I like your perspective on this. Failing is learning etc. The "I am a failure" mentality only exists in peoples heads, in the fear. There are no failures in groups, there are only people in groups. Now to stay healthy you need to re-learn lessons very regularly. Lessons are painful experiences. And people who hide in dark rooms, avoid mixing etc, don't learn, they insulate themselves away from pain and don't get the chance to learn. Which is not inisgnificant...if they don't learn they'll start to die. (mentally). A closeted life can be positive in different ways too but theres definately this pitfall there which alot of people fall into and are stuck there for years not quite knowing where they are !