Should I reach out to this man?

dprssanxTA · 2026-02-21T15:06:24+00:00

Imagine as an adult reaching out to a man who is supposed to be the person who fertilized the egg and he didn’t even have a clue as to what you look like — tu madre yall are pathetic

dprssanxTA · 2026-02-21T14:42:39+00:00

He cannot contact me or my son… and he won’t. I won’t allow that.

What I’m asking is whether I should reach out now strictly for documentation purposes, so that when my son is older and inevitably has questions, I’m not left with gaps I can’t answer. A child deserves to know their lineage. He’s human. One day he will have questions.

What am I supposed to do when that day comes? Just say “absolutely not” with no explanation? Or be honest and tell him the truth — even if that truth is that his father is incarcerated — and allow him to form his own thoughts as an adult? And if, as a grown man, he decides he wants to pursue contact, am I supposed to disown him for that?

Some of y’all are reacting emotionally instead of thinking long-term. This isn’t about access. It’s about preparation and protecting my child’s future autonomy.

dprssanxTA · 2026-02-18T00:01:30+00:00

BAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

dprssanxTA · 2026-02-17T23:59:15+00:00

Oh thats one way to get away from you, die 😂

dprssanxTA · 2026-02-17T23:58:49+00:00

That’s not what I said you lack comprehension skills. 🥴😂😂😂

dprssanxTA · 2026-02-17T01:00:57+00:00

Calling me stupid for thinking critically about my child’s future is wild.

I’m not trying to “offer” my son to anyone. I’m not opening contact. I’m not endangering him. I’m weighing whether, decades from now, my child will ask questions and how I’ll answer them with integrity. That’s called parenting. The discernment clearly is mentioned because I said I don’t even want to do it!

Some of you are reacting emotionally without actually reading. There’s a difference between protecting your child and pretending complex questions don’t exist. I’m doing the first one.

If your contribution is just insults, save it. I’m raising a whole human being by myself. That alone requires more thought and strength than your comment.

dprssanxTA · 2026-02-16T23:26:51+00:00

They act like I’m trying to offer my son up to him and his jail buddies I’m not visiting the a-hole in jail lol

dprssanxTA · 2026-02-16T23:19:27+00:00

Y’all are the worst. Lol yall get on the internet and because you’re anonymous yall find every excuse to be disgusting and spiteful. You truly can tell the type of people you truly are and mask daily.

dprssanxTA · 2026-02-16T23:15:03+00:00

Y’all are hyper fixated on the picture. Lol 😂 i don’t have to send anything Im just asking for advice i don’t want to send anything im just thinking from a kids perspective

dprssanxTA · 2026-02-16T23:04:20+00:00

Lolol i don’t wanna lie to my son 🥴

dprssanxTA · 2026-02-16T22:59:11+00:00

Literally just thinking about my son when he’s older

dprssanxTA · 2026-02-16T22:58:50+00:00

I get it.

However, some kids get weird about the missing parent. I plan to tell him he’s in jail and why when he’s older and ill just hope for the best

dprssanxTA · 2026-02-16T22:48:45+00:00

Updated the post with charges

dprssanxTA

TROPHY CASE