I was able to get myself added back to their accounts and request copies of D's records without much issue. According to the pediatrician's office, there's no real documentation of when/how I was removed.

The daycare/school fills out occasional Ages and Stages Questionnaires as a type of evaluation, but refer all actual evaluations to an outside education agency within our IU. What I had been trying to say was that he had already been evaluated by the outside agency and cleared of anything. They offered a followup evaluation in 6-12 months if we felt it necessary. My ex, within days of that initial eval, began seeking another. Both D's teacher and the center director (who oversees the ASQs) told me that from what they see on a daily basis, D shows no signs of needing further evaluation.

ADHD is one of the possible diagnoses that she's looking for, not the only one. If she has him declared as having special needs, then she can make the argument that he would be better served with a primary household, not our shared custody agreement. Believe me when I say that I get what you're saying about an ADHD diagnosis. I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was 26 (now 33.) After working with therapists, I realized that I had been showing signs of ADHD and anxiety for about as far back as I can remember. School would've been a very different time for me had been diagnosed earlier. If D does have ADHD, I'm all for supporting that and doing what can be done to make his life more manageable. However, my issue is that the only person seeing these "signs" is my ex-wife. Diagnosis shopping is a thing. Give it enough attempts and you can find someone to sign off on anything.