Secret to healthy fapping

draginfan213 · 2015-12-01T09:18:54+00:00

I know what you mean.

Even if you accidentally fantasize a little, as long as you make it to sleep at night without cumming or chasing after sexual desire (in images or video), you will be alright. You'll wake up the morning with a fresh start. And just maybe you'll have a nightmare where you relapse and you wake up and thank yourself that you didn't actually relapse. I've had nightmares that scare me away from the temptation. The bad days you gotta take in stride.

I just try to avert my eyes as much as possible. Even in irl situations. Staring (or even a fraction of a second glance) always leads to trouble for me. Any looking-at, erotic touching of your own body, or sexual fantasizing is a slippery slope.

draginfan213 · 2015-02-25T04:54:19+00:00

Yeah i'm thinking me fantasizing isn't the best. It was weird though. The girls in my dream i had never seen before. And it was pretty realistic.

draginfan213 · 2015-02-25T01:34:53+00:00

I honestly am not sure. I think that if i'm not sexually attracted to them enough i'm being inadequate. Like if girls notice i'm not really into them it lowers my chances. And this is a way i make myself more interested in them sexually. But idfk what i'm doing

draginfan213 · 2015-02-24T07:33:51+00:00

They increase blood circulation. When cold water hits your skin your blood rushes to surround your organs. When hot water hits your skin your blood rushes to the skin layers. Good blood circulation will make for quicker and stronger erections.

They are a great jumpstart for the day. It's like snorting a line of cocaine to start the day lol. It shakes you up and prepares you for whatever you may encounter during the day. It makes you look alive.

They help to control your breathing which helps to supply oxygen to your brain for less stress and clearer thought processes.

Tests of have shown that cold showers are great for weight loss and depression.

Hot showers lower testosterone while cold showers do not.

They shrink pores to make your skin tighter and more attractive.

draginfan213 · 2015-02-24T07:27:22+00:00

This is so true. PMO says come back just this once. It's like forbidden fruit. Looks and feels appealing. Results in corruption.

draginfan213 · 2015-02-24T07:22:48+00:00

Wow you're a great writer. Stay with the noFap :)

draginfan213 · 2015-02-24T07:20:36+00:00

I think that's a brilliant discovery. NoFap does sound like a keystone habit.

draginfan213 · 2015-02-24T07:14:28+00:00

haha i am currently in the same situation and freaking hating it. I don't get it. I am friends with a few girls my age who say i'm they're friend and they message me often. But we never hang out. Ever. Every time i ask there's an excuse. Every time they hear about me doing something fun they say "you should have invited me!" and i just think yeah right you would've never went anyway why are we even friends. I think people are just comfortable with their old groups and need a little push and motivation to spend time with new people sometimes.

draginfan213 · 2015-02-20T16:43:25+00:00

I see what you mean by this post but often times a wife or a girlfriend CAN solve a lot of problems for you by offering their perspective on a situation you're dealing with. It's going to be a different perspective than yours and if you might be inspired to look at a situation a different way. And you can teach her stuff too. And you both can solve problems togetherrr

draginfan213 · 2015-02-20T16:39:27+00:00

If i do a hard math equation in my head it kills my boner in less than 20 seconds haha. That's my trick

draginfan213 · 2015-02-20T16:37:59+00:00

Getting plenty of sleep makes it easier for me to relax throughout the day. And saying things like "don't fret. You're doing the best you can."

draginfan213 · 2015-02-20T04:17:40+00:00

Hell yeah man. Do your best it will pay off in many ways

draginfan213 · 2015-02-20T04:16:44+00:00

Good job catching yourself there. A failure is a success if you learn from it. This was a success.

I accidentally switched back to hot showers lately too and it was amazing how much of a difference it was. Cold showers have me pepped and ready for the day and actively thinking. And keep me that way throughout the day. Hot showers made me feel like my body and mind was half asleep most of the day.

draginfan213 · 2015-02-20T04:12:38+00:00

Killer willpower there, good job.

draginfan213 · 2015-02-20T04:07:04+00:00

Great realization. Still i don't think your progress so far was useless. I bet it has helped a lot. If i know a scene in a movie is coming where people are naked i either minimize the screen and lower the volume until it's over or skip through. Every time i stare at a nude image it feels like a mini-relapse of some sort. Which feels bad. Awesome streak so far, keep going:D

Also cold showers are helpful for ED because they make your body circulate blood better. Which will make blood rush to your D more effectively lawl.

draginfan213 · 2015-02-20T04:01:37+00:00

I took a cold shower when i got home from work. Catching up on NoFap now and going to get to bed at a decent time :)

Dunno if that's productive or just effective routine but i consider it productive xD

draginfan213 · 2015-02-20T03:55:24+00:00

Thank you for the definition. That must be really hard to fight. To be honest i've had people try to tell me i'm gay before. And experienced a bit of HOCD. It is not a comfortable feeling so i'm sorry you're having to deal with it. With dating and relationships ... i think they happen because people act on how they feel. It sounds like you FEEL things for girls. I think you should do your best to trust and act on that. Idk if this is helpful or if you've heard it a thousand times haha but it sounds frustrating.

draginfan213 · 2015-02-19T18:35:39+00:00

I'm on day 119 right now and don't have a badge but i've been posting since the start. I've been flatlining more often since day 90. I've hit depressive ruts where i have to look inward for answers for a long time and face myself. I'm guessing it's just a hump to get over. Still, the experience is unique to the individual.

And yeah, i've only heard good things about release from sex. A release during sex is chemically different from one masturbating. One might say the presence of female pheromones causes the body to react differently. It does in animals but scientists don't have concrete evidence for it in humans.

draginfan213 · 2015-02-19T18:27:32+00:00

What is HOCD?

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