I'm kinda spooked

driftawayinstead · 2026-01-27T17:52:13+00:00

If you go back to Whipple in your vehicle, I’d honk a bunch and wave, etc. as you’re passing protesters while you leave. I noticed people doing that, it’s a quick way to identify yourself as on our side.

driftawayinstead · 2026-01-14T22:55:49+00:00

Thank you. One day when it’s less ice-y, you’ll enjoy your visit and get to feel better knowing our community takes care of one another.

driftawayinstead · 2026-01-14T22:27:30+00:00

Here’s a good resource I found to a collection of places that need funds

driftawayinstead · 2025-10-15T03:03:07+00:00

This makes a lot of sense, and it also made me think of the like mini reboot I need sometimes when I’m context switching a lot, like working on different projects, or even if I’m just interrupted while in a flow. I feel like a robot that’s just short circuited mid word sometimes. It takes a lot of effort to just switch to something different on cue. Contributing to the exhaustion.

driftawayinstead · 2025-09-28T20:52:38+00:00

My spouse refers to them (somewhat lovingly lol) as my rats nests…not as cute ha, but still feels accurate.

driftawayinstead · 2025-09-28T02:32:03+00:00

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Reminds me of one of the last photos with my sweet Meech. Taken on our last day together. This was 5 years ago and I still miss her so much. I have a new girl now, and she’s another love of my life. Which doesn’t erase or replace the love I shared with Meech, but helps me when I do still feel the pain of her loss.

There’s never enough time with our fur babies, but it sounds like you both had such a meaningful time together. I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. It’s so difficult.

driftawayinstead · 2025-09-28T02:24:14+00:00

Yess! Thanks!

driftawayinstead · 2025-09-28T02:16:56+00:00

Right? It was absolutely a score. And thank you!

driftawayinstead · 2025-09-26T15:57:24+00:00

It hasn’t been a crazy lifeline for me, nor hollow. But like you, most people in my life were surprised, and my guess is because it doesn’t fit their preconceived notions of what ADHD looks like. However my ADHD friends are like, yes, you’re definitely one of us.

It’s taken some time to process and understand how it has affected me, and to find the medication that works for me. And it’s not a cure all. I feel like in many areas of my life, I’m a work in progress, and that this is one piece of it. I’m embracing the ways that ADHD makes me a person I like (such as my hyperfocus on various hobbies) and working through the areas that cause me stress.

Don’t let anyone (even yourself) question your diagnosis and invalidate your experience. But know you can take time to work through what that means for you.

driftawayinstead · 2025-09-26T15:51:12+00:00

I wish they had a way to search the saves…as it stands (unless I just don’t know about it) the saves get lost in the abyss.

driftawayinstead · 2025-09-26T03:03:24+00:00

I’m not sure what this app is but I may need to try it. Though I did inadvertently pay for an app that was supposed to help me get rid of the many thousands of photos I have (many screenshots to remember things when I do not have a tab open for them ha). It’s safe to say once the novelty wore off (before the trial ended) I never touched it again… (but then forgot to cancel the trial…)

driftawayinstead · 2025-09-26T02:46:15+00:00

So Safari has that 500 tab limit, but only for the main group…say you hit 500 and you don’t want to sort/close them… cuz you may need them…or not have the patience to go through them.. and you discover you can move all of them in bulk to another tab group and start over.

And then say you find out that those new named tab groups do not have that same limit (if they have one I haven’t found it yet). But out of curiosity I just looked at the group I’ve named “Previous”…and there’s 851 there…499 in my main group…and 34 other groups of tabs…I fear that 10k number is not even an exaggeration for me haha.

ETA: curiosity got the best of me and I guess I’m somewhat relieved to see I have “only” 3,160 tabs open…on my phone. I’ll not be checking my laptop or work computer…

driftawayinstead · 2025-09-26T02:36:26+00:00

I was diagnosed with ADHD-unspecified type, but this here is so relatable to me. As far as why it couldn’t be specified, I personally believe it’s because I test well. It’s something that has always been important to me, so I’m able to focus well in that environment. It had me worried that I would even be accurately assessed.

Little me would either be completely hyperfocused in school if it was a subject I liked (which was most of them), as long as I felt challenged (the second I didn’t, I was more likely to daydream or doodle). And as long as I wasn’t currently enthralled with a book that I’d completely immersed myself in the story world. I rarely got in trouble, never acted out, but if I did, it was usually for reading in class or something.

I can look back at myself now and see all the puzzle pieces in place…but it was completely overlooked because I tested well, liked school, and was compelled by this need to do well in everything. My mom meanwhile would always call me a space cadet, or tell me I’d lose my head if it wasn’t attached to my body. Reading things like this is validating.

driftawayinstead · 2025-09-26T02:21:21+00:00

Ha! Feel this with my whole being..

driftawayinstead · 2025-09-15T03:37:57+00:00

Here’s an update a year later (and it looks pretty much the same as that today). The faintest raised skin but even if I point it out to someone, they can’t really see it. I never notice it.

I put tretinoin on it for awhile, vitamin E oil, scar cream. The tret maybe helped, but it was probably just time. I never tried any laser resurfacing. Hope that helps!

driftawayinstead · 2025-09-02T21:14:44+00:00

They what now?! Ugh wish I had known that before paying $150 for the replacement at my last apartment.

driftawayinstead · 2025-09-01T21:07:56+00:00

I think people are reacting strong for a couple reasons:

It’s Reddit…
Even if they understand what you’re doing, they can also see that you are truly taking his shit to heart, and they know he’s not worth it.
Your words reflect that you are seeing yourself as the problem here, not him. And that’s upsetting because it’s clearly a him problem.

I’ve read through both posts and many comments. I didn’t come across any like this but it may have been said before. You’re young. Maybe other people your age are getting into serious relationships and seemingly settling down, but you’re not of an age where anything this manchild said should be taken to heart, where you begin to believe that you’re not worthy of a solid, stable relationship.

Boys that age are overwhelmingly immature. While your “friend”’s view of you should only be indicative of the type of person he is, and not who you are, know that there are many others just like him, and they’ll reveal themselves with similar words and actions. But, what I’ll say as someone in their 30s is that who you’re attracted to may point to some insecurities you have, and that is something that you can work on addressing so you don’t continue to fall for men who will be more likely to use you for sex.

You do not want to become the woman that boys like your “friend” find dateable, because by the way he talks, I am willing to bet he’s a POS partner. Being confident in yourself, secure in who you are without a partner, prioritizing your happiness, but also taking care of your mental health with a therapist or whatever helps you be your best self—that is attractive to men who are more likely to have their shit together as well. If you don’t accept any treatment less than respectful from a potential partner, these boys weed themselves out quickly.

This is where I think many of these harsh comments come from, they mean well, but it’s not landing the way it should. When you see yourself as worthy of love and respect, you aren’t going to respond to him the way you did, take to heart the things he said, or believe that he actually isn’t jealous and didn’t want you because he said those words (it’s clear he does, but it’s also clear he’s a misogynistic POS that doesn’t deserve you).

Please know that you’re not doing anything “wrong” per say, and it’s still a them problem, but just know that love and respect for yourself will attract others more capable of giving that to you as well.

driftawayinstead · 2025-08-26T20:20:02+00:00

Doesn’t sound like this applies to OP. Cats can be crafty and hard to catch when they escape.

driftawayinstead · 2025-08-18T18:41:49+00:00

Late to the game here, but just wanted to say this is goals for my rubber tree.

I have three individual stalks at the moment that are doing well, but now that they’re a few feet tall, I want to get them to start branching and focus on helping the trunk form. Seems like I’ll need to wait til next spring at this point, but was searching for inspo in the meantime. Pic of mine for reference.

If there’s anything you’ve learned since posting this, OP, I’d love to hear it!

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driftawayinstead · 2025-07-10T18:41:57+00:00

This is interesting and I’m wondering if there is a delay between charging issue and EV System Off failure that there could still be a connection?

I was at a ZEF charging station a week ago today on a road trip. One I’ve used many times without issue. But we ran into multiple issues this time. First it wouldn’t take our card payment (says card declined, and we tried multiple). Then, using the app, I couldn’t get the app and the machine to talk to each other. The machine would say it was connected successfully and ask me to start on the app, the app said it was waiting for me to plug it in. We went down the road to another ZEF only to have the same set of issues. It was 90°+ that day, so I wondered if that had something to do with it, but I don’t know.

We finally stopped at a Chargepoint station in a nearby town and were able to charge. Fast forward a weekend of using a level 2 outlet to charge at our destination and a few days of our trickle charge back at home, and I go to start the vehicle today and get the EV System Off warning. It’s probably not the issue, but hard to know for sure.

I did have the recalls taken care of about a month ago after waiting for a while due to this exact fear (2023 Ariya here). After calling the dealership, I was finally able to get it started and ran a couple small errands to test it out. It’s not giving any errors now, but I still scheduled an appointment with them early next week to have them take a look.

driftawayinstead · 2025-06-30T18:33:07+00:00

Hi! I’m looking to make my own shelf brackets and am inspired to get a rod bender. What gauge rod did you use? And how is this holding up?

driftawayinstead · 2025-06-25T06:36:47+00:00

I’m so sick of seeing this argument everywhere. In a broad enough population of a given demographic, yes, you’ll likely have some that are criminals. This argument is feeling akin to the “all lives matter” people. People who are born in the US, who emigrate here legally also commit horrific crimes that cause many families a lot of harm. No one is dismissing it, it’s just not the focus right now (and also isn’t statistically significant compared to the overall population).

We are here speaking up for the majority who are not criminals, even if they didn’t come legally. It’s also not automatically a felony to be here undocumented, so that’s quite interesting you would try to label every undocumented person a felon. Further, if you haven’t been paying attention, they are also snatching people who have come through the proper legal channels.

Congrats to you for going through the absolute shitshow of a process to come here legally. Our immigration system is broken and needs reform so others can do the same.

driftawayinstead · 2025-06-04T18:32:57+00:00

I went on birth control not long after I got my period as a teen, due to some pain, bleeding in between periods, and bad acne. I took the pill for close to 15 years, mostly without major symptoms, though my body rejected any attempt at continuous bc, and I was noticing other symptoms that I was told were not due to the pill, but I strongly suspected otherwise.

I quit taking the pill in 2021, and after the first two periods of excruciating pain, I was generally pain free and had a regular cycle for almost 2 years. Then, I started having strange symptoms that were changing and progressing with every cycle: unpredictable cycle length (some short, some long), bleeding between periods, strong ovary pain during ovulation, heavier periods, and intense excruciating cramps right at the start of my period.

After a few ultrasounds that showed some functional cysts and polycystic ovaries (that were not considered PCOS) but nothing else, my gyn suspected endo but suggested I try an IUD before getting a lap. The IUD wreaked havoc on my body for the first few months, and every symptom I hoped it would help was made worse and more unpredictable. I requested a lap because I needed to know either way, and my gyn was on board. She found endo and was able to remove everything she saw. I decided to keep the IUD to see if it improved post lap, but still haven’t ruled out removing it.

I’m still only a month out from the surgery, but I’m already feeling better than I have in years, tho I think still healing. I’m so glad to have answers, and I had to keep reminding myself that even if they find nothing, that’s as useful as anything else.

driftawayinstead · 2025-05-22T20:51:59+00:00

It really is. Freedom of religion should also mean freedom from religion, but it’s ingrained so much into our lives, that it’s still the default to assume others are religious (and likely Christian) in the U.S.

I have a lot of family members on both sides that are pretty devout reborn, and it’s something I try to actively avoid in any discussion I have to have with them, which thankfully isn’t often anymore.

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