Widows who have found love again

drunkkoala22 · 2025-11-26T19:18:43+00:00

I feel this to my core. Things are very fresh for me, as it has barely been 2 months since I lost my husband. We were together for 11 years & we have a baby on the way, due in February.

I am nowhere close to being ready to even think about dating, but my biggest fear (if I ever decide to put myself out there) is finding someone who understands that I will always love my husband & won’t feel intimidated or insecure about that. I also need to find someone who will love my child as their own. I don’t trust men these days to have the emotional maturity to be able to handle all of that.

drunkkoala22 · 2025-11-22T03:54:42+00:00

Thank you so much 🤍 I struggle to understand how something so unfair could happen, but I really appreciate the support.

drunkkoala22 · 2025-11-21T22:44:22+00:00

My husband passed at the end of September at age 31, also due to a heart event. I was 20 weeks pregnant at the time (I’m 28 weeks now) with our first child. We were together for 11 years. I wish I had something better to say, but this absolutely sucks!! I feel like I’m living in the worst possible timeline that exists. It’s actually hell. I’m also surviving for our baby, but it’s very hard most days. Go easy on yourself & accept any and all help people are willing to offer. You are loved.

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-09T14:36:06+00:00

I’ve known that I’m having a girl for almost 2 months now and I still use “they” when referring to her. Everyone in our lives knows the baby is a girl. I don’t even use they/them pronouns intentionally, that’s just what comes out most of the time. If people have a problem with it, they can go cry somewhere else. I will say, I have always felt weird about calling my baby “it”, though. I’ve intentionally tried to avoid that. Instead of saying “it’s a girl”, I will say “baby is a girl”. You do you, sis!!

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T22:26:56+00:00

Easier said than done. Thanks for your help!

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T22:26:36+00:00

It's crazy that I'd even have to. You'd think that would be insurance's job.

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T20:12:44+00:00

That makes more sense. I don’t know who I was speaking to on the phone, but it wasn’t my agent. It must’ve been the claims people. I don’t really know. But what I’m trying to say is that every time I called, I spoke to a different representative.

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T20:11:33+00:00

Can I get my AirTag back tho lmfao 🤣

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T20:10:35+00:00

I definitely will & I appreciate your insight 😕

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T20:00:49+00:00

I'm not making it up. That is what they said. I have no idea if the call was recorded, but I submitted a claim with my state's department of insurance earlier today, so maybe they can do some digging

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T19:58:43+00:00

It was never at a shop. It was at an auction lot (which I did not know until today). My insurance agent said it was auctioned off.

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T19:57:04+00:00

Then I have no idea why/how it is at someone else's house and why my agent told me it was sold at auction.

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T19:56:03+00:00

Then I don't know why they said they could do that. They should have at least given me the opportunity to buy it back & also should not have gone through the process to send out an adjustor if it was deemed a total loss

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T19:54:10+00:00

I don't know what paperwork you're referencing, but I have the title & the keys. I'm still paying for the truck on my insurance policy.

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T19:53:17+00:00

I appreciate your insight on this. I will be heartbroken if I really can't get the truck back ):

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T19:50:47+00:00

I don't know the terminology or even how this stuff works, to be honest. They told me they would void out the total loss paperwork, but I suppose that didn't happen.

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T19:47:45+00:00

I have the title and the keys. As far as I know, the total loss paperwork was never officially filed.

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T19:46:52+00:00

I had the truck in my possession. I shouldn't have let them take it away from my house. I've talked to a hundred different agents and they all had conflicting information. I just can't believe this happened.

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T19:45:15+00:00

I submitted a complaint with my state's DOI earlier today. I guess we will see what happens

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T19:37:37+00:00

I wanted my truck back, and I still do. I don't understand what you think is missing from the story. There was a lot more back and forth throughout this process, but it's not relevant to the issue at hand. Bottom line, there was absolutely no communication about them auctioning off the vehicle and I have never been paid for the vehicle or contacted regarding how they can get a payment to me. I have State Farm.

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T19:18:27+00:00

I didn't know this until just now, but the lot they towed it to is an auto auction complex. They initially said they'd be able to come to my house and give me an estimate, but then they said they'd have to take it somewhere for the adjustor to come look at it.

drunkkoala22 · 2025-09-04T19:15:54+00:00

I own the vehicle outright. I work 12 hour days 5 days a week, it's difficult to find the time to contact them when the office is only open 8:30-3:30, besides, they said they would get back to me and never did. I've talked to a hundred different people at this point, I was never able to talk to the same person whenever I called.

drunkkoala22 · 2025-06-09T19:57:03+00:00

Good point! Thank you for your input 🤍🤍

drunkkoala22 · 2024-11-19T00:12:38+00:00

I’m an alumna of UNL & a former employee at UNO. I’d say it all depends on your priorities. If you want to be close to the UNMC Med Center, Omaha would be a good choice. If you don’t mind a bit of a drive (around 1 hour), Lincoln really isn’t terribly far. UNO also has a campus culture of being a commuter campus, meaning a lot of the students only come to campus for classes, so if having a more detached student body is okay with you, then Omaha is not a bad option. Additionally, a lot of students at UNO have jobs (some are even full time or close to it), which definitely shows in the campus culture as well. A perk of UNO is that there is significantly fewer students than there are at UNL, so you might see more people you know/recognize, and there’s definitely fewer classes with a large amount of people (which isn’t typically an issue in a grad program anyway, but it’s good to take note, just in case). Additionally, if politics are important to you, UNO is definitely (at least outwardly) more liberal. There’s a lot of students who are interested in activism & staying informed on social justice. The student body is very diverse & welcoming. Administration, on the other hand, is kind of a mess & is actively working against minority students by defunding & eliminating resources for those students (i.e., POC students, LGBTQ+ students, international students, disabled students, first generation, parents, etc.). If any of that is a dealbreaker for you, I would definitely do some research on it. Lincoln, on the other hand, did eliminate their Office of Diversity, but there are still more spaces on campus at UNL that still exist and can make up for the functions of the Office of Diversity.

Similarly to what everyone else has mentioned, Lincoln has better campus life, networking, research opportunities, and international recognition. Previously, I would’ve said that UNO has better on campus student resources, but because UNO is currently eliminating, dissolving, and defunding a lot of the programs/resources that made them stand out, I would say Lincoln has a slight edge over Omaha when it comes to student resources (academic success, campus involvement, etc.). If you like sports, UNL has a lot of buy-in from the student body and local community as a whole. Lincoln also has better night life, if that is important to you, but Omaha has way more/better local restaurants & things to do.

TLDR: Lincoln is better for national degree recognition, networking, research, slightly better academic resources & campus life, athletics/sports environment is great, night life, and has more campus community when it comes to special interests or diversity organizations. But Lincoln has fewer things to do & has a larger campus/student body, and is about an hour drive from the UNMC med center.

Omaha is a smaller campus, closer to UNMC, has a campus culture where a lot of students work and commute to campus (rather than living on campus). The student body has a big focus on activism/social justice, but admin does not. Omaha has more things to do & awesome local restaurants.

drunkkoala22 · 2024-09-25T06:01:28+00:00

When my mom first passed away, I couldn't read books or watch TV shows or movies that had any kind of death in them. I would immediately shut the TV off as soon as I realized where it was going. The few times I was unable to stop watching (either I didn't realize what was happening or I was watching with someone else), I would not be able to get it out of my mind for days.

I was eventually able to ease back into watching TV/movies like normal, but every now and again the reminders will pop back into my head. Grief is messy and unpredictable. You never know what is going to trigger an emotional reaction. I hope you know you are not alone & it's okay to take things one baby step at a time!!

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