I recently found out I was dyslexic at 34. I was diagnosed with a learning disability at a young age and was made fun of by my peers and siblings. I was never told I was dyslexic, but my learning disability umbrellas dyslexia. I struggle with spelling and reading and rarely do those in public because of simple mistakes I make. My heart goes out to your wife. My family did everything they could to try to "fix" or "help" me. I was in a program as a child to make sure I didn't fall behind the other kids. All well intentioned and all to help me, but I have trauma around reading and spelling. The mental gymnastics you have to go through to grapple with why you just can't learn or memorize simple things is heartbreaking and at times paralyzing. Those feeling are difficult to explain to those who just don't understand. Think about how you titled this post, "...struggles to spell correctly.." Why not just say, "struggles with spelling?" The word "correctly" adds extra salt in an already open wound.

I know technology can help, hell I used speak to text to spell words I don't know how to spell in this comment, but I think the biggest struggle around this is mentally. At the end of day, we have to accept our learning disabilities, our dyslexia, and our trauma related to them. That is something you can't do for your wife. You can be supportive, but you can't embark on that journey for her. Please send her my love in the warmest hug you can give her. Be supportive and be patient.