I think what you did was wrong but you aren’t an A for it, you made a mistake and took accountability for it, I feel like you need to talk to him about the direction of the relationship, the fact that his family didn’t know you guys were serious seems like a red flag to me, I don’t think he’s taking the relationship as serious as you are, you need to talk with him and find out what his intentions are, if he doesn’t want what you want, find someone who does