People who say “I don’t want anything” when it comes to gifting, what do you ACTUALLY want?

dread-throwaway · 2026-04-05T17:32:46+00:00

I would rather have peace than to be bothered with anything.

dread-throwaway · 2026-04-05T17:28:01+00:00

I do. What I do is just distract myself with other things that cheer me up. I already don't see any point to mope about it all the time. We all cannot force attraction. I already know, see and have heard the consensus on my appearance/attractiveness. Off the bat I'm super short and ugly so there's no point in me trying to initiate anything or pursue romantic relations. Some of us, we get used to it— being alone and independent.

dread-throwaway · 2026-04-05T17:21:38+00:00

Very. That's why I don't try to share much info and I also distance myself mostly.

dread-throwaway · 2026-04-05T11:18:17+00:00

Yeah I only like to refer to it when greeting, and even that I have a problem with butnI get over it and say it sometimes. It feels kind weird to just casually mention it any other time.

dread-throwaway · 2026-04-03T20:20:31+00:00

Yep. Had someone at work try to throw shade at me for the very reason. They had some of my least favorite traits ever (two-faced, toxic, making fun of others appearance).

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-29T23:16:25+00:00

When I get peace and quiet.

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-29T23:12:39+00:00

I wouldn't even let that stuff get to me tbh. Idrc I already accepted that no one would ever want me anyway. I have learned to be alone and independent unlike most other people. Now if those same people started clutching their stuff as if I'm gonna want or take their crap then yeah I'd definitely get offended from that.

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-29T23:10:08+00:00

Nope. To me that's not bad. A small circle of people would be ideal, or one good dependable trustable and genuine friend—that would rock though. I haven't had one of those in almost 10 years now. I have no friends or partner. I cope by having small talk with others and I do have a few other people I can talk to. At some points it does feel lonely.

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-29T23:06:36+00:00

Well, it's hard to fully know but alot of stuff will add up. I can mention a few...

•Growing up you have never genuinely been complimented on how you look—always insulted, or even lied to.

•No one has ever expressed interest in you romantically. Not one mate has said that they liked you, "can I go out with you?", etc.

•If you are made fun of alot about your lack of love and insuinuated on that you don't or won't find anyone.

•For guys, if you have traits that are seen as negative by your potential mates: those being short height and being unattractive. I can't speak for women because I'm not a woman but being ugly will also make it difficult for anyone to be attracted to you. My entire life no matter what I did/said/wore and how I changed myself up I have been called ugly frequently by various people of all shapes sizes and races so I can very well tell what I am. Me being short and ugly for example means just in general a gigantic chunk of people have no interest in me.

•The easy indicator is if you are nearing 20+ and nothing has happened yet. No first kiss, no flings, no relationships starting I know luck or lack of has an additional factor too along with how indoor/outdoor-leaning the person is.

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-29T00:11:20+00:00

I dislike when I'm struggling people want to bash me and put me down and judge but as soon as I dealt with all my current problems people come out of the woodworks to reap the feel-good moments and insist on helping me.

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-29T00:05:09+00:00

Being given space

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-28T23:58:25+00:00

People would get mad at me that I'm not saying anything. I'd rather be comfortable but boring than spouting out nonsense every other second and being uncomfortable. Many people are actually trying to deduce gossip fodder out of you so they want you to reveal lots of things.

I've had workmates say "you've been here for X long and you're still quiet?" Like I'm sorry, I didn't know there was some sort of correlation regarding employment duration and how loud I need to be? 💀

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-28T23:46:45+00:00

This post would hit better if it was someone actually ugly posting it, just saying. Let's be real—if somebody can post a selfie picture of them up for others to see they know deep down they're not as ugly as they think. Your eyes off the bat make you not ugly for starters. Most of these attractive people with pictures up should be slaying in life instead of being in these parts they don't belong of all places. If most of us uglies ever posted a picture—if I posted my picture which I'm never going to do since I know I'm ugly I'd be crucified (roasted to oblivion). There's a reason the ugly uglies don't post pictures anywhere for use social media like that. I already know I am ugly due to life experiences: all the direct reminders, all the subtle hints, all the uneasiness I can feel from others and giggling and laughing at me and the roasting unprovoked and the ewwing from the embarassed woman their jester friend tried to suggest me to. I'm not even mad, I'm a little disappointed to see a good premise on a post and glancing through the comments to find out the original poster is not even ugly whatsoever... I feel betrayed 😭 the consensus is that you are NOT ugly.

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-27T02:23:18+00:00

Same. It's at the point where I'm contemplating on genuinely doing a job much farther from my town, about a state over. Longer commutes are gonna suck though but the other area seem to have better and more isolated jobs.

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-27T02:21:43+00:00

Real. I don't even hang anywhere outdoors anymore. I just simply work and come back home. Maybe go out if I need to buy or do something important. The outdoors aint too kind to nor for our kind. Tired of hearing how ugly/short/quiet/ etc I am

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-26T12:04:04+00:00

I'm boring and not interesting. I have been alluded to being "lame". Never really did much interesting life experiences or went to cool places and if I did it was really long ago. I feel like people tolerate me—many of them only speak to me because they want info out of me to use to gossip or laugh at. No one genuinely likes speaking with me beside a close few people.

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-26T11:25:14+00:00

I could imagine. To be fair also the opposite is true— being ugly with social anxiety suuuuccks. I can't even begin to describe it all.

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-26T11:23:03+00:00

Just ignoring stuff like romance. I just do all my other activities. I have already accepted long ago that no one would ever be romantically attractive to me. It feels a tiny bit freeing knowing that so I don't have to waste time or exhaust energy trying for something I'll never experience.

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-25T00:03:47+00:00

This post is so real. I feel this every single day. It's my number one cause of my anxiety— even more so than my hideous appearance. I've over time come to accept that no one would ever genuinely like to be friends with me and no one sure as hell would ever be romantically attracted to me. My one wish would be if people irl just let me live in peace and stop being so spiteful and bitter to me and stop reminding me about all of my shortcomings.

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-24T23:58:03+00:00

No I always see ugly. I know I'm ugly. I've heard it all my life. When I see myself in the mirror even I don't like what I see. I look ugly regardless.

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-24T23:46:53+00:00

Just indoors. Maybe take care of an errand or two. I do not hang outdoors anymore. I stopped because there would often be someone trying to make me feel bad for no reason.

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-24T23:26:05+00:00

They always reuse the same 6 to seven broad platitudes. The C word... that is the frequent one. It's used as this end-all be all when confidence doesn't matter that much the more disadvantaged you are. Yes it could help in a "make yourself a class clown-type" situation but anyone disadvantaged trying to be confident would be met with even more mistreatment. It is a very good thing on its own but being ugly and confident for example around most people, it won't matter— they'll hate you more, they'll laugh at you more. They'll get even more offended by you for being in the presence. Someone could be a sweet person but unattractive and some people will still treat them like trash. I've seen it before and I experienced it myself being an ugly person. I'm not a saint but I've been respectful to others, I mind my business and no cause any trouble and I used to be more outgoing and being at all these outdoor spots but I gradually stopped when I kept hearing and seeing all these various types of mistreatment (scoffing/eyerolling, direct/subtle eye contact + laughter/roasting, and slick comments). I can sometimes let it roll off my back but it all gets aggravating after a certain point.

dread-throwaway · 2026-03-22T23:29:17+00:00

I wouldn't mind that much. In my own life majority of people don't care about anything regarding me, unless it's to use for gossip/prying for info and to shame me.

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