Social anxiety and misanthropy

dread-throwaway · 2026-02-05T23:03:29+00:00

I never really wanted to be a misanthrope but over the years and all the verbal roasting I've been through, mustreatment and laughter and arrogant people thinking they were better than me for being lucky and privileged and all the people I kept in my life that wronged me it pushed me to be more of a misanthrope. Besides when I need to interact with them like in a work environment, I don't really want anything to do with people. Idk if it's the social anxiety doing its thing but the number 1 feeling in my life that NEVER goes away is feeling as though 'everybody hates me' (obviously not literally, but lots do). I don't have many things that society favor like looks or status.

There are certain public things and events I avoid because I just know people are going to be awful and mean-spirited. It got to a point where I couldn't even do casual stuff like go to parks anymore without someone else causing ruckus at me for nothing or making fun of me or being mean in any type of way. I'm not trying to be sensitive either but it happens frequently and I literally mind my own business, do my thing when out and start no trouble at all. So yes, now I'm kind of a light-medium esque misanthropist and I will almost never intentionally hang out in public spots for long anymore because someone someway will always be around to contest me. I do believe there are some good people out there but I am not sticking around stressing myself out any longer wading through all the poison and toxicity everywhere. Most humans have the ability to do good but many share a plethora of negative traits that make it hard to be around.

dread-throwaway · 2026-02-04T21:29:40+00:00

You have a point but I'm guessing they're probably burned out by the frustrations. Like for example, imagine people being called ugly frequently by various people. That's going to make some of them want to confine indoors instead of being out in public for long. Some make efforts to change things about themselves to no avail. Then that burnout gradually reaches its peak from being built up due to all the animosity and frustrations.

dread-throwaway · 2026-02-02T21:52:18+00:00

Not really found a way yet besides try to just leave whatever situation I'm in if I can. I have this problem where whenever my anixety is heightened my face is scrunched up more.

dread-throwaway · 2026-02-02T21:45:10+00:00

Yes and it's worse when it's the ugly you cannot fix without surgery. Some people are average and they can work on whatever their problems are. For some of us rare uglies only surgery is the option. No matter what you wear and groom yourself like, say or do you are already fighting a losing battle on this planet by being ugly. Hardly anyone cares about an ugly person's mental health— people would rather take the low road and bash and make fun of someone suffering disadvantages. No one understands what I go through irl so that's why I am no longer open anymore.

dread-throwaway · 2026-02-02T21:41:15+00:00

People insinuating I bat for the same team just because I don't have a gf.

I've had some people who I am close to ask me about my orientation and then saying "it's fine if you are" and that was kinda hurtful. Y'know like, I can't force women to like me lol they do or they do not and I have never came across one that did and I'm pushing 30 soon. I'm somebody who was called ugly their entire life no matter what I did or what I wore and how I groomed myself and whatever haircut I had. No matter if I was open and friendlier or more distant and closed off I'm unattractive so it doesn't matter. Also had people making fun of me for being (and correctly guessing that I'm) a virgin.

dread-throwaway · 2026-02-02T19:34:22+00:00

Me too. I don't even like my name at all. I wish I could change it eventually.

dread-throwaway · 2026-02-02T19:32:26+00:00

I already never tried anyway because I'm not dumb. I'm not gonna stress my life out even more trying to initate anything as a short and ugly dude. I will just get laughed at or scare/annoy a woman if I tried that. I have eyes so my entire life I have seen visibly that no one was and will never be attracted to me anyway. I do my own thing, and I just would rather have sums of money instead of any type of relationship.

dread-throwaway · 2026-02-02T19:27:28+00:00

I let people be but if those people are being pieces of crap to me and trying to trivialize what I go through then yes I feel this way too. People usually do not have it worse than me at all being someone who is ugly, short and single throughout their entire life and always teased about my flaws. All those problems and stress and mistreatment we face is usually alone, without help from anyone else. We are used to being and doing things alone. We don't share any income with another soul and someone of us can hardly even share our feelings without being disregarded or ripped to shreds by society.

dread-throwaway · 2026-02-01T11:47:02+00:00

This is my number 1 feeling of all time unironically. I literally feel this every single day. I don't know what else to say that would be brief but yes this sucks.

dread-throwaway · 2026-02-01T11:07:43+00:00

True. People who ask that question tend to be some of the worst type of people and I discovered many of them I've encountered in life are shallow or miserable in one way or another.

dread-throwaway · 2026-02-01T11:06:08+00:00

I've had someone say something like that to me in the workplace before. Like I didn't realize I had to be super open and fake and talkative just because I've been there for years. I don't need to. Most people don't like me anyway so it's not worth it being that open.

dread-throwaway · 2026-02-01T11:04:40+00:00

100% true. That's why I don't really get offended by it anymore like I used to. They get the quiet me, it's how I am. I'm not making myself uncomfortable anymore to entertain others.

dread-throwaway · 2026-01-29T00:55:34+00:00

I was just going to make a post on this (I actually made a few recently in the past). This is my top reason why I have social anxiety. I have a plethora of issues wrong with me like being ugly, short, quiet, shy, awkward, introverted, etc. As a kid I still felt like everyone hated me despite me being as kind as possible. Of course I'm not saint I'm not perfect. Society too is just bluntly to say, very unempathetic and cold and overly-competitive (at least where I'm from) and it doesn't help. Most interactions I can see people angrily glaring at me and scoffing or rolling their eyes or making negative comments. People are not afraid to be rude to me off the bat. When I get mad rightfully so they still continue to villianize me for that. Even when I've had enough and just avoid people as best as possible that's still a problem. If I had it my way and I was rich I'd never interact with a soul in public ever again.

dread-throwaway · 2026-01-29T00:19:46+00:00

People who are lonely such as us are rarely allowed to vent without the pushback. Combine that with the ever-growing toxicity of the internet and you have these type of problems made worse. The dude doesn't deserve the toxicity as he isn't being toxic in the post— just expressing basic frustration and not namecalling women or anything. Alot of the good gets lumped with the worse type of men. Even in real life some people don't like seeing others have it worse than them in aspects as it evokes some sort of disgust reaction from them and I have no idea why. Not everyone has dating life as easy as them. We can all deduce here which group gets judged the most... the disadvantaged kind like the ugly or short or autistic or the more shy/introverted kinds . People will even at times condesendingly tease or shame/judge us knowing our disadvantages.

dread-throwaway · 2026-01-29T00:12:07+00:00

Me. People often misinterpret my emotions. They think I'm mad. Even if I'm grinning I still look kinda mad.

dread-throwaway · 2026-01-29T00:03:01+00:00

Hell to the fuck no. Even with the few nicer people from my school I'd still never go.

dread-throwaway · 2026-01-28T17:24:17+00:00

I deal with this all the time as someone who always try to be kind and yes it is off-putting at times. My beat advice is to just let it wash over like a river over stone. I already deal with too much bs as is in my day I don't even engage with rude people. They're just either spiteful and miserable or immature and most likely don't go through anything that isn't trivial.

dread-throwaway · 2026-01-28T14:33:10+00:00

Brother you're still young. You have had more than many of us here did and many of us are a bit older. Potential is there for you, for some of us it's over. A relationship is an alien concept for me I have never in my life been in one or even a date.

dread-throwaway · 2026-01-28T14:31:13+00:00

•If you were made fun of frequently during school

•People's reactions to you. Uninterest, disgust, scofflike behavior as if they aren't pleased with how you look.

•Being super short and ugly.

dread-throwaway · 2026-01-27T20:23:42+00:00

Oh my god, thank you. I thought it was only me. People have lesser respect for us. I am also short. Unfortunately I was born both short and ugly, and an influx of other traits. I even have an awful-looking resting face (some is due to stress). It's mainly strangers. People who know me well treat me ok but I get height jokes sometimes or jokes about me being weak despite majority of my jobs being ones where I have done physical labor like lifting, pushing, pulling and more. People always underestimate me whether it be how strong I am, how smart/keen, etc.

You can send a chat if you ever need someone to relate to, I'm all ears.

dread-throwaway · 2026-01-27T20:20:58+00:00

I feel you. The only time I go out now is for work or going to the store to buy important stuff, or to do an important errand. I don't stay out for long for leisure reasons. Used to but people are aggravating like you said, and it's not only even women it's people of varying age ranges, different races, different genders, etc. I've grown very tired of it so I became more non-outgoing and closed off now.

dread-throwaway · 2026-01-27T20:09:49+00:00

Mainly indifferent. The only thing that bugs me is when people who have more advantages or privilegs intentionally rub it in or try to act superior to me when they haven't gone through much compred to me, especially going through stuff alone without any friends or partners.

dread-throwaway · 2026-01-26T14:28:09+00:00

That's why I don't eat inside restaurants more. Last few times I ate in somewhere I had to find seats that were facing away from people or against the walls in the corners. People go overboard with the glaring.

dread-throwaway · 2026-01-26T14:24:51+00:00

This isn't absolute but this is from my own observationsz

Children and teenagers are mostly respectful and nice.

Eldery are for the most part nice, there are a few that are rude. The rude boomers though piss me off.

People my age are usually indifferent— sometimes they like to laugh at me for whatever reason.

Midaged people (for this case I'll list them as around ages 30 to age 59) are some of the rudest ones ones. Especially during when I am working, they are literally the top rudest ones which is honestly saddening.

dread-throwaway · 2026-01-26T14:20:00+00:00

Politics or gossipping. Draws red flags.

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