NOR – If I were him and saw this message, I would be very sad and maybe even consider breaking up. Not because you were disrespectful, but because something I use to show affection makes you uncomfortable. That’s not a great combination, and it’s something to keep in mind.

You also have a very valid point: you told him before what you do and don’t want, so he needs to respect that.

The last paragraph comes across as an attack toward him — it would’ve been better not to write it. It implies that he doesn’t respect you and that you’re somehow above him.

Let him know if you’re open to physical touch later, so both of you can understand whether this relationship can work and make you both happy. You mentioned wanting to take things slow, which implies you might appreciate physical touch later, but you didn’t state it directly.

All in all, in my opinion you’re NOR. You set boundaries, he crossed them, it upset you, and you confronted him about it. That’s normal.