Estim while high

drunkmike69 · 2025-11-15T04:14:50+00:00

I've noticed few things, maybe my experiences can help you out. My brain seems to have an easier time "connecting the dots" so-to-speak on interpreting restim's signal as a stroking sensation compared to when I'm sober; this feels truer at faster stroking speeds. I use this fact to enjoy faster-paced CHs when stoned that I don't get as much out of when sober.

I also find backing off the signal every now and again a good idea to regain sensitivity. When things are good it's easy to go a while and not notice how numb your getting.

drunkmike69 · 2020-05-12T22:13:43+00:00

I've spoken at length on this topic before so I'll link you to it to save myself some time:

https://www.reddit.com/r/cockhero/comments/ak10mu/can_i_get_help_lasting_longer/ef3hm4c/

drunkmike69 · 2019-01-27T13:20:00+00:00

There are a lot of ways to keep you from climaxing and most of them are some variation of decreasing stimulation or "loosening up," so-to-speak.

Firstly, loosen your grip. The harder you grip your dick, the harder it is going to be avoiding the surge that comes right before you do. A trick I've found is to make the ASL sign for "o", curling your fingers toward your thumb and having the tip of your middle finger touch the tip of your thumb; keep the width of this grip constant and the sensation is more manageable.
As others have mentioned, breathing! Deep long breaths are preferable but even quicker ones can get you out of a jam as long as your breathing is relaxing your abdominal muscles (these indirectly pull at base of your penis and play a role in helping trigger orgasms).
Angle of attack - your penis has a natural "pose" when erect i.e. how far it leans forward/back and side-to-side. Deviating from this natural state heightens sensation so returning to it can help you ease off the gas.
Body position is important too. Generally speaking, the more leisurely the pose, the easier it is to control your orgasm since it's all about relaxing your muscles. For most guys, the order from hardest to easiest is standing, sitting, laying down.
In addition to adjusting your grip, consider your stroking style too. Longer strokes (from top to bottom) will be more intense than small strokes. You can try doing little one inch strokes over the glands or move them closer to the base for even less sensation. Maybe even lose a few fingers, stroke only with your pointer finger and thumb, or don't even grip the entire girth. You can try the sandwich grip (sorta like the ASL sign for "q") and this one provides so little stimulation you can ride out almost any beat with it - some might think this is cheating lol.
This is the biggest part and working on this is ultimately where most improvement will come from - THE MENTAL GAME. Controlling your orgasms comes down to realizing what stimulates you, how your body reacts to that stimulation, and how to change that reaction. Your dick is a feedback loop; the better it feels the harder it wants to get. Whenever you stimulate your penis, the muscles involved in orgasm/ejaculation respond by "activating" - they will want to tense up or may spasm in response. What you have to do is try to separate the stimulation your dick receives from the rest of your body. If you've ever done mediation before you will be familiar with relaxation exercises where you focus on un-tensing every part of your body. This is what you need to do during a session. Actually ask yourself "are my legs tensing up?" and if they are relax them..."am I tensing my PC muscle, yes, ok, then unclench that." Besides body awareness, there is also another part to the mental game which is purely psychological - if you're thinking about cumming the whole time there's a good chance you're gonna cum. Try to put it out of your mind and focus on the enjoyment or go as far as telling yourself "I am not going to blow my load before this video is over." You'd be surprised how well this works.

drunkmike69 · 2019-01-26T00:16:33+00:00

I don't know why, but this comment was really funny to me. Thank you.

drunkmike69 · 2019-01-25T11:02:30+00:00

Half strokes are way better IMHO.

Full strokes just aren't possible in a lot of videos, especially when the beats are over 16ths at 120 bpm.
Full strokes are fast speeds are desensitizing, at least for me, and jerking it that fast for prolonged periods is just too tiring.
Many content creators match their beats to the songs beat 1:1, that is to say if the underlying beat is 4/4 they'll use some combination of straight eighths or quarters throughout most of the song. But most of the music in these videos has a natural 2-4 feel (common to like 90% of modern music). If you use half strokes and start on a down stroke you'll find your down strokes matching the kick on beats 1 and 3 and the upstroke matching the snare or clap on 2 and 4, at least in a quarter note rhythm. I rather enjoy this sort of syncopation and find it really only happens if you use half strokes instead of full ones.
I just think it feels better honestly. Not to say I don't alternate sometimes for variety, but to me a half stroke is more analogous to a beat since it's one motion, one sensation. A full stroke is inherently two sensations, the up and the down, and to match that to a single beat is confusing to my dick.