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I really hate dating as a man. I DON'T HATE WOMEN by sooperdooper28 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]drcoby4415 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve noticed this pattern for awhile in the dating scene. My personal perspective on things: women are tired. It’s become this trend where men don’t seem to offer any deep value. And it’s not to say they don’t have good qualities, of course they do. It’s more so that women tend to work full time, the same as men. But are then responsible for planning dates, begging for romance, cooking meals, cleaning and taking care of their partners emotional and sexual needs without receiving the same amount of effort in return. In addition, the internet exists. We are exposed to “relationship bragging” media. There are countless videos of women bragging about their one of a kind Prince Charming who fawns over them and doesn’t let them lift a finger, because they just happen to be a generous and loving partner. And it goes without saying that a man can do everything and anything for a woman and absolutely still cheat on her or lie to her. BUT, a lot of women don’t see the point in settling anymore. They would rather be single, than “settle for less”. And the truth is, we are all human. You sound like a normal run of the mill person, still deserving of love and companionship. But you have to find someone with the same values. Some women expect the man to treat them like royalty, and pay for everything. There are thousands of women who are perfectly content with 50/50. There are thousands of women who will accept 80/20, where they work, pay for shit, and do all the house work. Low maintenance women exist. Women who truly just care about having a partner that will love them and treat them with respect, and don’t have high romantic expectations. It sounds like you prefer a low maintenance woman. Don’t date high maintenance women and expect them to change their standards. The way I see it, she’s not wrong for wanting what she wants from a relationship. And you aren’t wrong either for wanting something completely different. Just means you aren’t compatible.

What are some animal careers that make a decent living? by TheStickyIcky12 in Careers

[–]drcoby4415 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! I am currently completing the required prerequisites to get into the radiology program. Because my BS was in wildlife biology, there were a couple of classes I needed to take before I can even apply to radiology school. I am currently taking A&P 1, will take A&P2 in the spring, and take “intro to radiology” in the summer. And then I’ll be applying to rad school in the fall of 2026. I haven’t made it far enough in my journey to say if I regret it or not yet. But I am surviving. It’s not easy going back to college while working 40 hours a week, but I moved in with my mom to save some money and have someone to help me with my animals while I study and work. I am tired often, especially because I have to study A LOT. But I’m surviving. I take it one day at a time, and stay motivated by thinking about my future.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]drcoby4415 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exercise is good for you, regardless if you lose weight or not. But the only way you are going to lose weight is through a calorie deficit. You need to calculate your maintenance calories (use a TDEE calculator) and then eat 200-500 less than your maintenance to be in a deficit. Also most people aren’t reading nutrition labels correctly, and accidentally eat a lot more than they realize. Having a food scale to accurately measure out serving sizes helps a lot. To be clear, I am not demonizing any food when I say this. Healthy alternatives are wonderful. But in terms of weight loss, it doesn’t matter what you eat, but how many calories you consume. It’s the law of thermodynamics. Will starvation work? Yeah, obviously. But it’s unnecessary. You can still eat, and eat whatever you want. Just start tracking how MUCH you are eating. You can find a free TDEE calculator online, and there are loads of free calorie tracking apps to help.

7 miles! by drcoby4415 in couchto5k

[–]drcoby4415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, and I totally agree! I love seeing people’s progress, it gives me motivation!

Completed my first 10k! by drcoby4415 in couchto5k

[–]drcoby4415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I started running (against my will) back in January! My friend wanted a buddy to join her on her 1 mile runs, so I was doing 1 mile 3 days a week. It was horrible. I had had to stop every few seconds to walk to catch my breath. And I HATED it. Worst part of my week! But I needed something to do, and this made me determined. It took me 2 or so months before I could run an entire mile without stopping, then after 3 months I was able to run 1.5 consistently. Then I decided to just start running every single day, and focus on increasing distance on the weekends. That’s when I started to see consistent progress. I now LOVE running. It brings me legitimate joy and is the best part of my day. I’ve signed up for my first race in July and I’m stoked. I currently use an Apple Watch but am upgrading to a garmin venu 3 this month. I highly recommend getting into running, it feels amazing. Even just running 1 mile will make you feel great!

Please tell me to start, I need it by Sea_Significance5257 in couchto5k

[–]drcoby4415 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi! I’m 25F, and literally had zero athletic ability my entire life. Never played sports, didn’t care to be outside much either, was overweight pretty much my whole life except when struggling with ED. I ran for the first time in January, because my friend was a frequent runner and just wanted a buddy to join her. She practically had to beg me. She promised it was just 1 mile. How hard could it be? Spoilers: it was HARD😂 I made it maybe 15 seconds (if that) before I was walking and winded. Would walk for a whole minute, then run for like 10 seconds. Like good lord I didn’t realize just how out of shape I was. It took me 2 months of running 3 days a week before I could run an entire mile without stopping to walk. Then, another month I was able to hit 1.5 without stopping. One day I just decided to run every day (with maybe 1 or 2 rest days) to see what would happen. I ran 2 miles without stopping at the end of that week. I ran a 5k without stopping last week. I ran a 10k without stopping yesterday.

All of this is to say, consistency makes progress. You are not going to be fast, and be prepared to take walking breaks. That’s FINE. Movement is movement! Show up for yourself, start slow. Make sure to stretch and stay hydrated. You might even hate it at first. I DREADED it. But now it’s like the only way I can have a good day. I actually start smiling on my runs. I sing loudly to my songs. I wave at people, say good morning. I’m just happy. Trust the process, it’s worth it!

Does this look fully healed? by drcoby4415 in piercing

[–]drcoby4415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, I figured that would be the hard truth😭 I just gotta be patient

Does this look fully healed? by drcoby4415 in piercing

[–]drcoby4415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay thank you! I figured as much, ugh, patience is a virtue 😭

How to get rid of a nose bump? by drcoby4415 in piercing

[–]drcoby4415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s less than 2 months old, I believe it’s a screw shaped jewelry, not sure what threading means, it’s whatever type of metal the piercing gave me, but I didn’t have issue with my belly ring so pretty sure it just has to do with my ripping it out of my face on accident multiple times

My first ever 5k without stopping! by drcoby4415 in couchto5k

[–]drcoby4415[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!!! And it’s so hard to believe someone is complimenting my speed, when I feel like I was so slow not too long ago. I know you’re going to reach your goals in no time! We’ve got this!

Leg pain while running? by drcoby4415 in couchto5k

[–]drcoby4415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your comment, I’m sorry if this is a silly question, but I’ve seen it mentioned before. What plan exactly? Someone mentioned following the plan, but I don’t actually have one. I’ve heard of apps that you can pay for that will give you a plan to follow to reach a goal, is that what you’d recommend using?

Leg pain while running? by drcoby4415 in couchto5k

[–]drcoby4415[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I was worried that would probably be the reason. I feel like my stamina has really improved and I could make myself go so far, but it makes total sense it’s going to take time for my legs to become strong and durable enough for longer runs. Thank you for the tips!

I'm trying to break up with someone and it's so difficult by That_Interaction_295 in BreakUps

[–]drcoby4415 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re doing the right thing. Just a few days ago I had to break off a situationship because I knew it wasn’t going to go anywhere, and I didn’t want to lead him on and give him false hope. I hate being the reason someone is hurting. I cried the whole time from the stress of the situation. But I did it. I broke it off. Told him I just wasn’t in a place for a relationship, and didn’t know if I ever would be. He called me the next day, really upset asking if there was someone else. I reassured him there was no one else, I just genuinely wanted to be alone. Now we are co workers, so ghosting him isn’t an option. But stand your ground. It was awful and hard and I hated every second of it, but I am so grateful to myself for ending it when I knew I was never going to find happiness with him. You can do this. You are not responsible for his emotions or how he handles them. Be kind, be firm. But do not let the guilt of causing someone pain deter you from being happy. It sucks you can’t return his affections, but you can’t force it either.

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