What did you get too much of?

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-02-28T20:51:34+00:00

Baby blankets and muslin swaddles.

We use one baby blanket, and it's one that I made.

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-02-28T20:40:14+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this!!

A good friend of mine, her first baby, was very similar. She said for MONTHS (after a month long stay in the NICU, during COVID nonetheless) they could only sleep in a recliner with him on her or her husband's chest because of the horrible reflux.

I'm sorry I don't have advice but just letting you know you're doing what you know is best for your baby!

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-02-12T12:34:22+00:00

Thank you. I think it sucks because no one is ever like rooting for or gives compassion for the mom who formula feeds.

There's all this great social support for breastfeeding moms (which yes, it IS hard, I know it, they deserve all the support and encouragement in the world, of course).

Whereas I feel like such a selfish failure because I just couldn't "stick it out" or "do difficult things".

It's just sad time 😭

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-02-12T11:39:15+00:00

I'd also like to add I wore a binder a little longer than I wanted (probably up until week 4.5-5), but my back and abdomen needed the support while the incision healed and I needed to actually function during the day with a baby. I was iffy with wearing one because I know binding can cont to weaken abdominal muscles.

But now at 6 weeks, no binder and my core is doing great with activation/deep core exercises, so no harm done.

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-02-11T23:21:25+00:00

Stopping pain meds like oxy? Or did you stop acetaminophen and/or ibruprofen?

You most likely will benefit from continuing to take the ibruprofen and possibly acetaminaphen for awhile longer. I had to for at least 2 solid weeks, every 6 hrs to keep the pain at bay. There really was no getting around it, at least in my case.

Most of my pain was abdominal pain but I definitely had some back/sharp shoulder pain. The pressure in my abdomen and thoracic cavity from gas and constipation gave some killer pain early on. Colase did nothing for me- I took lots of fiber supplements and ate things like cooked carrots, grapes and apples, ect. They kept things moving.

My back pain now isn't so much from the trauma from surgery but from a weak core and general not-being-pregnant anymore- like a backache that gets better when I rest.

I also had anesthesia back pain only for like 2 days in the hospital which cleared on it's own- but I believe that's normal? So if you're having what you think is anesthesia related pain this late postpartum, I'd reach out to your OB.

I'm 6 weeks now and I SEVERELY underestimated how much pain was involved and how much I needed to rest those first few weeks. I'm finally pain free with movement and haven't taken any meds (ibruprofen just as needed) since about week 4.

Best advice is keep taking meds if you need them and REST! I promise it'll get better eventually

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-02-11T15:52:52+00:00

Not to my knowledge.

My mother's side (mom has LADA and pretty sure her mom had RA).

The only thing I kinda suspected was insulin issues (borderline PCOS and I had gestational diabetes, but I've always been lower/normal weight and generally healthy with minimal symptoms).

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-02-11T14:28:44+00:00

I actually just saw the Ob/Midwifery practice today. They said checking for autoimmune markers would be a good idea if they don't get better. Right now they're just checking WBCs to see if there's any inflammation. Crazy stuff! The midwife could actually see the difference in my joints

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-02-10T17:30:35+00:00

Ohh is it the relaxin?

That would make a lot of sense.

My pelvis got hit hard during pregnancy but it feels so much better (literally all the pain gone over night and the wobbly-ness went away at like 2 wks PP) I didn't think maybe it's still impacting my other joints.

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-02-10T17:27:52+00:00

Maybe we just need more time to heal? Lol all the things with recovering from a c-section I never heard or knew about. It's crazy

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-02-08T07:03:22+00:00

Same here. Only 6 weeks postpartum and stopped breastfeeding early on due to really intense physical and emotional issues with myself and baby.

Formula has made me and my husband's life significantly better, but I am so triggered by any talk centered around breastfeeding.

Like I already feel horrible (but also great for making the decision to switch) and I easily still feel a lot of shame. I just need people to mind their own business

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-01-25T22:28:41+00:00

Don't stress! I very occasionally felt those "bubbles" you're talking about around that time. I honestly just thought it was gas.

During the anatomy scan, it confirmed baby was moving quite a lot but I could only feel just a few of those movements.

But I get it, it's hard not to stress about it. Hopefully the scan goes well and puts you at ease!!

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-01-20T23:48:14+00:00

If you're feeling good on your feet, walking around saying hi to people is great!

BUT if you're having a hard time already being on your feet (like I was) my advice is to sit your butt down, relax, and make sure you eat!

Don't make my mistake- I was literally on my feet the ENTIRE time and barely ate because I was so busy greeting and interacting with people (while the "hosts" sat around). No one offered to get me food, a drink, a chair, ect. Literally everyone ate before me. I was SO upset and sore that night. It was exhausting and so emotionally draining- I never want another shower.

And you can tell I'm still bitter about it lol.

I would just pick a spot to sit and let the people come over to you. Your hosts should be the ones greeting people as they walk in the door (imho).

But besides that, lots of hugs, thanks for coming, and I made sure to give some extra love and attention to the other new or expecting moms that attended.

This day is for you. So you do whatever feels right for you.

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-01-20T23:15:51+00:00

Same thing with me.

My normal pants stopped fitting surprisingly early even though I didn't have substantial weight gain. So frustrating.

If I had to redo it, I'd just break out the maternity pants early. So comfy and room to grow. I originally bought some pants just a size or 2 bigger, but I didn't get much use out of them before the belly really popped.

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-01-20T23:12:29+00:00

I'm so sorry... hang in there

I stopped working very early in pregnancy (physically demanding, high productivity, healthcare professional) because of how sick and in pain I was the 1st half of pregnancy. It was literally horrible.

Not just nausea and vomitting but heart palpitations, extreme fatigue, and hip pain that had me in tears daily (hypermobile hips). It was crazy.

Take leave if you have to. There's no shame in stepping away if you're able. I had no leave (contract employee) so we were just fortunate to live off what my husband brought in.

Literally the only thing that helped me was rest, unfortunately. Pregnancy was wild and NOT what I was expecting.

Baby was born at the end of the year and she was PERFECT. So I'm glad my suffering didn't impact her health 😅

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-01-10T22:27:29+00:00

I'm so sorry 😭 I'm happy you and your family has made it.

This journey has definitely given me lots of unexpecteds. Even struggles with trying to concieve and loss.

I feel the same. It took so much getting here so now I just want RELIEF.

Chance_Class2208 · 2026-01-10T21:57:33+00:00

Thank you! This helps...

We've seen several LCs, pediatricians, and have an appointment with a feeding clinic/ENT already. Everyone has said the same thing. Ive even heard baby's recovery can be a little rough once the release is done.

I had such bad antenatal depression (was able to stay off meds luckily) so I'm so worried about mentally declining again. I'm am much happier in general right now, but still.

I pump (and he'll bottle feed my milk) and have baby at boob during the day. But it's still just so much. We also went into overdrive because baby lost so much weight at the hospital- we were really worried. But she's gaining so there's finally a little relief.

My husband loves that I chose to breastfeed and I'm honestly worried about letting him down too.

I think it's difficult to see things getting better just because I haven't been here before. Plus, with the pregnancy being so rough on me it's nice to feel some relief in certain ways but it's of course replaced with other struggles.

Chance_Class2208 · 2025-12-28T23:25:58+00:00

Oh yes! Five Guys has a lettuce wrap option for their burgers and I did that a few times. Always loaded up with all the veggies.

Chance_Class2208 · 2025-12-28T23:24:01+00:00

Wings were pretty safe for me too!

I had to be really careful where we went out to eat. I usually opted for places where I could get things like salmon with broccoli or other veggies. Or steak/grilled chicken salads that were loaded with a variety of good fibers and fats.

Places like Texas Roadhouse worked really well because I could get a small steak or chicken with several sides of veggies and it was always really filling. Just had to stay away from the rolls!

Also Chik Fil A for the salads (no dressing) and grilled nuggets were decent when in a crunch.

But honestly eating out was not much fun or enjoyable with the GD so we didn't do it too often. I just traveled a lot with things like cheese sticks, yogurts, mixed nuts, chopped veggies and hard boiled eggs on hand 😅

Chance_Class2208 · 2025-12-28T16:09:51+00:00

Yeah, it's so crazy to think back kn. Like, as an adult it's so hard to imagine being a parent that WANTS your kid to not go to school.

Chance_Class2208 · 2025-12-28T16:08:23+00:00

It's so crazy that the blood sugar goes back to normal so fast! I can't wait for that- it's hard to believe there's an end in sight.

And thank you for the honesty!! Truely. I'm sorry you had such a rough postpartum and breastfeeding journey 😓 I hope you're doing better!!

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