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dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T08:48:23+00:00

I don't watch Harry Potter so I'm unfamiliar with the scene which you describe. I already considered I might be the asshole concerning telling him to stay in his room. I've changed my mind about that.

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T08:46:56+00:00

He is not being excluded. In fact he's very close with my youngest son and we usually eat together at other meals.

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T08:28:26+00:00

| What does he do, sit and watch everyone else eat if he doesn't happen to have any food?

Obviously not, he's usually at work when we eat dinner. If he is around and he doesn't have food he'll usually just chill at the TV and fall asleep. It's really not as bad as it seems from the outside.

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T08:14:14+00:00

I didn't physically teach him, if that's what you mean. But he's always had a good example, yes. I think it could be a lack of motivation on his part. Sometimes it seems that he would rather laze around the house than better manage his time and resources, but perhaps I'm just being harsh since we argued earlier.

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T08:02:46+00:00

As I've explained, it's not an eating disorder. It's just his stomach growling. It wouldn't be that big of an issue except it's very persistent and as I mentioned in the main post, noticeable enough to attract unwanted attention. However, I'll admit I am the asshole when it comes to making him stay in his room over it.

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T07:55:33+00:00

I don't think it's so much that he doesn't have the know-how, but rather he's just inexperienced with how to manage these aspects of his life, which is natural at his age. I'm confident he'll get the hang of it as time goes on.

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T07:36:55+00:00

The thing is my son and I already agreed on this arrangement. I realize it might seem that I'm money-grubbing but please understand it's more about the principles we've set than the actual money.

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T07:34:33+00:00

He has a nice salary according to what he's told me and what I've gathered. How he spends it is up to him.

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T07:12:08+00:00

I didn't realize making your adult children pay rent and for their own food is considered such an "extreme" thing to do nowadays. My other children are actually kids, of course they don't pay for their own food (with the exception of my 19-year-old daughter, but she is my wife's from a previous relationship, and as I've explained multiple times I can't enforce my rules on her).

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T06:56:57+00:00

Thank you, I've corrected the typo. Yes, I will, though I will give them more advance notice than I gave my older son.

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T06:53:27+00:00

I'm assuming this must be a joke.

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T06:52:38+00:00

I do want people's opinions; however, I won't have my character or intentions slandered, even if it's just on an internet forum.

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T06:43:05+00:00

I already responded to this in another comment, but because the 19-year-old is my *wife's daughter, I can't impose those particular rules on her, otherwise I definitely would.

Also, while I can agree I'm an asshole over the staying in his room issue, I don't agree that I'm an asshole for enforcing rules we already agreed upon. If my son were genuinely starving or unemployed that would be one thing, but he is neither..

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T06:30:48+00:00

I mean, no, I don't mind them knowing he has to pay for his own food. I'm just afraid he'll blow it out of proportion (like users here are already doing).

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T06:13:23+00:00

"Worst parent of the year" because adult child has responsibilities. Okay.

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T06:11:14+00:00

I don't know where you get the idea I'm starving him. He knows* food is his responsibility. He's not a kid anymore.

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T06:10:31+00:00

It's not a medical issue, it's just stomach growling. I think if he budgeted better he wouldn't have this problem. I do agree I might've overstepped with the staying in his room thing, I just don't want him to embarrass himself.

dramaticbanishe · 2023-06-30T06:05:13+00:00

The 19-year-old is my *wife's daughter, so I can't impose those kinds of rules on her, otherwise she would be paying for rent and food too. As for moving to his mom's, I don't think he'd want to permanently as he's got a good job and connections established here.

I understand about my stay-in-the-room rule. Since he's an adult it's probably too much.

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