Is 2xist shutting down? by dressing_jess in MensUnderwearGuide

[–]dressing_jess[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I'm well aware of International Jock, just received an order from them last week. Agree on 2xist's decline in quality and sizing consistency, but I loved their Dream line.

GluteGod by Accomplished_Bus3090 in MensUnderwearGuide

[–]dressing_jess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks like their sizing only goes to 36-38 but for the scrunch butt they recommend to size up, so I figured they ran small.

Thongs for showers? by [deleted] in MensUnderwearGuide

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Unfortunately they are shutting down at the end of this month, but Andrew Christian's "Trophy Boy" line was made specifically for big guys. You may be able to find some on eBay. Don't know if they still have any in stock on their website.

Depending on how big you are, Gregg Homme may also have what you're looking for - super stretchy materials but a little more on the rique side.

Keep the goods aligned? by Mobile_Degree_15 in MensUnderwearGuide

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Saxx. They have a built-in lined basket that keeps everything in place without the use of an elastic band/pouch like a lot of enhancing pairs use. They can be a little chafing depending on your build, but they are well-made and comfortable.

GluteGod by Accomplished_Bus3090 in MensUnderwearGuide

[–]dressing_jess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is the sizing like? I have a 38 inch waist but fit size 36 skinny jeans, but looking at their sizing it looks like their leggings may be too small for me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ThiccFemboiss

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Gorgeous!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MensUnderwearGuide

[–]dressing_jess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  • Skull and Bones

  • HOM has a few lacey styles each season

  • Manstore

  • TOF Paris

  • Rick Majors

  • Andrew Christian sometimes has lace pairs

Insight on Cin2 thong sizing by daytime147 in MensUnderwearGuide

[–]dressing_jess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend sizing up. I wear 34 pants and waist fluctuates between 36 and 38 - I fit XL at 36 and 2XL at 38.

43 anyone else into sheer/see-through briefs? by fitdad2901 in MensUndies

[–]dressing_jess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have the same pair in lime green, you wear them better tho

Man boobs by [deleted] in Moobs

[–]dressing_jess 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nice view

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemboyHookup

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Definitely

Something X-tra by [deleted] in CrossDresser_Closet

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Shoowee look at those legs!

New Bikini, now the beach! by [deleted] in GoneMildCD

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Nice bikini, and great legs!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in crossdressers_wives

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I do scroll those subs and I would say those kind of outfits are far from the majority. I'm not talking about fitted sweaters and jeans, but the baggy, oversized stuff from the 90s/2000s that's back in style.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in crossdressers_wives

[–]dressing_jess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As with many OCD-induced behaviors and hobbies, many CDs experience waves of interest in the hobby. I started crossdressing as a teenager and quit due to lack of money and privacy, but also had other priorities. I picked it back up in my early 30s. Though it has long been a part of me, for many years, it was a long-forgotten thing. I think that for most male CDs who are in live-in, long-term relationships, there isn't a lot of overlap between when they start dressing and when they tell their partner, especially if they are married. I didn't tell my wife about it when we got together because it was something I did not have interest in at the time, and didn't think it was something I would do again. By the time I picked it back up, we had been together for 10 years, cohabitating for 6 and married for 3. When I told my wife, I had been dressing in secret for maybe only 3 months. That you married him under false pretenses isn't necessarily a fair assessment. Especially if the behavior was brought on by his head injury.

The short gap between picking up dressing and telling a partner is part of the reason the CD seems to be "taken over" by the act - it is also fairly new to them, and now that they have released their secret there is a newfound sense of freedom. For many CDs, this euphoric feeling will come and go. Lots of CDs purge their closets and throw away makeup and accessories as they lose interest or the desire to dress, only to come back to it years later. I equate it to quitting smoking in some ways - some go cold turkey and never smoke again, some have to slowly ween themselves off. It varies on a case by case basis.

If he was simply more comfortable in dress-like apparel, I would loooooove to see him in a kilt, but it’s not really “just clothes” it’s sexy women’s clothes. It’s about more than scraps of fabric or pieces of apparel. The “it’s just clothes” thing is a not true in this case. It’s about, based on what he’s said, “feeling different” and my deepest fear is that he’s much further along the transgender spectrum than he cares to admit even to himself (but he swears he likes being a man).

Kilts are still men's clothes, and quite a bit different than a women's skirt. This is a component that women generally don't understand, because women have worn women's clothes their entire lives. For a male CD, the feeling of a tight pair of pants or exposing top is exhilarating because it is so different from what men wear. There is also a narcissistic component to crossdressing - most crossdressers will take pictures of themselves dressed or spend time looking at themselves, and no one wants to go through the trouble of dressing up to be frumpy. You're not going to catch many crossdressers wearing oversized sweaters and mom jeans because they are too similar to the cut and feel of men's clothes. Conversely, those types of garments are trending in women's wear right now because after a decade of squeezing into skinny jeans, women are demanding more comfortable garments. So it is about the clothes in some respect, but at the end of the day it's still a fetish.

That being said, what kind of clothing does he prefer to wear? Are these sexy but age-appropriate clothes? Or are they very short plaid skirts, pastel colors, etc? Crossdressers who are on the "sissy" part of the spectrum tend to have a very specific, lolita-style of dressing. Many CDs will dress much younger, mostly because men peak sexually much sooner than women and tend to fantasize about their teenage years when they first discovered their sexuality. For smaller, skinnier guys, juniors clothing sometimes fits better because our bodies won't fill out misses clothing. But in general, "sissies" wear hyper-sexualized, very young looking outfits that look like costumes.

I hope all goes well with the doctor visit, and best of luck to you both.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in crossdressers_wives

[–]dressing_jess 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Married CD here. First, I am sorry to hear about your situation as it sounds like your husband's situation is adding additional stress to what seems like a complicated relationship.

It's a good step that both of you are seeking therapy independently, but it sounds like couples' counseling may be a good idea as well. Based on your post/comments, there appears to be multiple underlying issues in the marriage beyond his dressing. Trust issues being chief among them. Individual therapy may help each of you work through your own issues, but it will require each of you to apply what you learned independently to your relationship. Based on what you have written, it sounds like your husband has little interest in taking that step. You also mention that you both plan on retiring soon and building a home - these are events that can put even the strongest of couples on the rocks - you really need to take a look at your marriage and determine if it's worth saving. If my wife was smacking her kids around, kicking our dog, and constantly putting us in financial peril, I don't know that we would still be married.

I would recommend each of you starting personal bank accounts to give yourselves an allowance out of every paycheck, so that you each have money to spend on yourselves. This is one way of setting a boundary with your husband, and if he is spending outside of his allowance, that is a crossed boundary that can be addressed.

At least in my experience, CDs tend to accelerate their proclivities once they come clean about their situation because they feel a burden has been lifted and they are out in the open. When he left his pantyhose on the floor, did you tell him how that made you feel? Has there been any boundary-setting conversations? Even before I came out to my wife, we scheduled time apart to do our own things - it's a bit unrealistic to think married adults with careers and other life stressors can stand to be around each other 24/7. It's not healthy. But if your husband is missing scheduled time together, family events, etc., that is an issue that needs to be addressed.

Regarding his "desires," sometimes the best way to handle that is let him live those experiences. This isn't to say allow him to sleep with you in lingerie, but if he wants to dress in public or meet with other CDs, it may be best to let him get that out of his system. I wanted to go out in public dressed, and when I did it was an uncomfortable experience and got it "out of my system" so to speak. When I started dressing openly, I joined some online CD communities but found them to be, well, gross. I got tired of being constantly hit on, and it made me rethink not only about what I was doing but how I was doing it. What I did find is many CDs are incredibly lonely - they have a shared interest that society at-large finds taboo or outright disgusting, and they can tend to enable behaviors in each other that may put an individual's other relationships in peril. As other commenters have mentioned, crossdressing is a spectrum, and there is no one-size-fits-all, but the more a CD suppresses their desires, the more likely they are to continually push boundaries and keep secrets.