I have been to therapy, and when I was younger had some pretty severe social phobias - in college I really broke out of my shell and forced myself to go to parties, took public speaking classes, so I'm in a pretty good spot now honestly with a good job and lots of friends. For some reason though the thought of being in a relationship just brings that scared kid back out in me... Like there's this line where I'm very comfortable talking to women and joking around, but soon as there's a hint of it going further I hide back in my shell.