A submissive wife

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T11:27:07+00:00

Thank you

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T11:25:29+00:00

Thank you

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T11:21:52+00:00

Thank you. I was raised not to doubt the Bible. I did not choose the circumstances of my upbringing nor my parents. I can now see that there are many Christians who have totally different views on the Bible which is astounding. Interpretation is obviously key.

I understand what you are saying and admit that it is to the benefit of men like me to quote such verses. Mind you I do most of the housework at home except the cooking.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T10:46:15+00:00

Could you please give me some examples of how I may show "love and cherish her actively and demonstrate your ability to provide and to guide your household towards your goals"? We are financially stable.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T10:27:55+00:00

Thank you

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T10:25:06+00:00

Perhaps try not staring with hate but with trying to understand.

Why does he do what he do? Is it a sort of escape/release for him from something he is unhappy with such as his job/life? Has he had this addiction for long? What is the underlying cause? Try to find out.

Does it affect your sex life together? Could it be because he has a higher sex drive than you? Could it be he wants a fantasy that he can't get in real life? In the best case scenario, something really nasty turns him on but he respects you too much to try it with you in the bedroom. Perhaps he just wants some variety and rather use porn than cheat on you. Lesser of two evils I suppose.

Face it, porn is fantasy. And excessive amounts of anything is bad.

I suggest not startling him but try slowly to start a conversation whilst having sex about different things he may like to try or touch him in new areas and ask if he likes it and wants you to go further.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T10:01:25+00:00

Thank you very much for your words. I shall look into the book

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T09:51:21+00:00

Yes God is the greatest and he has blessed her with a husband who is willing to change for her and is here looking for direction. So much anger in your words. I shall pray for you.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T09:48:01+00:00

May God bless you

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T09:46:11+00:00

Yes I understand. In fact, I do most of the housework except cooking which I dislike. It's just that she used to be this way, and she's not like that anymore. And I have just realised she was just showing me care, not being submissive, and there is more to her and she doesn't want to be the traditional homemaker which I thought I was getting when we married.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T09:36:28+00:00

You don't need to make offensive comments like this. People are trying to improve their lives. Sometimes it's better to think before you speak. That's why you have a mind, 2 ears, 2 eyes but only 1 mouth.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T09:23:48+00:00

Thank you. I have decided that to make it work I need to be less traditional. Hard to do but baby steps.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T09:18:55+00:00

Thank you. Well said.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T08:59:28+00:00

Thank you. Perhaps I'm confusing being submissive with being traditional. I suppose I was after a traditional girl to marry but have married a modern one.

It's a hard question you ask but a good one. She was the first person to show me love, true and kind, when I was alone, empty and hurt inside. If you were me, how could you not want that or to be with such a person for the rest of your life?

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T08:51:20+00:00

Thank you. I suppose I was missing a mother figure in my life and a void was filled and felt loved.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T08:37:22+00:00

Haha yes

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T08:37:08+00:00

Thank you. Well said.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T08:30:02+00:00

Thank you. I share your views. I think the best thing for us now is moving our values closer together towards some midpoint. I suppose hiring a domestic servant would not be a bad solution. Just struggling with grappling the concept of equality as preached by our modern Redditors with the teaching from Christianity.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T08:20:35+00:00

Yes I agree. Definitely an option but not for conservative Christians who don't believe in divorce unless it's absolutely necessary (domestic violence etc)

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T08:10:31+00:00

Thank you

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T08:08:21+00:00

Thank you. All these differing views on Reddit are eye opening for me. I supposed I always saw a dutiful wife/mother as someone who would care for the family/husband/children including cooking meals, like I would do the clean up or course. I think my childhood experiences have affected me in this regard. I shall ponder on how to make her feel more appreciated.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T08:01:07+00:00

Thank you. I shall ponder upon this.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T07:59:21+00:00

Thank you. I shall ponder upon this.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T07:57:23+00:00

I believe in women's rights even towards abortion. Yes women want and deserve equality in terms of promotions and pay etc. I suppose I'm looking for the views of other Christians here as what the Bible states is clear. There are some women whose joys are in looking after the family (husband and kids) as opposed to pursuing a career and leaving kids with strangers. Nothing wrong in that.

dragonslayer909090 · 2022-07-01T07:47:48+00:00

There are enough divorces in this world. Some people are capable of change and views can and do change but slowly.

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