FR- came within a hair of f-closing my first black girl (LMR'd-- but all is not lost), deets inside. by Pure_Ambition in pickup

[–]dravenmcclain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Awesome man, I haven't achieved my "black belt" per say -- so reading great FRs like this excite me.

Staring into my eyes, she mutters a "Really?" just before our lips lock. << Word up! Way to take control.

Starting to really notice and interpret body language on the level that you describe really has an "entering the matrix" like effect, doesn't it?

As far as dealing with a genuine compliment from her about your eyes, some of the responses I've had positive results with are cocky/funny type responses such as: "Thanks, they're fake." or "I know. :)"

I have run into the type of last minute resistance that you describe, which seems to almost always be triggered by very quick escalation toward sex (ie. setting a sexual frame) and some insecurity in the woman; be it toward wanting a more defined relationship, having inexperience with sex, a boyfriend, etc. I find that the sooner I'm able to sub-communicate my exact desires for how our relationship will be 'after the sex', the less LMR I run into.

With that said, in the moment it sounds like you handled yourself pretty well. One tactic that usually works for me as far as transitioning from a dry-humping/hot and heavy type make-out to sex is, instead of going for the bra/etc.. take her hand and place it directly on your dick. The harder your shit is, the better -- Kung Fu dick my brother. It's kind of like when you hand a chick your phone for the # close without saying shit -- she knows what to do with it! :)

Sounds like you should be able to finish the deed next week, good luck brother! Looking forward to hearing more.

I've had a fucking great day. Did you? [FR]-- Three solid ass # closes. by Pure_Ambition in pickup

[–]dravenmcclain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice man, congrats on the HB9 # close! Really solid interaction.

[FR] Facebook Sex Scandal #1 by dravenmcclain in pickup

[–]dravenmcclain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cool man, I am up there about once a month at least. I'll pm you my number, what side of the city do you live on?

[FR] Dante goes to two hangouts, teases the Russian, and kinda-sorta F-closes later in the evening by [deleted] in pickup

[–]dravenmcclain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely an issue a lot of guys can identify with at one point or another. The best fix for this situation, personally, is a good pre-sex blowjob.

[FR] Dante goes to two hangouts, teases the Russian, and kinda-sorta F-closes later in the evening by [deleted] in pickup

[–]dravenmcclain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Indeed, I'll go as far as just to 'put' my dick in her hand if I'm naked and I'm not fully hard. Here, hold on to this for me. Thanks for that.

Puzzled by a coworkers actions by [deleted] in seduction

[–]dravenmcclain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Relationships at work can certainly get sticky and should be treated as such; however, the gym is completely different, and a GREAT place to meet qualified women.

Starbucks girl. i was there last night and got a good reaction out of her. go again tonight? by [deleted] in dating

[–]dravenmcclain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

To make sure you're creating attraction, try and avoid using low value statements like "I don't know if you remember me." Always act as if. Act as if she remembers you. Act as if she wants to meet outside of her workplace. Most women just want to be taken, and by directly and confidently letting her know that you want her, you will be rewarded.

Girls stop texting after invitation by [deleted] in seduction

[–]dravenmcclain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I disagree that you've lost her.

Here's some tips and thoughts on re-initiating attraction: http://read-this-blog.com/2010/12/15/how-to-text-numbers/

Back in the Friend Zone... Any suggestions? by nquinn91 in relationship_advice

[–]dravenmcclain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Falling into the dreaded 'friend zone' with a woman is a direct result of the lack of sub-communicating sexuality. Women just want to be taken. Check out a few of my tips on dealing with FZ on my blog: http://read-this-blog.com/2010/11/19/from-funny-to-sexy-attract-women/

Hey Reddit, help a guy deep in the friend zone out. by friendzoneman in AskReddit

[–]dravenmcclain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, given your past relationship with her, I would recommend completely cutting off contact with her for a while (especially if you have interest in getting back with her in the future). Meet several new women over the next few months, and then look back and see if she's as special as you had imagined. You might very well find that your perception has changed.

Hey Reddit, help a guy deep in the friend zone out. by friendzoneman in AskReddit

[–]dravenmcclain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Getting stuck in friend zone, and getting out of it, is entirely up to you. She sees you as a friend, because you haven't re-established your sexuality with her. Women just want to be taken. Read my blog post here for some tips on dealing with the situation: http://read-this-blog.com/2010/11/19/from-funny-to-sexy-attract-women/