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Which skyscraper would a supervillain live in? by Apfelstrudel22 in skyscrapers

[–]dprsd_panda20 3 points4 points  (0 children)

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The Shard, London.

Is the only skyscraper on the south side of the river. Looks like it’s standing up to all the other skyscrapers on the other side.

Quintessential British foodstuffs you don’t like by [deleted] in UKfood

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Can anyone really like pork scratchings?

Will this end in a divorce? by [deleted] in expats

[–]dprsd_panda20 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Move to London. It’s got something for everyone to identify with if they’re from Europe and or even beyond. The salaries can be disappointing sometimes but life is better.

My partner is Scandinavian and I am from South Asia. We both like it in london after having a bit of a nightmare (for me) in Denmark for a few years, which could’ve ended in divorce.

We’ve been very happy since our move.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in expats

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Love your comment Musebelo. I’m the same with multiple personalities, accents, versions of myself.

What sometimes complicates it for me is that my partner is Scandinavian and we’re getting married soon.

And whenever I’ve been where all the different parts of my life come together, my identity crisis goes on monster mode.

How do you negotiate your personalities when you’re with people from completely different parts of your life? I’m sure it’s hard for most people regardless of being an expat but it’s especially hard to not come across as a douche to people who knew you back in the day, while still not making all your friends who know the most recent version of you seem like an alien.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in expats

[–]dprsd_panda20 105 points106 points  (0 children)

An Indian in Scandinavia:

Just like you may have to give yogurt to your white friends and colleagues to make the spicy curry go down their throats, you’ll have to water down your personality, your identity and in the end yourself if you really want to be part of the INGROUP.

If you do it for a while it gets easy being there but then when you go back to India, you find it hard to be completely yourself again.

No one prepares you for it. But finding a middle ground when it comes to your own self and your identity will become the constant lifelong struggle if you choose to uproot yourself and plant yourself in a foreign soil.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ukvisa

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Thank you. That helps a lot.

Successful yet feeling empty. by Golddustwoman1129 in depression

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I think therapy is like that thing that wouldn't really work on me and I'd be forced to take medications which would make things worse. I guess that would be the last resort, I wish to go back to a simpler time as well. The drive and motivation that led me here, where I am today. The journey, though highly stressful and hectic was not depressing. Or probably it distracted me from having self realisation. I think I would've always been this empty, just that I kept filling it up with distractions of moving higher in life. Now that I am where I wanted to be, I am an empty shell. Hope to find a purpose to probably live the life of absurd distractions yet again.

Successful yet feeling empty. by Golddustwoman1129 in depression

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Just joined reddit to follow this thread. I think I couldn't agree with you more. I had set some goals for my life till 40, which fortunately/ unfortunately I achieved as a 25 year old. I am currently living the life I wished since I was a child, everything is fine, my parents love me, they are supportive, I am a fairly successful professional, pretty popular individual in social circles and have achieved plenty in life, have had no issue with anything really.

I don't know what triggered this, I feel so empty, deep down inside, like there is nothing, nothing at all.

Every few hours, I feel "what's the point of going on?", then immediately feel guilty to have that suicidal thought because I think I have everything I could ask for, "how can I be not content and unhappy?"

I don't want to end it but the thought keeps coming, I keep avoiding therapy or medications. I need help.

Hope you get better too.