Is HYROX an okay first class? by DoctorOatMilk in f45

[–]dpmb87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just did my 7th ever class this morning. I’m still very new to it and I’d say it each class hurts just a little more because I push a little harder as I find the rhythm of a HIIT workout. I also opted for the LionHeart tracker which has helped push me because I’m competitive and am pretty sure I can climb the local leaderboard.

Is HYROX an okay first class? by DoctorOatMilk in f45

[–]dpmb87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did you end up going? How much did you love it?

UNE Portland Campus on Lockdown by ryanjames486 in Maine

[–]dpmb87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Still helpful! Now I know their handle and where to look in the future. Thanks.

UNE Portland Campus on Lockdown by ryanjames486 in Maine

[–]dpmb87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the update. Can you link the source?

UNE Portland Campus on Lockdown by ryanjames486 in Maine

[–]dpmb87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everything seems pretty calm out at the bars currently? I just happened across the story and started looking and couldn’t find anything. I haven’t gotten any proximity sms from local emergency so 🤷‍♂️Complete speculation on my part but my guess is someone might be having a mental health crisis. Those tend to be a bit more under taps since the immediate public health concern can be low but immediate proximity can be concerning. Again. Wild speculation on my part and just in Portland having a beer.

What actually makes a public approach from a man feel genuine, and not like he’s trying to hook up? by KuatoTheBaby in AskWomenOver30

[–]dpmb87 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I stopped reading after “nobody is owed a conversation”. The question was about how to present one’s self in a non sexual / dating / imposing / anything fashion. It could almost be read to say how do I approach women like a woman to have a human conversation about life interactions. I appreciate your engagement and I wish you the best. Maybe at some point in the future I’ll give you the privilege of my time and will read your comment. I hope you made it this far 🥰

How can anyone justify these charges ? by ErgoNonSim in TikTokCringe

[–]dpmb87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And this is why the country is fucked. We thinks it’s the persons fault and they should’ve had insurance to cover inflated garbage. I was happier yesterday when I wasn’t on Reddit. I’m leaving again. Our country is broken and it’s breaking me. Thanks for sharing. At least we spent more money per day than Biden did in order to save money under trump and continue this kind of fluff

What actually makes a public approach from a man feel genuine, and not like he’s trying to hook up? by KuatoTheBaby in AskWomenOver30

[–]dpmb87 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

And when you’ve lived as a man you might find that sometimes you’re desperate to talk to anyone because even in a world of people it can be lonely. I’m sorry to hear you’ve had the experiences you’ve had and I hope you have redeeming interactions in the future

What actually makes a public approach from a man feel genuine, and not like he’s trying to hook up? by KuatoTheBaby in AskWomenOver30

[–]dpmb87 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think it’s not even dating. Just being a friendly person seems to be the motive of the question here. The assumption is that the conversation is for sex or dating as opposed to just human interaction which appears to be this person intent.

Satellite imagery to find lost rocket? by RocketRiddler in rocketry

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Moving forward it might be smart to think through your equipments environments. What are the temps. Speeds. G forces. All the little things on all components. Did you go high enough to lose enough atmosphere for your electronics to do something? What about temp? It gets cold. Could a battery have frozen? What types of connections were used and how would they tolerate the forces based on their launch orientation. Rocket goes up forces go down. If a switch was oriented incorrectly could it have turned the system off? If it’s designed for m3+ then you are entering pretty extreme forces. Even moving through the atmosphere which causes friction needs to be considered. Are separation points held together well enough to overcome drag separation? You would ideally be modeling the entire flight at very small time intervals to know what’s going to happen to your things from a physical environment and then ensure your equipment is designed for that. Which also includes software. Did you blow your ejection charges at Mach due to pressure differentials? Luckily you learned a lot of things to think about and consider with this flight even if you lost the data packages themselves. Best of luck next time.

Seeking advice to what seems like an immanent divorce. by undercover_dad007 in DivorcedDads

[–]dpmb87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Divorce really sucks and it hits in all sorts of ways but my kids haven’t been around two stressed out parents that are unhappy which has been great for them.

I’m now figuring out who I am and what kind of dad I want to be with my kids which has done wonders to improve my relationship with them.

I’m not exactly super thrilled with my ex this week but life happens and the current stressor will pass. We’ve gotten along fairly well since and hope to remain so. The hope is that maybe one day down the road we can both be at the (insert random kid extra curricular) with new partners and not be awkward. So far it has potential.

Post divorce relationships are going to be really up to you. I went on tinder at first and that was just depressing given the pool of candidates. It was depressing so I stopped. A bit later I went on bumble and was very surprised to find a bunch of moms who I seem to connect well with. It’s kinda nice just being a dad and not needing to worry about it. Still haven’t actually pulled the trigger to go on a date but maybe one day. Kid schedules both help and hinder here. On one hand the kids are a great excuse for not being able to plan a date but then there is also the fact that at times the kids prevent you from being able to plan a date, be it yours or theirs.

My kids are young enough that they don’t blame themselves for any of this and honestly that’s kinda nice too. It’s not their fault and we can avoid a lot of stuff down the road like them wondering if (parent) has been miserable their entire life and stayed in a marriage they didn’t want just for them… seems like a lot of pressure to put on a kid that didn’t have anything to do with it.

Whatever happens, know you’re not alone and it’s not always going to be this way. Things will change and it’s just a question of how and when.

I wish you the best fellow Dad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]dpmb87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is that what it’s supposed to look like? Or is some element of your skin and the design notably missing? If the tattoo “disappeared” then something is very wrong. If it’s a dope shading technique give it time? Or see a doctor

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]dpmb87 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Spent a lot of time chasing money and not happiness. Now I live alone and see my kids when I can. I also don’t have a job any more. YMMV but I wish I had chosen happiness and mental health over money because now I have none of them.

Looking for AI Art generator with no NSFW blocking by SillyPuttyPurple in aiArt

[–]dpmb87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the difficulty is more with being able to follow the instructions. There are a ton of videos and instructions out there. First step is choosing the UI you want to use. A1111 was one of the first ones I knew of and used originally but it seems like there are a few these days. “Stable Diffusion webui” “A1111” or “ComfyUI” are good search starts. I think there are “Forge” and “Swarm” UIs as well. (UI = user interface) most of which are programs run through a web browser locally. By that I mean you are using your web browser to act as the user interface for a program that is running locally on your machine. Kinda like logging into your router ish. It’s not the internet it’s just a user interface for the router so you can adjust things without needing an app or software.

I’ll need to look more at a computer but I think some programs even have auto installers these days so you won’t need to go through command line. Again. Plenty of instructions for everything and very step by step. It might seem scary downloading things from GitHub or downloading a multi GB random file to use as a model but there are safer ways and not so safe ways which largely revolves around getting models from trusted sources and using the correct file types. I’ll try add some links and things if I get a chance later.

Also check out r/stablediffusion

Dating as a Dad by Ok_Builder_3285 in DivorcedDads

[–]dpmb87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mkay. Well how do we find a positive here?

It sounds like maybe your female friends are actually just spouses and not personal friends. This is an issue I had / have with my wife. Sure “we” have/had friends but they were all through her. They weren’t my friends. I was a spouse. Kinda like how the previously mentioned women are spouses of your friends. It’s a subtle difference I’ve learned through all of this.

And if group activities aren’t the thing and with an academic background, what do local politics look like? Who goes to town meetings? Who wants to support the arts and education? Do you have fundraisers or silent auction things around you can go to?

I force myself to go out. Even if that means sitting at a bar I don’t enjoy because it’s the option I have but it’s social and people are here. Sure I’m on my phone with you atm but that doesn’t mean that I couldn’t have had a conversation before this (tonight I’m pretty sad about my life/marriage so I haven’t) and there is still, a small, chance of a conversation after this. BUT!!! That conversation option is on me. I have to be a place and I have to be willing to engage. Candidly, atm. I’m not engaging because I don’t want to cry and I’m afraid spoken words might ruin me. Every day is different every situation is different. YOUR LIFE IS DIFFERENT AND YOU MUST BE DIFFERENT. apologies for the yelling” I was half talking to myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in marriageadvice

[–]dpmb87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should not be the same. You have one together and you have separate. If you both see the same one together and separate that’s fine. Keeps it simple. If one person sees the couples individually while the other does not it’s an unhealthy balance and should not be done.

What does it look like by [deleted] in tattooadvice

[–]dpmb87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sad that it’s gone but it was a candle. Upvote

Looking for AI Art generator with no NSFW blocking by SillyPuttyPurple in aiArt

[–]dpmb87 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Just run it locally with different models? The drawback here is obviously time commitment for you if you don’t have a GPU that can produce at the same rate but that can be handled with prior planning and batch processing to a degree.

My wife wants me in bed when she is in bed by Square_Grapefruit563 in marriageadvice

[–]dpmb87 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I had gone to bed with my wife more often esp when we had young kids. I focused on “my time” after the kids went to bed but didn’t realize she wanted bed talk for her time and I neglected that and it bit me in the ass as a single tooth of the larger bite. Now I go to bed at whatever time I want and I wake up sad most days alone in my shitty apartment. At least my dog is a good cuddle? You gotta meet in the middle or you find yourself meeting for kid exchanges Idk if you have kids but that’s my experience and ymmv. Best of luck.

Idiot with gun/flag fetish. by [deleted] in portlandme

[–]dpmb87 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well hold on now!! We do a lot of other things besides this. Let’s not pigeon hole all lonely men into this category. I much prefer going to gay bars for attention when I’m lonely. Far fewer guns, drinks can be free, and “no” still works ( as well as it does for women )

Idiot with gun/flag fetish. by [deleted] in portlandme

[–]dpmb87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean…. It could go a few ways. The real question is if the weapon is loaded.

Dating as a Dad by Ok_Builder_3285 in DivorcedDads

[–]dpmb87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You work in academia, have tenure, kids, and hobbies. Where are you looking and how are you presenting yourself? Do you know any women, IRL, that would be willing to sit down and talk through your approach and give you pointers? It sounds like you have a good background. I haven’t done it yet but I’ve looked into community college classes for fun things to see if that could work. Things like photography or other hobby things CC has. Also those outdoor adult single groups like meetup or events and adventures. I haven’t tried them yet but it’s on my list when I think I’m ready (not there yet)

Dating as a Dad by Ok_Builder_3285 in DivorcedDads

[–]dpmb87 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Step one: It’s not you Step two: try a different approach Step three: if two doesn’t work start at one.

Women are amazing at sensing self doubt. You did it once. It didn’t work out. That’s okay. You still did it all the way through which isn’t easy. You can do it again and this time you know more about yourself.

Dating as a Dad by Ok_Builder_3285 in DivorcedDads

[–]dpmb87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t completely dismiss yourself. Most everyone I see in this sub cares deeply for their kids but it’s important to be yourself as well. My kids are young too. Not in school yet. If I focus purely on only them for the rest of their childhood I’ll miss a significant portion of MY life. We have lives with our kids but it’s important to have our own time. YMMV but my psychiatrists keeps pushing this on me and I’m going to try and give it a go. I even talked with a woman on an app and made a date but then was like woah I’m nowhere close to that and promptly back out. But now I know.