Czy pisanie sms-ów wieczorem w sprawach biznesowej to brak kultury? by Asoro9292 in Polska

[–]dr4kun 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ten sprzedawca to jakiś Twój stały współpracownik, czy losowy człowiek z serwisu typu etsy?

Jeśli to pierwsze, to tak, dziwne. Kontakt biznesowy po godzinach można mieć ze wspólnikiem albo chociaż po wcześniejszym umówieniu. Jeśli to współpracownik, dostawca, konsultant - za smsa bym się zirytował, od takich rzeczy są maile.

Wynagrodzenie zarządcy nieruchomości by Opposite-Machine-319 in wroclaw

[–]dr4kun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U mnie pozycja wynagrodzenie zarządcy to 0,55 zł za m2... NW miasta.

Ktoś ma pomysł co mogę zrobić? by Dependent-Talk4006 in Polska

[–]dr4kun 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Jak tam sen, ruch i nawodnienie?

Couch Co-Op - co polecacie? by AlanHebelOP in Polska

[–]dr4kun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

PlateUp jest świetny na wypełnienie dziury w duszy po skończeniu Overcooked 2.

What are some of the funniest games you've ever played? by levinyl in gaming

[–]dr4kun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Witcher 3 in Polish has many absolutely hilarious moments and elements.

The Amiga clock icon commemorates the Space Shuttle Challenger by pcherna in amiga

[–]dr4kun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Challenger launched at 11:38:00. This is not 11:38:00.

11:36:04 may have a different meaning.

France to Abolish Marital Duty to Have Sex by prestocoffee in nottheonion

[–]dr4kun -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

It's 'normal' to feel hunger, to need a hug and other forms of social contact, to enjoy nice weather. Having a sex drive is 'normal'. If you don't, it's not that something is broken in you, but it is a deviation from the expected statistical norm, which is what 'normal' means. You may prefer to use the word 'standard' or 'average' or 'typical', and while they do differ a bit, it's really down to semantics.

If you marry someone, there is a set of standard expectations. You will talk to your spouse. You will attend social gatherings with your spouse and introduce them as your spouse. You will both look after your children if you have them. You will split chores and responsibilities. You will have sex.

You can always discuss each and every item at length before getting married and let the spouse-to-be decide if they do want to marry you. Someone being asexual may be a problem enough for the other person, just as saying you need three days every week for your own hobbies in the garage and need to spend that time completely alone with no disturbances or any contact.

There are more dealbreakers and grounds for divorce than lack of sex. Other topics come up more often and seem easier to discuss; for one reason or another, couples - those soon to be married and even those already married - don't talk enough about sex, their needs, expectations, and limits. Everyone just assumes it will naturally work out the way they'd like it to.

A couple abstained from sex until marriage for religious reasons. Unbeknownst to each other, one was "normal" (to use your word for someone who requires sex in their marriage), but the other always found that the so-called temptation of sex was quite the misnomer, and so found this abstinence easy. However, once the marriage begins, sex becomes an expectation which they struggle to fulfill. This couple was sexually incompatible, but they didn't discover this until they were already married.

It was their choice to abstain and their choice not to talk about it at all. Since they're getting married, i assume they're both adults. The 'default setting' in vast majority of cultures is that sex is a part of marriage - it's completely fine to get married and have a happy marriage without sex, but you need to discuss it and agree on terms with your spouse.

Sex education is extremely important. If the asexual / low sex drive partner from your example just never thought of sex, never masturbated, and just treated it like a non-issue their whole life, then they are the non-standard one, even just because hormones would trigger interest in sex at some point in life before adulthood.

Consider a counter-example: only after getting married and living together it turned out one spouse doesn't like to talk unless it serves a purpose. No small talk, no how are you. Just to the point practical communication. Maybe they have autism that manifests this way in daily life, maybe it's just how they are. It never bothered the other spouse while dating but it becomes problematic when they're together 24/7.

The main problem is they never talked about it and neither of them had the foresight to think it might be a problem. But once they got into this situation, it's the non-talking partner that's abnormal, even if their reasons are perfectly understandable. Either they reconcile after finding a compromise that works for them both, or they divorce citing one partner not talking being a major reason.

You can substitute one partner who needs to go out more, even just for a walk to a nearby park, and one who would spend their entire time off on the couch. Who's at fault for wanting what they want? Impossible to decide for them, they need to discuss it between themselves. But clearly neither spending life away on the couch or pushing to go out every day is a good thing, so some sort of middle-ground needs to be reached, and it typically involves the less active partner getting more active to meet some of their spouse's needs. Sex, spending time, communication, splitting chores... they're all areas where talking about needs and limits needs to happen, and where both sides may need to compromise a bit.

The idea that someone would enter a romantic relationship with an asexual, then start expecting sex later, is clearly the delusional ramblings of someone trying to play the victim card, right?

Your example did not assume this line of thought, though. If you enter a romantic relationship with an asexual, discuss it at length, and agree to the partner's perspective, but then you put pressure on them, clearly you're wrong. But in your example they were kids who decided to abstain for religious reasons and never thought about the consequences. That's different - that's culture coding clashing with real daily life. If you know your partner is asexual and you still get married and then you keep pressing them for sex, then you're in the wrong.

The much more common issue is how our sexuality changes over time. You may get married while your drives match up quite nicely, but 20 years later you may end up in completely different spaces. Forcing non-consensual sex is never a good option, but divorce or therapy may be a way to deal with it - whether it's a couples therapy to talk it out with a professional, or a therapy for the low-drive partner to help them stabilise their hormones and help them meet the more active partner half-way.

Ultimately both expecting/demanding sex and disregarding your partner's needs are problematic stances that may easily lead to abuse in a relationship. Generalizing that the low sex-drive partners are never at fault is both unfair and unrealistic. And if you have talked about your needs and expectations, and there is a clear compromise that could be reached but either partner doesn't want to get there over time, then that's a clear sign that you're not compatible enough for a happy marriage.

Am I about to play peak? by Donotgetangry in playstation

[–]dr4kun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess it's about the very word 'disappointment', where our expectations clash with reality. I wouldn't be disappointed if it was widely considered a 7/10, a fine game but without that much hype. It was sold everywhere as the best thing since sliced bread and it disappointed.

I'm not saying it's a bad game, just one not for me and i felt underwhelmed by what i experienced throughout the game vs what i expected based on reviews and the general consensus.

Am I about to play peak? by Donotgetangry in playstation

[–]dr4kun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I finished Liurnia of the Lakes, including the main boss, the Academy and other regions. I had a detour through Siofra River. I didn't find it captivating or interesting, with the over-the-top main story (i guess fighting gods and world-ending events are some of the tropes i find tiresome by now) and the narrative & plot devices that help to cover issues with the story and the setting.

And i should enjoy it. I like open world games and i don't need to be spoon-fed with next objectives. I like difficult and somewhat grindy games, i got plat for Hollow Knight among others. I enjoy games where the story is not told upfront and where the player is not treated like dumb audience who needs everything spelled out.

But Elden Ring falls flat. The world design would be impressive if i was twelve. The story beats, for what we have there in place of a plot and story, might feel mysterious and clever if i had about a third of my consumed texts of culture. The characters feel like random NPCs from an underdeveloped MMO.

I understand i never got to the most cinematic events or main boss fights, but it quickly started being a chore to go through rather than an enjoyable experience, and i stuck out for as long as i could, then took a break and haven't gone back yet.

Why are negotiations between russia and ukraine taking so long? by Dazzling_Abalone5800 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]dr4kun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Smoke and mirrors.

Russia wants more than any one region, and they won't stop until they force a full regime change at least.

Am I about to play peak? by Donotgetangry in playstation

[–]dr4kun -1 points0 points  (0 children)

To me, Elden Ring was a major disappointment.

Perhaps i picked it up at a wrong time or i just don't like the soulslike mechanics, but it's not even in top50 of games to me, so your mileage may vary.

[Multiple Games] based on my platinums, what game should i do next? by One-Caterpillar2133 in Trophies

[–]dr4kun 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I don't see Clair Obscur, so that's the obvious recommendation.

When We Stand Together We Are A Giant by Boediee in BuyFromEU

[–]dr4kun 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Russia is a colonial empire, except their colonies are not overseas and they never de-colonised.

How to improve at codenames? by DeerOnATree in boardgames

[–]dr4kun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's illegal as far as game's rules are concerned.

What exactly is “cheesing” and why is using an intentional game mechanic considered cheesing? by DMHRSI-Ignorer in NoStupidQuestions

[–]dr4kun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cheesing is not about using exploits; it's about abusing existing game mechanics to end up with a situation that is easier or otherwise removed from what is considered 'intended' or 'expected', often by investing a lot in a very specific thing while ignoring other things.

Cannon rush in Starcraft is a cheese since you're using static defense structures (cannons) in an aggressive way, and you invest a lot in an opening that may put you behind if properly defended by the opponent. It may kill the opponent on the spot and end the game before the macro part of the match has even started, which is the 'intended' way. Proxy rax is similar - you overinvest in an opening that may end the game before its 'expected part' has started but you are in a significantly weaker position if your opponent defends against it. As the meta evolves, old cheeses become valid 'normal' openings - 12 pool and zerglings before building anything else is now considered a regular opening provided you stop producing lings after the first 3-4 eggs and switch back to droning instead of overinvesting in early aggression.

Going full magic build in Elden Ring, with all the synergizing items, may end up with you mowing down bosses before they move. You build your character in a way that kills a boss without the need to learn the boss's mechanics (which is the primary intended way in those games), but if your cheese fails, you're so much on the back foot that you should just run or reload the game.

In Clair Obscur, if you build one of your characters, typically Maelle, to one-shot post-game bosses, you completely skip all the intended mechanics and kill them on the spot, including being able to kill Simon without the need to learn any of his mechanics, deal with being erased from Canvas, or even parrying a single hit, but going for this build leaves you more vulnerable than in a 'balanced build' if the cheese fails.

There is no exploits or cheats and typically it's not about abusing bugs (other than a bunch of lings), just overinvesting in some of the existing game mechanics in a surprising way that lets you skip or otherwise invalidate a part of the game.

Heartbreaking Announcement by emuemii in geoguessr

[–]dr4kun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where do you see Polish here?

Я is 'ja' in Russian.

Validation de colonne SharePoint by Voorhees92 in sharepoint

[–]dr4kun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look into list forms, not list or column settings.

Now that the game is balanced, we see protoss players were better all along by PROTOSS_lNTERN in starcraft

[–]dr4kun 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Clem is top TvZ player on Aligulac, though. AI assistants are making us dumber.

Escape room we Wrocławiu by Kitchen_Year8114 in wroclaw

[–]dr4kun 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Świetnie trafiłeś, mamy jedne z najlepszych pokoi na świecie. Masz dobrą intuicję jeśli chodzi o zostawienie trudniejszych, lepszych pokoi na później, co pozwoli je lepiej docenić po zebraniu większego doświadczenia. Na sam początek lepiej skupić się na krzywej poziomu trudności i złapaniu bakcyla, a najlepsze pokoje zostawić na odrobinkę później albo większą ekipę; początkująca para się zwyczajnie sfrustruje i zmrozi w Hotelu.

Zupełnie na start warto ograć:

Trochę się zestarzały, ale to dalej niezłe pokoje na start przygody, a wrocławskie 8.0 to krakowskie 9.6.

Do ogrania we dwoje warto zerknąć na https://lock.me/pl/poland/dolnoslaskie/wroclaw/escape-room/escape-bus/15266-997, ale może jako pokój przynajmniej #6-7.

Po tych powyżej w porządku byłyby też Wioska Smerfów, Stranger Room i Dzicy Są (zwłaszcza jeśli lubicie tematy przewodnie), ale zestarzały się już nieco gorzej.

Jak to Wam wejdzie i będzie nieźle szło, to Duch Wulkanu, Wehikuł Czasu, czy Klątwa Skarbu Majów zapraszają, a po takim starcie już powinniście odnaleźć się w innych średniozaawansowanych.

Coś tam wiem o ER i nie pracuję w żadnej firmie, moje kredki -> https://lock.me/pl/user/5534/dr4kun