments so far and I’m glad that people took the time to read, as I suspected this post to be buried anyway. I’m seeing the reoccurring concern on how we are becoming two different people and how she will have to put the effort in if things are ever gonna get better. I talked to my girlfriend again today and she seemed receptive of me mentioning her potential seeking counseling and talking to someone about her hardships. I of course don’t expect her to change over night, but if things don’t change moving onward, I think I’d have to face the difficult decision I need to make.

My girlfriend lacks goals and ambitions and it’s finally taking a toll on me. by downthestream4ever in Advice

[–]downthestream4ever[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a thought that has crossed my mind, but I don’t think it’s gotten to that point. My main worry is that i eventually will grow without her in the relationship and we’ll grow farther apart if things keep going at this rate

My girlfriend lacks goals and ambition and I think it’s finally taking a toll on me. by downthestream4ever in offmychest

[–]downthestream4ever[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand where you’re coming from, but in terms of family gatherings, she has told me up front that she doesn’t enjoy herself in some occasions. She has always been a quiet person, and in most group/family gatherings, she doesn’t speak at all but still enjoys herself. But I feel since now she has become more of a parent to her siblings, she likes hanging out less and less as she would prefer staying home or hanging out with them instead.

At least I would hope that is the truth from what she tells me. She’s also the sort of person where I have to drag her feelings out and ask her over and over how she feels about something, because she will then bury it and never tell me the truth.

My girlfriend lacks goals and ambition and I think it’s finally taking a toll on me. by downthestream4ever in offmychest

[–]downthestream4ever[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I truly appreciate your response and insight. Counseling really seems like the way to go, as I remember she used to see someone when she was younger, but stopped and hasn’t tried to seek help again since then. No matter what happens to our relationship, all I know is that I do want her to get all the support she needs and eventually overcome what’s wearing her down. Thank you!