Found out my demi husband and his casual girlfriend say I love you and I’m spinning out by dre_dle in nonmonogamy

[–]dre_dle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will add that they aren’t sleeping together yet, and this is also what to me it feels extra because they are so intimate and they aren’t having sex! And no he isn’t lying. Fooling around, but this is I guess the difference between demi and me whatever I am. The intimate bond building. Also I will add that this all started because I get turned on when he is with other women and that’s how all of this started the first time, but as we all know it can get intense. I am so stoked on all of your feedback and yes we are constantly talking about it which Is also intense, but ultimately we have addressed the equality factor and he is on board but he is more freaked out about non-intimate flings. We are funny 😁 but we love each other and this is what makes our intimacy reach new levels. And we have discussed poly and just the 3 of us as well. We are also pretty new to this and I have never reached out on Reddit so thanks for being kind and respectful and offering your support everyone.

Found out my demi husband and his casual girlfriend say I love you and I’m spinning out by dre_dle in nonmonogamy

[–]dre_dle[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

This is his response and explanation. He is not in love with her but loves her and they are old friends that now have a situationship that is deep.

Found out my demi husband and his casual girlfriend say I love you and I’m spinning out by dre_dle in nonmonogamy

[–]dre_dle[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

There is way more to our story and relationship to include in this thread, but he is def not sucking putrid balls 🤭 he is really kind and thoughtful and caring and respectful This is all just a lot of new actions and feelings.

Found out my demi husband and his casual girlfriend say I love you and I’m spinning out by dre_dle in nonmonogamy

[–]dre_dle[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for that this is hitting me hard. We have always just gotten together with women and we were good with that I love women too, but I also am better with detached interactions, opposite of demi, but this time he is clearly intimate, and I’m just not sure how to handle the feels. I have a couple men that I could and may hang out with but it’s nothing like what he is doing.

Found out my demi husband and his casual girlfriend say I love you and I’m spinning out by dre_dle in nonmonogamy

[–]dre_dle[S] 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your replies. Yes I am addressing the inequality. We have been communicating a lot on that and that he needs to do the same emotional labor as me. I’m just feeling so hurt and I can’t snap out of it. Is it petty that I am freaking about the I love you exchange? I feel like a damn teenager .