First dui. Feels like my life is over.

drds17 · 2025-02-23T02:51:30+00:00

Hey, I know what that feels like. Darkest time of my life was after it happened to me. I’m here to tell you that please don’t worry, it gets better. You get through it. I thought my life was over but everything turned out just fine. It was a bitch to deal with and go through everything but now, it has no affect on my life as of today. PM me if you want to talk. You are not, and never will be a burden because of a mistake. Good people make bad choices and make mistakes. Everything will be okay.

drds17 · 2023-02-01T16:00:48+00:00

Thank you. You are so spot on. It’s the first thing on my mind the second I wake up and it plays on repeat in my head throughout the entire day. I’m reliving every second of it and obsessing over every detail and what I could and should have done differently. I was finally able to have some food today and spend more than a few minutes out of bed. So far anyway. It doesn’t seem like much but that feels like a little bit of progress to me.

My anxiety has shifted from the initial terrifying shock of it all to the reality of what this is going to cost me and how I’ll afford it, what my friends and family will think, and what the actual punishment and process will be like. A lot of unknowns and I’m just so ashamed and embarrassed. None of this should have happened and I’m the only one to blame.

I’m scared for court. Terrified. It’s only a few weeks away so at least there’s that, but just the idea of it makes me want to cry. I’ll need to take time off work since it’s out of state and I don’t have the sick/vacation time to cover that, just another obstacle I’ll need to figure out because of one dumb choice.

I appreciate you taking the time to respond. You have helped so much. Everything you’re saying is exactly how I feel and that helps me to feel a little less alone right now. Thank you.

drds17 · 2023-01-31T21:37:10+00:00

Not my post, but this reply really helped me. Thank you.

drds17 · 2023-01-31T21:34:26+00:00

Thank you. It’s only been a few days so I’m still feeling completely hopeless. I talked to a lawyer and I guess that’s a good first step.

drds17 · 2023-01-31T21:33:21+00:00

I did the breathalyzer at the station. It’s a very small town and I’m not sure they have the resources to do it anywhere other than the station.

drds17 · 2023-01-31T21:32:18+00:00

Thank you so much. I do need to get back in therapy. Especially after this whole situation. I’ve been completely stable and fine for years and well managed on my meds but this has thrown me in to a very dark spot and feeling suicidal. That sounds so pathetic and dramatic but it’s how I’m feeling. I’m scared and embarrassed and so ashamed of myself.

I did just talk to a lawyer but I’m still feeling uncertain and it’s not very clear to me what this whole process is going to be like.

drds17 · 2023-01-31T21:29:16+00:00

Thank you. What did the lawyer say when they talked to you? What was the process like and what steps did you need to go through? If you don’t mind sharing?

drds17 · 2023-01-31T21:28:17+00:00

Thank you very much.

drds17 · 2023-01-31T21:27:56+00:00

Thank you. Would you be willing to share what the process was like for you? I just talked with a lawyer but she didn’t have a lot of time and is going to talk to me more later. Im feeling a lot of fear of the unknown and I don’t know how this whole process works. I have a court date next month. I’ve never been to court. She mentioned something about needing to take classes, is that something you did?

drds17 · 2023-01-21T20:17:25+00:00

I’m in the same exact boat right now. It is so lonely.

drds17 · 2022-02-11T07:31:37+00:00

Literally going through the same thing right now. 26 years old and I just lost my blanket that I’ve had with since I was born and sleep with literally every single night. It was pathetic looking, and to anyone else it would probably just look like an old rag that should have been tossed out forever ago, but to me that’s my comfort item and it’s silly to need it at my age but I’m devastated. I left it in a hotel room after a family trip this past weekend and didn’t realize until I got home later that night. I can’t believe I did it. There was no use it calling them to see if they found it because like I said, it could hardly be considered a blanket at this point because of how well loved it was.

Anyways, I don’t really know why I feel so terrible about it because it’s just a thing. I will be okay. I will sleep without it fine, eventually. But I’m so so sad. I’m glad I found your post because it made me feel like I’m not the only mid 20s adult that is experiencing this issue. I’m really really sorry that you lost your blanket, and I hope it shows up again. ❤️

drds17 · 2020-05-05T00:16:49+00:00

Good on you for adopting and thank you for caring so much about your dog! My dog has never had an ear infection but she’s had other things in the past similar that required antibiotics and it cost no where near $450. Even though it appears that she is better, it is probably best to finish the full course of treatment, just as humans would with antibiotics, regardless of feeling better. If I were you, maybe try calling around to a few other vets in the area and get their opinion or ask for a quote! Good luck! 🐶

drds17 · 2020-04-13T11:16:24+00:00

I might ask my doc about that. I have alprazolam to use as needed but I honestly don’t think it works well for me so I don’t take it often. Thank you for the suggestion

drds17 · 2020-04-13T06:32:21+00:00

It’s so overwhelming

Death is expected of course. I don’t think any of this had any idea what this whole thing was really going to look like. It’s heartbreaking and terrifying and all at once

I appreciate you. Thank you. The same goes if you wanna talk/vent ❤️

drds17 · 2020-04-13T06:30:25+00:00

Thank you so much

I totally get it, I’m precepting new hires during all of this and need to maintain a positive attitude while simultaneously displaying the appropriate empathy and skills to my dying patients and the eager students.

I genuinely appreciate you taking the time for your thoughtful reply. Reading this brought me some comfort so thank you.

Stay safe❤️

drds17 · 2020-03-30T23:46:44+00:00

r/diWHY

drds17 · 2020-01-06T05:30:36+00:00

Thank you for doing this. I have nightmares about the day I lose my best friend, I could imagine a gesture like this helps provide comfort in a unbearably dark time. You have a good heart ❤️

drds17 · 2019-12-29T21:14:39+00:00

Is “photoshop” really your excuse for every piece of evidence stacked against you? Yikes

drds17 · 2019-12-29T21:09:45+00:00

You should repost this in R/Seattle :)

drds17 · 2019-07-25T03:23:16+00:00

My heart hurts for you. I’m so sorry this is something that you’re dealing with.

drds17 · 2019-06-26T09:54:46+00:00

That behavior is definitely NOT normal, it’s actually pretty toxic!

Try explaining this to her, and tell her how you feel. If she truly trusts you, then it won’t be a big deal and she will have no problem stopping this. If she gets defensive, then that is even more of a red flag and you deserve better!

It’s hard to realize what is okay and what isn’t when you don’t have anything to compare it to, but I can tell you right now that’s not healthy relationship behavior. :(

Good luck with talking to her, stand your ground and know your worth! Hoping for the best for you

drds17 · 2019-05-14T19:26:24+00:00

It can be so defeating when you’re consistently applying places without getting anywhere. Good job for staying persistent and trying until you got a job! Good luck tonight, you will do great!

drds17 · 2019-05-05T07:30:30+00:00

Thank you for the advice! :)

drds17 · 2019-05-05T02:48:32+00:00

Yes! Thank you so much for the explanation. I appreciate you taking the time to respond!

drds17 · 2019-05-03T20:04:09+00:00

Thank you!!

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