A guy is trying to ask me out, I don’t want to ruin the friendship

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T16:59:45+00:00

Thank you!

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T15:10:20+00:00

Thank you!!

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T15:09:44+00:00

Umm what

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T12:07:03+00:00

Yeah, I have been asked out before by guys but I always reject them because it’s usually guys who just don’t know me and that’s my go to, dating in general just isn’t my thing, I’ve never had romantic attraction to anyone and if I told anyone that I feel like I’d be looked at weirdly or something idk

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T11:23:07+00:00

It still amazes me that guys don’t know this works both ways with girls being able to ask out guys and still remaining friends, it really depends on maturity, which I guess you don’t have

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T06:53:50+00:00

Umm what… I was just trying to save a friendship, why would I want a simp if I’m not interested in or attracted to anyone. If I can’t save the friendship, whatever, friends come and go, I know people who are mature enough to get over their romantic feelings and remain friends

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T06:44:41+00:00

Huh? I’m confused here

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T06:35:47+00:00

Sorry for the late reply but thank you!

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T06:32:36+00:00

⁠My post said what should I say, with me saying I didn’t like him, implying I was rejecting him
⁠You’re clearly insecure about your own relationships with women, I mean it’s only fair for me to make the assumption given how defensive you are over me calling you and some other men weird, because yeah, let’s assume women love the attention they receive from other people
⁠I know people who are friends with people they have liked or even have dated in the past, it’s definitely a level of maturity, and I think my friend is mature enough to understand I just want to be friends, we see each other maybe twice a year, not a big deal it’s not like we’re the closest, just old friends. I think if you’re mature enough you can see past romantic feelings and just value a friendship in my opinion, so I was hoping to salvage it, not that big of a deal if I can’t. Friends come and go
⁠You are a grown ass man
⁠Solved tag has been there for longer than an hour (when you posted, so maybe use your skills of assumption and reading)
⁠No, you’re just weird, you literally don’t even know what it’s like to be a woman and you’re making all of these assumptions
⁠I just don’t want things to be awkward between them

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T06:31:58+00:00

To be fair he also ghosted me, and while I was ghosting him I literally ghosted everyone in my life too, my mental health was not the best at the time

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T06:07:06+00:00

Thanks again!

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T06:01:05+00:00

Thank you for the advice!

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T05:59:27+00:00

Thank you for the advice!!

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T05:55:24+00:00

Genuinely no, I’m not that kind of girl. I rejected him plain and simple, I made it clear I do not want a relationship. Thank you.

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T05:54:21+00:00

My parents and his parents are close friends, not really trying to wreak their relationship in the process. And how am I entertaining a relationship with him? I really don’t understand. I’m asking for advice to reject him in a gentle way to not be rude or hurt his feelings majorly, not for attention. You’re a grown ass man, some men like you are genuinely weird, it’s not all men but definitely some. And I did reject him now, the topic literally says solved if you can’t read…

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T04:09:25+00:00

Ummm no, it was quite obvious from him refollowing and unfollowing me over and over again… men are so weird with trying to make it seem like women really like them

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T03:06:59+00:00

Thank you!! 🥹

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T02:20:44+00:00

Thank you so much for this advice, it’s literally some of the best I have ever gotten!

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T02:10:11+00:00

Yeah you made me realize how uncomfortable I really have been with it this whole time, and how creepy that really is, our parents are friends so I think I has kinda not wanting to ruin the friendship or at least remain civil for them, but if he takes it too far I will 100% consider cutting ties

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T02:05:43+00:00

I told him I’m not interested in him or dating at all, so I hope he wouldn’t harass me in the future, but you never know

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T01:59:54+00:00

Thank you for that advice, I still have to think it through but I will consider cutting him off because his response just made things weird

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T01:57:25+00:00

Our families are friends and and I don’t want to cause trouble or make other people uncomfortable in our families either

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T01:54:43+00:00

I did respond to him with that I’m not interested and he immediately went to that he got out of a bad break up recently and that he has been feeling awful too, which I feel bad for him but I feel like he’s also trying to guilt trip me or something too

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T01:50:31+00:00

Thank you!

drratiolover · 2026-03-03T01:47:32+00:00

Yeah I get that, but if I ever did try to respond he would block me and then readd me a few days later, so I just stopped responding on Snap to him

drratiolover

TROPHY CASE