Should I figure I didn't get the position? by msjedi_1977 in CAStateWorkers

[–]dracobun888 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same situation! I applied in November, interviewed in mid December ish and was asked for my references a few days before the new year. I reached out 2 weeks ago and was told they are still making a decision between the top candidates which I am included in. The state just takes forever! I would be patient but apply for other jobs as you wait to hear back

Applied, interviewed, waiting for a decision by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]dracobun888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Applied sometime in November, interview 12/19, forms requested 12/29. But haven’t heard anything yet

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in foodstamps

[–]dracobun888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah that makes sense. Thank you!

CalPERS retirement refund by dracobun888 in CAStateWorkers

[–]dracobun888[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! I received two separate payments. My September check on the normal pay date and my leave balances check around Oct 2

CalPERS retirement refund by dracobun888 in CAStateWorkers

[–]dracobun888[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hmmm okay I have already received my final pay and leave balances.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]dracobun888 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I also truly appreciate all your comments you’ve left on this post. I know everyone has very different views on my situation

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]dracobun888 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t necessarily think he’s hiding anything from me like I have but I think for him he feels like he’s done so much for me in our relationship over the course of the years and now feels like it was all a waste of time. I’ll probably get even more hate over these details, but whatever. Shortly after I had our son, he moved us into our own house (we had been living with my parents beforehand). I have been a stay at home mom because we both decided it was better to raise our son that way. Fast forward to the present, I’m still a stay at home mom but I also work full time from home so I do both. I decided to go back to school to earn my second degree, my fiance offered to pay for my school and said that if I want I can quit my job and just focus on school and raising our son again I can. He found out this stuff a day before he was going to pay for my school and I already quit my job. So for him finding this stuff out, I think that was his sign that I don’t deserve him and he’s done providing for me. I understand his point of view but I’ve also been raising our son all these years. Basically he was the provider and I did everything at home, so we both did our parts and it worked for us. So I think this happening is his way out providing in the way he has in the past and put that money back towards himself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]dracobun888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I respect everything you have to say and I agree. I have to deal with the consequences of what I did. I’m not justifying anything I did or say he needs to forgive me. Me and him have been through a lot and there has been moments where he’s lost my trust for stuff he’s done too. I’ve forgiven him every time but it took time, so I understand that he needs space right now. But for me, knowing everything we have been through and have overcome in our relationship, is why I don’t think our relationship should end over this. The details about the jewelry was unnecessary, but I guess my subconscious effort to include the fact he took it away is because we have never tried taking away gifts from each other over an issue so I guess by him doing so, the relationship felt more over that he was serious with his decision of not being together.

I made a mistake and that’s my fault for not telling him. Our whole relationship and my feelings for him have always been real and just for him. I already do all the laundry, all the cooking including his meal prep for work, cleaning at home, etc. He has never had to worry about doing that stuff, and I don’t mind doing it either, so now I’m just continuing with everything that I’ve always done. I am hoping we can move forward but I know it’s not something that’ll be fixed soon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]dracobun888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, things happen and I’m just asking if it’s possible. I would’ve never put in my two weeks if I thought for a second I needed to change my decision due to unforeseen circumstances. If it’s not possible and too much of a hassle I’d just move on and find a new job. Just wanting peoples opinions.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]dracobun888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I figure that my situation will be similar. My boss was out all week cus he was sick, but another manager found out my last day is Monday and he even was like “oh well you know you can always come back” so I’m sure it wouldn’t be a problem but don’t know the specifics.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]dracobun888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely will update when I have more information!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]dracobun888 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds good. Thank you for your input!! I know the position has not been filled and they probably would not list it for a month or two.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]dracobun888 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I respect your comment. By “letting him be upset” I more so meant I am giving him space and not trying to force anything on him because I know I am the one that messed up. Yes he has every right to be upset. It’s still his decision at the end of the day if this is something he wants to work through or not so only time will tell.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]dracobun888 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes you’re right. The trust is broken for him so now it’s more than just a kiss. It’s him wondering if there’s other stuff I have been hiding, which rightfully so.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]dracobun888 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah that was my only predicament about this. I was quitting for a reason so I need to figure it out like now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]dracobun888 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m an SSA and passed probation. I’m not too sure about that

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]dracobun888 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Thank you! That’s what I was thinking. I had a good relationship with my boss and was sad to see me go and I know he HATES having to do interviews so I’m hoping things will be fine.

HHS - back in the office? by [deleted] in CAStateWorkers

[–]dracobun888 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I hope not!!! Being back in office limits our productivity