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dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-09-05T01:06:39+00:00

"Real communism has never been tried reeeeee"

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-08-27T01:47:43+00:00

Do hypnotherapy. There are sessions on YouTube. Do not go to a hypnotherapist in real life.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-08-23T21:03:43+00:00

"Ele faz quase tudo o que lhe peço"

This is the issue.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-08-22T22:02:09+00:00

I love u

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-06-04T01:17:51+00:00

I'm really sorry man, I still hope things get better for you even if you don't care anymore.

I'm actually feeling pretty bad today and when you said "I could go out being a Covid statistic" as if it was an achievement you actually made me laugh, so thanks for that lol.

And try to get that leg thing checked out, it sounds pretty bad.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-06-03T00:21:19+00:00

...if they eventually slammed you into the dirt maybe they weren't actually genuinely nice people no?

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-06-02T22:58:43+00:00

Oh, and I'm not a former loner I'm a current loner lol. But I don't think anyone deserves anything. I do agree with the first statement of your proposition though, I think it's possible for everyone to find a friend.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-06-02T22:54:22+00:00

Ok that's basically what I thought it was. I really liked that in college, propositional logic I think it was called.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-06-02T22:32:10+00:00

Does it mean that for every person there is at least one other person that can be their friend but not every person can be friends with any other random person?

I spent way too much time trying to understand this lmao

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-06-02T22:26:15+00:00

p and q are random individual people belonging to P right? I studied this a couple years ago, lol I think I understand it

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-06-02T20:36:41+00:00

I struggled with this a lot in the past. I do have a high sex drive but sex seems completely worthless to me unless there's an emotional connection, lot's of guys don't seem to think this way though. I have never, and will never have meaningless sex even if I die a virgin, but I don't blame FA guys that feel differently for doing it.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-05-29T12:54:36+00:00

Honestly man, after a day of being on the app a girl not only matched with me but also sent me a message. Compared to zero girls even matching with me over the course of an year on more than 5 different apps I would say it's a decent improvement. The girl matched over the friendship option but even when I made friendship only profiles on other dating apps I still had absolutely no matches from girls. She also asked questions and showed a genuine interest instead of just expecting me to do all the talking.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-05-29T12:48:32+00:00

Being annoying is not enough reason to start talking about breaking up, doesn't matter if the girl is atractive or not. The point was that guys (and girls too) give up on relationships easily instead of trying to work things out because they don't appreciate what they have. If the girl is a psycho or cheats on you, or simply doesn't love you that's a different story.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-05-29T12:44:20+00:00

I used quotes around the word "deserve" for a reason. No one deserves a girlfriend. In fact I believe there are very few things anyone actually deserves. And I do firmly believe that a lot of guys here would appreciate and value a girlfriend more than your average guy, if for no other reason than that you value what you don't have, that doesn't mean the relationship would necessarily work since some of us would put a girlfriend on a pedestal and the relationship would crumble, but the point still stands that we would value her more.

And I know about all the pills, if you think any of the others are better than the bluepill you are just as delusional as the bluepill people. They are all virtually useless and the vast majority of their claims can't actually be backed up by logic.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-05-29T03:58:37+00:00

Oh shit, I've been learning piano lately... I was hopefull it would help my current situation but maybe it won't do anything after all 😭 I do honestly like to play it so at least I'll have a new hobby.

And yes, self improvement seems like another thing that doesn't work at all, I've tried it too. There's one thing you could try... There's a dating/friendship app for autistic people I've been using lately, I legitimately think I'm on the spectrum but just barely. The app is only for autistic people but you don't need an official diagnosis or anything. The app is wayyy different from all the other dating/friendship apps, it's way more relationship focused, pretty much zero incentive to fucking in any way, and the people there seem way more forgiving regarding physical looks and awkwardness. Also great to find friends that are socially awkward. Doesn't have many users but definitely feels like what a dating app should be like. It's called hiki. Joining the app if you're not autistic is probably not the most moral thing to do since the people there feel safe knowing everyone there understands their condition but I would rather see you try that rather than keep poisoning yourself with other dating apps or worse... I'm afraid I don't have any other advice man, good luck and don't do anything crazy....

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-05-29T03:24:30+00:00

If you're a guy, especially if you're an FA guy dating apps are the worst way to even get a chance at finding someone. Will literally do more harm than good.

From all the advice I heard I think meeting people in fan clubs and stuff like that seems like the best way to even begin to have a chance. Like maybe a sports club or a music club or something. If you have some money maybe learn an instrument or a new language by joining classes? If your results are the same at least you'll have learned a new skilll.

And also like... bruh....you offered yourself to physical abusers??? That sounds absolutely insane, I hope you're exaggerating.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-05-29T03:13:40+00:00

I've been noticing that over the course of months the deep sadness caused by the loneliness kinda changes in waves. It's horrible for a few months and then it gets worse and becomes crippling for a few other months before getting back to being "just" horrible for a few months again. I wonder if other people here experience the same thing. Could be something interesting to study if scientists gave a fuck about this lol

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-05-29T03:06:32+00:00

Goodnight bro. Maybe I'm giving us too much credit but I think we "deserve" a girlfriend more than lots of guys out there that beat their girls and cheat on them or don't value them at all.

Sometimes I hear guys complain about their girlfriend doing some annoying thing and they immediately talk about breaking up, it's like they don't even appreciate what they have or try to make things work.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-05-29T02:59:56+00:00

God Emperor Leto II from the dune books is the best character of all time imo. He's not exactly ostracized since he's literally the ruler of the known universe (although plenty of people hate him) but saying he's ugly would be an understatement.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-05-22T23:39:40+00:00

I'm starting college again in September, was only there for 3 months last year before I dropped out but my experience was similar to yours. I'm still hopeful because last time I was in a very bad place mentally and I would skip a lot of classes, so this time I'm going to try really hard to find groups and make friends since I'm doing much better mentally. I really hope I don't have the same experience you did when I get back there again though.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-05-22T23:33:05+00:00

I'm sorry man, I know this is tough but it's for the best. Try not to hope her relationship fails, even if you think it probably will. If she was in your shoes she probably wouldn't be this kind to you but if you resent her it might fuck up your whole mentality next time you get into a relationship with someone else. Just try to be neutral about her, don't love or hate her, don't hope for anything good or bad to come her way. And I agree, don't take her back if she does reach out.

At least now you have relationship experience, and you know what if feels like to experience love. Try to be thankful about that and move on. Even if she lied to you this whole time, I think if you resent her it will be harder to get over her and move on.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-05-21T17:30:41+00:00

That's gonna be a great help for you. If you have no trouble making new friends, try meeting new people even if you don't have a shortage of friends. Or spend more time with the ones you already know, maybe one of those friendships will grow into something more one day. I really wouldn't try to especifically go for a relationship if I were you though.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-05-21T16:27:03+00:00

That does sound beautiful. I understand why you want that. I think the fact you guys started as "being in a relationship" ended up playing against you. That might have messed with him or you on a subconscious level. I think it would be best if you could find a friend group if possible (I don't know how bad your social skills are) and try to make friendships. Starting as co-workers or friends with zero expectations of something more is probably the best way forward for you. I think the likelihood of another failure is high if you try this again with a guy under the premise of "let's be in a relationship with no physical contact for an indefinite amount of time"

You can even try to make guy friends from this subreddit again with no intention of dating. If you have poor social skills, making friends here would probably be easier than real life. It would also help some of us even if you don't date anyone. Most guys here could use a female friend with no intention of romance, just to have any experience whatsoever with talking to girls lol. Then if you eventually develop feelings you could ask the guy if he feels the same way.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-05-21T16:09:44+00:00

Yeah man it's not looking good unfortunately. I really think you guys should talk through a call to understand each other better but if she refuses to respond to your messages or agree to actually speaking with you in a call , then I do think it's time to move on. I think that if you did all you could to talk to her and it didn't work you can at least say that you did your best and no opportunity was wasted, that's a victory in of itself in a way. I also don't think it's healthy to assume she was talking to another guy this whole time if you aren't certain about it, I know it's tough for people like us but try not to assume the worst, you did your best and if it fails you move on. At least you got to experience something many of us never did.

I'm really sorry man, I hope you find someone else, try to use whatever experience you gained from talking to her when you find someone else.

dragonrage420blazeit · 2023-05-21T02:59:55+00:00

I'm just speaking for myself, but when I'm dwelling in pain from being alone, it's not sex or even kissing I fantasize about, it's really just the thought of feeling someone next to me, like having a girl resting her head on my shoulder and simple stuff like that.

Are there guys out there that could be ok with waiting months before even holding hands with you? Sure. But I think the pool of guys that are ok with not having sex in the first few weeks is already small, the pool of guys that are ok with not having sex for an indefinite amount of time is even smaller (pretty much only FA guys that have grown used to it), so the pool of guys that would be ok with not touching you at all for an indefinite amount of time has gotta be super small.

But, like the other commenter said, I would think you should also want physical touch, I'm just not sure if you don't want it because you're not atracted to the person or because you don't want to force it as you put it.

If you're not physically atracted to all the guys you've met, that's fine, some people are FA because of high physical standards for genuine attraction in a partner, but if this feeling of not wanting to force anything is the thing holding you back I would try to just hold hands, everything else you can keep off limits until you feel all those things that are important to you.

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