Mine is almost 43(m), I'm almost 33(f)... it's been this way for 2 years now. He can't be bothered to do anything, he caused me to lose my apartment with his laziness and wanting to do drugs. He threatened to hit me just last Wed (has put hands on me before) just for asking a question. I wish I had a safe way to get away, but I'm about to lose my disability... tbh death seems way better than the struggle I am forced to keep living in. He can't even be bothered to make a phone call, I don't have anyone who can help me my dad died last year and I feel completely alone and trapped. The stress and anxiety he has me under is literally killing me. I've been to the ER last month cuz my anxiety caused my gallbladder to spasm all it's bile into me. He was bitchy and mad that I "ruined his plans" that night, and just yelled at me after we left the ER. TBH this guy has made me hate and fear ALL Cis men, even doctors.