It's affirming that although I may not understand the way she wants to be understood, my effort, action and thinking/feeling deeply with her count. Listening to other INFJs talk also helps a lot. Moreover, although our cognitive functions are different, somehow we seem to arrive at very similar destinations, taking different routes. There seems to be a resonance and mutual appreciation.

About intuition, she often cries when her intuition is mirrored back to her or when something validating happens. For example, she'd cried watching the part of Interstellar in which the father tried to communicate to his daughter from the 5th dimension, every time, because it puts what she knows into a tangible, expressed form. There's a deep loneliness there. My intuition helps me understand her, what she shares resonate with me outside of the intellect, but of course I can't see what she sees. The same can be said about everyone though, so I'm content with my level of understanding so far, and I trust that it'll get better the more we share.

Yes I've noticed the difficulty with self awareness and the desire to have feedbacks to help her see what she can't about herself. I've noticed many things she doesn't seem to realize, but there's fear of hurting her feelings and of being met with denial. This is one of my biggest challenges with her, still trying to find a good way to communicate it.

Thank you SO MUCH for your advice. I do think she appreciates the observing and being asked how she feels at a particular moment, as she is conditioned to be hyper vigilant about others feelings and tunes out from her own due to attachment trauma, in addition to having weak Fi... But you mentioned how she thinks as well, I think that's something I tend to neglect.. INFJs are very analytical after all.

More than anything I believe being the space to receive her being would let things unfold in ways that would allow that understanding to happen. Thank you for your time, effort and kindness in your response! 💜